Aspies For Freedom

Oh, look, narrowmindedness, bigotry, and gross overgeneralization.  Congratulations, "M", you qualify as "neurotypical"!










PS:  Yes, I am aware that "irony" is not like "bronzy" or "goldy", except made out of iron.

i have known both men and women nt's that are like that. of course i can deffinently say that it is only a small portion of the population that really is this way( okay maybe not a small for the men) however i have never known anyone who seemed even remotley aspie who was this way. i think that was the point m was trying to make is that it is very un-aspie. even if it is not typically nt it is a type of nt personallity.

OK, that thread about being with people you don't know is WAY too long for me to read it all, but, basically, because Aspies tend to be more private to begin with, it is less likely they would engage in a one night stand.  I buy that, actually.  Am I generalizing this OK for everyone's taste?

But, a similar difference exists between NT women and NT men.  That's all I'm trying to say, really.  You most definitely cannot throw women and men together in a joke about sex (well, except in the bed, lol).

Sure, I know women who have had one night stands.  But, more often than not, they cry a lot of tears about it the next day.  They were hoping for something else, or something more.

Rossco, I agree, it is just as superficial for a woman to judge a man on his financial assets, as it is for a man to judge a woman on her looks.  We have generations of sociology to thank for that.  In today's world we can slowly try to change it.

But, if two people are going to get married and raise a family, they will have to live on SOMETHING.  Since the women are the ones going through pregnancy and nursing, the default continues to be that the woman is going to have to be home for a while with the baby.  So, it becomes more logical for the husband to have the career than the wife.  But, I've got friends where it's switched around, and I think it's cool

As for drooling at the person of the opposite sex accross the room, I once described the male / female difference to a friend of mine this way:  while to him, he could actually get turned on from the visual alone, for me, it's more like admiring a handsome statute.  Until I start to gleam the personality.  Only then might I actually start to experience desire.  Maybe there is a similar Aspie / NT difference.  You need more than the visual.  You need to get into the mind.

I know it was supposed to be a joke.  But, a joke doesn't work unless you get the nuances right.  Fix those, and you'll entertain everyone.

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Are you sure the women you've known were looking for sex and not willing to use sex to get to something else?  See, it is so very rare for women to go out seeking the sex.  It is less rare for the men.  Most men, in fact, will joke about themselves as thinking with their second head.  Women don't.  Women tend to get emotionally invested in the act much more than men.  As a result, the NT population tends to accept these kinds of jokes about men, but would never make them about all NT's including women.  


yes, according to them they were just looking to "get some" as they put it. do i think that this was their genuine heartfelt intent? no, but i don't believe it to be the true intent of men either. i believe it is the product of a society where a disintigrating sense of individuallity permeates their lives. the word religion is derived from the latin word "re-lig-io" which means to re-unite. in a world of disparity and indiference media has become this uniting force, or religion so to speak. people have so little in common, so little GENUINE social interaction that they have become dependent upon electronically mediated emotional content to feel a conection to anyone. because of this they lose track of their own emotional life and become merged in an illusion where you are not a person but a brand of jeans. they no longer exist for mush purpose other than fulfilling the social expectations put upon them and experiencing shallow pleasures which keep them subdued and prevent them from upsetting the order of things. deep down and sometimes very apparently i believe they feel very regretful and unsatisfied with these things. many however believe this is the only way of existing and so continue doing so. they have one night stands, drink heavily, are materially pre-occupied, and that is life.....um, excuse the rant :oops:

i liked your system a lot but this  point here..
...well it's very accurate but for an NT like me it's just saying the truth...

I should spend time talking about YOUR interests when you are not doing YOUR interest... so actually 100% of the time is about YOUR interest.
This is so hard for me to understand...i am genuinenly interested in his interest but sometimes I'd need the other way around...even if he had to pretend for 5 mins to be intrested in MY interest...

Maybe I'm part NT. I do care if a man is attractive, although I'd never do a one night stand even if he were Johnny Depp, one of my favorites. The fact is, sex is not important to me. I could be with somebody I loved and cared for and was attracted to forever and just be content to touch and hug and skip the rest, but to have a sexual relationship, since it's not just the feelings I'm seeking, there would have to be love and also a strong physical attraction. I don't care about money or status though, in fact a powerful man, who is full of himself, would be a big negative for me. I also don't care for men, or anyone, who is materialistic.