Aspies For Freedom

funny i dont have food allergies, atleast that i know of.

1.. all of us are different and all of these lists are absolutly pointless
2.. lol
3.. i saw ur video with your son, i made a post, my name was artemisianshred
4.  just because i dont smile often doesn mean i dont like you! actually im getting used to this concept, smiling when you see someone, instead of when something is amusing or funny. im 21 and just figuring this out...damn...
5.. uhm we like to talk to people just as much as we like to be alone, its just harder to talk to people.
6.. i like to get drunk
7.. we are not mistakes, we are not unfortunates, we have gifts.
8.. eventually we can get so good at acting like you nt's, you would not even notice.

1. We don't care about following the norm or being popular. To us, it is more important to be the person you are.
2. We are bad at organizing. If you give us too much work, we WILL put some off. We just can't handle the stress.
3. Your sharp, fast movements and loud voices annoy us. It makes us want to tie you to a chair and mutefold you.
4. We aren't "disabled", "***", or "mentally ill", or "insane". We are as sane and intelligent as any of you are. We just show it differently.
5. We don't like being force-given assistance with our Aspergianism.

This goes for me and myself only:

1. Treat me as a human being.

2. I am prideful, not arrogant.

3. Life is terrible. I am not depressed, I just see the truth that others perfer to look away from.

4. I perfer everyone get along and behave with honor. No chaos of any kind is welcomed by me.

5. All I want out of this world of horrors is to be left alone by myself. I am not fond of other people.

Top 5 things I would like NTs to know (not to do.)

1) Don't be taken aback by my formal writing and speech patterns.  To me, this is just the way I have always been.

2) Don't keep asking me to justify why I am so smart in certain areas even though I dropped out of school.  I dropped out of school from sheer boredom, went home, and read the encyclopedia cover to cover.

3) Don't try to communicate with me through unspoken inuendo or double meanings.  I won't get it.

4) Don't abruptly change my routine or wonder why I can't function well in an uncertain environment.

5) Don't prevent me from leveraging my areas of obsession in my work.  You will find that I can be extremely innovative and inventive in those areas, and I may make you a lot of money if you indulge me.

i wish more NTs would visit..

i'd write something, but not very good at explaining what i want NTs to know..

Alison, I also cut out all the clothes tags (unless they are soft cotton ones) and don't like wearing closed-in shoes. The only way I can tolerate those shoes is get them a size too big.

And another thing I don't like is jeans and skirts with hard edges on the waistband.

I hope this doesn't sound rude (and I don't mean it to be so) but I've noticed on TV shows that there seems to be a "gay" accent. Is it learned or natural? The TV shows include "reality" shows.

I second that idea - some people have walked off while I was talking and I find that very rude and uncalled for. Ditto with people who've told me that they feel bored with what I'm saying. If they don't like it, they'd be better off changing the subject and then I would get the hint.

Ok, I got a PM that said I should do this, so I am going to because this is bigger than I thought it was (in terms of being noticed). I am making this more about me personally since I am the only Aspie I know with any depth. I don't want to speak for others if I don't know them and since my "case" is fairly mild.

1. I am different, but not lesser than average humans.

I think this one speaks for itself. I deserve to be honored and treated with respect despite my differences. Pretty basic. I don't hate NT's for being NT, and they should not hate me or anyone else for being AS. I'm ashamed that humans are still this intolerant.

2. I am stoic and prefer not to reveal much.

I am a very deep and thoughtful person, but in order to protect myself I have a facade of sorts. I show myself, but only select parts of myself. It also depends on who I am around. This is a defensive action I perform regardless of my hatred of lies. I think nearly everyone does this to an extent, but I am much more closed off than the average person. If you show me you are sincere in your desire to genuinely get an idea of who I am, or interact with me on a deeper level, than I most likely will. If you hurt me in some way or otherwise doubt me/insult me/etc than I will cut myself out of your life.

3. I desire perfection.

I despise corruption and notice the negative aspects more so than the positive. I look at the glass half empty because I have a deep need to fill it up. I don't want to just settle for halfway. I am not a negative person, I just want the best. Most of the wrongs in this world is due to simple ignorance and is unacceptable.

4. I am afraid/disgusted of/with procreation.

I don't want to hear about it, period. It turns people into objects and is rather unpleasant to me. It also brings people into the world forcefully. I don't believe this planet is suited for anymore lives to be brought into it. The ratio of suffering is far too great in my eyes. All in all, it's just bad news to me. You can like it all you want, but keep it to yourself please.

5. I set my own standards.

This I think is more common for Aspies in general. I know I like to make most of my own rules and really think about an idea before embracing it. I loathe the very concept of anyone trying to convince me that my ideas hold no weight. I find it insulting, because I work quite hard to be my own person. I have control over my life and how I think. Other people need to accept this. Politics and religion is fine to argue about, but letting it become personal is rather bothersome. It's like taste in music, just accept that the other person will have different tastes.

On a closing note, again, this is just me, but some or most of this may relate to other Aspies. We are all our own person, and we should be prudent not to generalize. I do not collect things, or react to food in an extreme manner. I do have a high pain tolerance, distaste for group gatherings, and so on. I am alike in some ways, different in others.

So how does that make us any better than the bullies and snobs within the school system? Why should we sink to their level?

The only thing is, not all aspies are smart. If there is to be a group away from the bullies, it shouldn't just be limited to the really brainy kids.

I'd like NTs to know I am NOT a mind reader. If they do not directly ask me to help or they tell me they don't need help when they do, how do I know that they need assistance? If others are already pitching in to help, I will believe that they've got the situation covered and I'd only be in the way.

Ditto with other social situations. Unwritten social rules mostly pass me by.

Also, I am not a groveller or crawler so don't expect praise if you don't deserve it. On the other hand, when I do compliment you, it is for real. I don't do it "just to be nice" or because I want somethin.

Thank you Lucie1 for the kind words. And I do agree, people's words can hurt even coming from people that do not seem that bright.