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I am 21 and i buss tables at a fancy resturaunt. I get paid based on how ever much waiters decide to pay me out by thier tips. today one of the waiters named " yakov". said to me..."hey ted, is your last name kanerski.?" i didn understand what he was saying i thought it was a joke so i played along and i said "unfortanatley not, but do you know where the salt shakers are...?"  and he said "what? oh so you want to go postal on us all? me: "Wat?!" " kernaski  you going to kill us, you know the unabomber" he says with a stupid grin on his face...  OH you mean Kazinski."  him "ya whatever."  "not whatever you got the name wrong, i didn know what the fuck you were saying." end.,.  this is not the first time i heard this kind of talk.. i got it in highschool and middle school.. people calling me psycho, and Ted bundy, and the trenchcoat mafia kid. i dunno if he means it or hes joking... i mean theres a guy named tim who works here same job i do... does he call him timothy mcviegh? and john the manager john wayne gacy? do they assume im evil because im quiet? i do my job and try to be friendly especially to the female staff...one time i think he said behind my back while i was caring a big trey so i couldn see his face "oh you think you are so tough dont you." i just smiled because i thought it was a joke when i came back.. i dont know anymore. should i just be a recluse because people dont understand me? they fear me.. or am i being to sensitive? i mean what kind of guy.. named YAKOV.. russian or something.. would be so stupid as to poke fun at someones name just to make a joke.. its way to easy to say Jack off. i mean duh.. it makes me think he really thinks that i am capable of mass murder..
It seems like this guy is a bully boy and has picked up on your quiet attitude. He has possibly decide that you are the kind of person who won't stand up for yourself. I'd watch your back with this guy if iw as you.

It may be worth asking a co worker that you get on with how they deal with this guy. And let them know what's been said. It could also be that the female staff are comfortable with you and like you(especially if you seem chivalrous to them) and he can't understand that. (remember that many men only are polite to women whislt they want something offf them.

All this on my part is conjecture but somethign about reading it left me feeling cold about this Yakov.
This guy sounds like bad news, I agree. His "jokes" are really pathetic. He might just be doing it to cover up his feelings of nervousness (that is the best case scenario and I hope this is all it is) but he might also have some mental problems.
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