So, I'm in this relationship right now with someone who's crazy in love with me--she hasn't said so yet, but I can tell. But I'm not that into her. But I really like knowing that someone's crazy about me, and who knows, maybe I'll be able to reciprocate her feelings eventually.
Which brings me to the chicken joke at the end of Annie Hall. Is it OK to stay with someone just for the eggs?
Is it that you are not into her at all, meaning you don't appreciate who she is as a person, she annoys you, you don't enjoy her company - or do you think objectively she is a decent, admirable person and it's just that you are not an overly romantic person or sexually interested person?
Have you ever been in love before in the way you think you are 'supposed' to feel it?
Different people experience love in different ways... and it is very possible for love to grow if you have a deep admiration and appreciation for someone who loves you - so if you are not a die hard romantic with a strong sexual attraction than you may never 'fall in love' and as long as you can reach some kind of aimiable agreement as to the kind of love expression she needs from you. (affection etc.) it could be a very happy and loving arrangement.
But to answer your question - no, you shouldn't just say with someont just 'to have' someone (if that's what the eggs thing means) because if she is not a good person that you admire then you would be silly to commit yourself to even trying to meet her needs.
It depends if you are good friends with the lady or not. If you genuinely like her, it could be worth staying. True friends are very valuable. But if you don't like her as a person, you need to ask yourself why you're staying around.
"But i'm not that into her" sounds to me like you do love her but she seems to love you more or makes it more obvious. I'd see how things develop personally.
"I really like knowing that someone's crazy about me"
Arthur, that's what dogs are for.
If you're not that into her, it isn't right to keep her around just for the gratification -- unilateral relationships are always essentially exploitative..
Yeah, don't I know it....
Well, following your sage advice, I broke it off. Better for everyone all around, I guess.
So are you just friends now, or do you not have contact with her at all anymore?
I don't think it's usually possible to be friends just after a romantic relationship has broken up (unless it was completely voluntary on both sides).