Aspies For Freedom

I have a lot more body hair than the average woman (on my legs and arms, and everywhere really except my face).  Is this a sign of having high testosterone?

I get PMS sometimes as well, and I am more likely to get stressed out easily.  I have to find things to do to distract myself.

Ah I can understand this. I feel as I have a wolf mind and soul in a human body.

I hope this is not too personal a question but what is your sexual orientation?
Feeling like the opposite gender trapped in your current body is commonly reported amongst transgendered individuals and homosexuals. If this is caused by testostrone it would explain the higher than average number of lesbians and female-to-male transexuals on the spectrum. However, we also have a higher than normal percentage of male-to-female transexuals and homosexual men.

As a research subject this would be interesting to look at simply by blood tests of women on and off the spectrum and would be quite simple to do. I fear though that it could have obvious abuses by the curebies.

I can relate to this. Also the "learning to be a girl" :being female didn't come natuarally to me and as a child I wanted to be a boy. Now I still feel partly male although not enough to feel that I "should" be a man. I think I'm just confused. Partly I put it down to not having a clue why I was different growing up; now I know what my difference is things are easier.
When I was younger I used to get mistaken for a boy a lot. I'm heterosexual.

Not really, I used to be propositioned regularly by women  when I lived in London and it was no worse than unwanted attention from a man. Most of the time I don't really think of being any sex at all: I'm me and my gender is rather unimportant. Being mistaken for a boy when I was younger did annoy me though.

There seems to be a connection between the 'Male brain theory and women' thread and the 'Am I a real man?' thread (an interweaving of threads as it were).

They both appear to deal with gender issues:

Some aspie women on the 'Male brain theory and women' thread have suggested that because they're 'not stereotypically female' and 'always wear flat shoes and very rarely wear make-up' they're somehow less feminine than average.

While on the 'Am I a real man?' thread an aspie man suggests that people perceive him as less masculine than average, because of not having a girlfriend and living with his parents.

As an aspie male I can relate to this. Even up until the birth of my first child my brother says he thought I was gay. At school I was called gay, as a bullying tactic. (As it happens I'm not:- but even if I were I wouldn’t see being called gay as particularly insulting). But I've never really been interested in the usual male activities like football and cars.

Interestingly enough there does appear to be some crossover of masculine and feminine characteristics among the aspies of this website. The AFF guys appear to be more introspective and sensitive than average. While the women are interested in science and technology (traditionally male obsessions).

This undermines the 'male brain theory' for Aspergers. There appears to be more of a blending of male-female gender traits rather than a heightening of male traits as is suggested by this theory.  

Perhaps its time we redefined what it means to male and female. Maybe this blending of gender traits means that male and female aspies can actually cooperate and meet each other as equals (in a way NTs cannot)

An end to 'the battle of the sexes?'

I could not credit the inanity of some conversations I've recently heard in my workplace. These are ladies in their late 20's to their late 40's I suppose. It is all about losing weight, that dopey survivor show, the biggest loser and wearing makeup. If that is what being feminine is all about, I prefer my status as a person who can't be categorised easily.

Ah, I have this thing with authority too. I'll usually do what I'm told, but if I think the other person is a jerk and a fool, I find it very hard to respect them and want to do what they say. If I can find any "wiggle room" in those cases, I will.

I'm also untidy and don't know how women get their hair to "sit" and not fly all over the place. Comfort is first priority so things like high heels and heavy make-up don't sit well with me. I can't even wear bras with any kind of wiring or boning in them as they are too uncomfortable.

I never thought of that....

I haven't been here awhile. ive been doing world stuff like losing my mind and getting a partner for the first time.
i have always been kinda confused about the whole do i feel this or that or nothing? was i meant to be a guy or should i go for women (Im female btw) why do i feel like i am dressing in drag when i put a dress on. should i quit plucking out those hairs in guy places or just be proud and see how much i can grow? learn to be really offensive in a quitetr way?
it got to the point somedays i felt great about it then i would crash and want to die. horrible and very isolating.
I do have high testosterone levels and score way high on baron cohen systematising test. the pmt stuff can be scarey.
have a lovely fellow who is my partner in crime now. we are presently trying to create a new life. Physically he is the man. I am the woman. I do wear the odd special feature for him but I haven't changed the way i feel, just my self esteem.
ive come to the conclusion that whatever you are, you have to be proud of the way you are. i do think the more stressed a person gets the more your energy will go the wrong way and add to hormonal and chemical imbalances. Ive been trying to get to relaaax for years but I will get one day.
And the smoking is not a good idea. i know cos i do it and trying to quit. It does affect sex hormones and if you are getting some of those pills from those pesky doctors (who think their magic fixes are the answer) you might wanna ask what they do to hormone balance also.
i like my brain doing its stuff. It likes to mentally pull things apart and stick em together in different ways. i like tools dammit. i tend to think better than i feel.  Who says the brain is either or? Its supposd to be plastic these days isn't it? Im wondering what pregnancy will do to it? Anyone got any ideas? We are not our brains, we are what we do with them.
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flyaway hair? cut it off! and do it yourself cos hairdressers are terrifying and expensive.

Is that what that wall of text was about?

Sorry, brain's still mush.  Can't read.  Can't think either.

This is not the thread where we're talking about people of differing races having different IQs.

It can be, it can also be just the way your genes worked out.

I am not only hairy, I have enough facial hair to be mistaken for a guy a lot of the time.  And my hormone levels are completely and totally normal.  (I get checked by panicked doctors every once in awhile, after they see my face and my age they assume something like that is up.  But it's not.)