Aspies For Freedom

i use to  not like being an aspie but as time whent on i became quite happy with being an aspie and even be came proud of that fact.so i am happy being an aspie one reason is because it means i dont have to be counted as one of those highly unreasonably physical and social NTs lol. so thats my standing on being an aspie

Michael 1 -
I hope you find relief in this new information about yourself. Clearly you are not alone and have a lot to share with other ***
What book did your doctor give you to read? I am desperate to find the right book for my brother who is undiagnosed at 35.

Hi Michael -
I hope you find relief. You are clearly not alone out there.
Can I ask you which book your doctor gave you to read. I am seeking the right way to tell my undiagnosed brother of 35 that I think he's an Aspie. I know I need to be direct and clear, but I don't want to hurt his feelings.
Thank and good luck.

I compare being an asperigan to being a jew, you have a different worldview, people often don't understand you, and you never really know what it feels like to be anything else.

Thats right. I will tell my employer on monday! So it buys me at least four months more employment.

It's funny that AS doesn't actually explain anything because it's just a label, but it makes us feel better anyway. I guess that's because it means we're not alone and, even if we don't know what it is, we know that there's an underlying cause that makes us the way we are.

Would you say the same for me if I received a referral pack?

There's an Asperger's Syndrome Service? What do they do? What's a referral pack?

Because you're not certain if I have AS, at this point, as I fall from the AS stereotypes in certain key ways.

How about, instead of "certain," the best you might ask from others online is "highly speculative" of AS or another such condition?

And that to have folks who lean toward the more concrete end of this speculation (you "probably" have some form of AS, etc.) it could be a good thing, because I can gain insight into myself and use that insight to help in a professional assessment?

I would think you would need insight about how AS affects you if you're going to get assessed.  Wouldn't it be better to have the kind of knowledge/insight you might gain from AFF or other source, than not?

I think so, anyway.

Yes, but even specialists and psychologists trained to look for Developmental Disorders in real life, have missed Asperger's with people who clearly have it.  Or at least it is so, if I may judge from some of the writings on this forum.

I'm in the process of being referred to an Asperger's specialist to get diagnosed one way or the other.

I'm actually hoping that I do get the diagnosis, because Asperger's means I just am the way I am.  
Up until now I have just been referred to as 'self-obsessed, socially inept, overly pedantic, embarrassing etc.' (even my family have described me like this). Being told this over and over does inspire quite a lot of self-loathing, especially when people blame me for being this way and get angry with me for not being able to change.

The label Asperger's won't change anything, it will just explain a lot and it will mean I can learn to accept my eccentricities as an integral part of me, as opposed to something which needs to be fixed (doctors have been trying to fix me for most of my life and after a while you begin to believe them).

The exact date is to be confirmed but my AS assessment will be in late July/ early August. I don't think they would be seeing me if they didn't think I have AS. Its along time to wait but I think its worth it. I think I am lucky to have been referred. I think I just met the right Doctor at the right time. I hope others are as lucky.

In my case it seems people tend to think I'm too sharp, observant, and "capable" to have something genuinely different about me.  I think more to the point is that I am capable sounding, because I appear to speak in a formal, sophisticated manner, with my usually heavy analysis of things.  I wonder if decent verbal IQ is misleading everyone, in my case.

They think that since I act normal, I must then be normal.  But there is a huge disparity in the way I act and the great "normal" things I have to show for it (social network, girlfriend, any kind of practical ability.. all of which are conspicuously absent...)

I have a similar thing, I still don't know how to fold a shirt properly, at 25 years of age.  If I could do it the right way, I would be doing it the right way.  But the fact remains that even if I try to remember how to do it, it still tends to be inconsistent or wrong.

Noetic Wrote:
"But you are the way you are no matter what label anyone sticks on you!

Damnit I forgot I already posted that! At least I'm consistent "

And it's still true.