Absolutely wonderful if not damn near perfect?
I mea really! My son is only emotionally difficult when he doens't understand something or someone esle is cause disharmony. He is loving, sweet, logical, happy, intelligent, loves balance, loves to be happy and other people to be happy. He isn't over emotional or irational like his sisters... He seems the perfect child to me. Sure he has a melt down or two, but who doesn't?
Or is it simply as an Aspie I understand him better?
Ah, how sweet!
I love my son the way he is, but it is difficult trying to see him navigate a world that doesn't understand him. Just yesterday we had a conference to discuss a report card grade that he didn't understand, and it turns out it came from a specialty teacher who felt he "didn't really try." Sound familiar? I kept thinking it wasn't fair, that she totally didn't "get" him, but this is going to be real life and at some point we have to live with it.
I wish everyone could understand these kids as they are. THAT would make life absolutely perfect for them, wouldn't it?
Real life is only what the majority define it to be. Since when is the majority right? Doesn't try is just teacherese for I can't be bothered trying to reach this child.
I sooooooooooo completely agree with you
As for teachers who cannot be bothered to try and understand children on the spectrum.... all I got to say is Mr's Jones when you put on his report "What can I say? Josef is just Josef" your damn right he is.
Thankfully though after losing his primary years at school to being completely misunterstood, he is now at a school who understand him and he is really doing well.
Someone once said to me, he can't live in his own little world you have to make him understand 'our' world.... I replied why can't he, his world seems much better than 'yours' why don't you try and understand him and join him... thats if he would have you in 'his' world.
I agree with you. I am still new at this, but I try to meet my son where he is...at his comfort level and he seems to be happier and learn better that way. He doesn't speak, but otherwise he is happy, loving, active, and very smart. I am concerned when he enters the public school system at 3 years old. I will just work really hard to make sure that he gets the best IEP for HIM, not for other kids or for the parents teaching him. I do think he is perfect, and he is better behaved than many NT children.
Well, of course! Thank you for a post to remind us to remember how wonderful our kids are. Otherwise it is far too easy to get bogged down with the problems.
Roses aren't just thorns....
Absolutely
my ds is almost 5 and he is the most loveable, funny, intelligent and gorgeous child I have ever met (not that I am biassed of course
It makes me furious when strangers who know nothing about him look at him and comment that he is naughty and that he is I quote 'wierd'. As his mother he makes me smile every single day
Jane x
I'm glad your kids have parents who love them so much. That is about the best therapy in the world for a kid.