I've noticed that some touching bothers me less than others and produces less of a "jangling" in my senses. I've come to call this "spider" or "circular" touching. It's almost a light drag instead of a sudden drop on the skin. The fingertips alone touch first then move the fingers into whatever the position might be fluidly instead of just plopping the hand down. It's really much better when you have that light little warning and can even be nice, where the other regular touching is often uncomfortable. A hug initiated like this is also much more acceptable than one simply slapped on.
Has anyone else noticed this type of difference in touching?
Yes, I find some gentle touch more easy to take than rough touch.
Having my hair brushed doesn't bother me so much now, but I hated getting all the knots dragged out as a small child (I was a head-roller and restless sleeper so the back hair usually got very matted)
It is funny, as a child I enjoyed my hair being brushed, but I hated my neck being touched. Now, I think hand holding would be ok, but I do not like most other touching and I seem to feel ill when I touch other peoples bare skin. Hate that, and absolutely abhor kissing in any form, whether on cheeks or lips. It repulses me.
I am always wary of brushing my hair in public in case people think I am vain or something, lol, but I do do it a lot. I use store mirrors.
I like being touched by people I know and trust in ways that are gentle. In fact I crave touching my children and my husband. It makes me feel so connected to them.
I don't like kissing either though... anything touching my face gets me irritated and I want to run. I used to get really bugged when my husband would kiss me on top of the head before going to bed (I'd be up working on the computer) but I think that was more just being interrupted than being touched.
I can't stand it when someone knocks into me, or if someone I don't know or don't trust touches me without warning. That can make me want to scream or run or in extreme circumstances get defensively violent. (like push or hit them away from me)
There are things I don't like to touch too - like anything slimey, or sandy/gritty stuff. I also can't stand most kinds of polyester fabric, especially the kind that is SUPPOSED to be soft, but actually snags on any little imperfection on your fingers. I find most wool itchy too.
I dont like anything digging into me. It makes sleeping very hard as every mattress I have had, I can feel lumps or springs digging into my hip. I mean, I dont have lots of paddng, but Im not that thin. I dont like anything that stops me being able to move freely, I dont like rough fabrics. I hate having anything sticky or messy on hands and am always washing them. I never really thought about it before. I hate hair on my skin too.
...And absolutely abhor kissing in any form, whether on cheeks or lips. It repulses me.
I'm the same way... The thought of me coming in contact with someone else's saliva just disgusts me. Not only kissing, but I won't share food or drinks with anybody as well.
Touching for me is ok but like Meiloyn I don't like being touched when I'm mad upset and feel like being alone.
But on the other hand I love it when people play with my hair, like putting in those mini braids or just touching it in general. That kind of tickle is a good feeling.
I love that too!
You know, I usually don't mind touching at all. Actually, I like it a lot when it's a friendly affectionate gesture, because I don't get a lot of that because I don't have that many friends. So on the rare occasion when it does happen, I really like it. However, I usually don't initiate physical contact. I'm too nervous to do that. I'm scared of touching someone at a wrong or "inappropriate" time, or I'm scared of someone moving away when I touch them. Because for some reason, that's hurtful to me. Most people wouldn't mind that much if someone moves away from their touch, but.....that really hurts my feelings. So if I don't touch people, then that can't happen.
Another thing about touching.....I like giving back massages, but I don't like getting them. It makes me nervous.
Also, I'm really easily startled. Any little unexpected noise or touch makes me jump. Another weird thing is, I like pain. I like to be bitten. I like wrestling around and playing rough with my dogs.
Yes, I could be one of those people because I don't always understand if someone is just being nice or they really like me.
I HAVE THE SAME EXACT PROBLEM!!!!! That happens to me all the time and I can't stand it. It's almost impossible to tell. There's just no way for me to figure it out. I don't get how other people can. So lately I just always assume that whoever is being nice to me is just a friendly person, and not flirting with me. That way I don't get disappointed.
I like it as it makes me feel loved and wanted. It sounds soppy but it's true. If someone pays that attention to me it means they like me and like doing it.
When I get insecure, I can be difficult to reassure.
Ditto.
Unless it's someone I don't like. Obviously.
Touching for me is ok but like Meiloyn I don't like being touched when I'm mad upset and feel like being alone.
oh, god, same here!!!
Yea I'd have to agree with that too
Does anyone else have one or more people who although you usually hate being touched dont mind when they touch you.
Yup, have said this. If the person becomes part of what I call my "circle" I am more usually not bothered by the touching-- or at least not so much that it would be objectionable.
I don't have family gathereings as no one speaks to each other and everyone is dotted about all over the country. I have never seen my dad since i was 16 so that was 14 years ago.