I have the same thing with my 14 year old daughter she is getting aggressive toward all members of the family including our dog. I came home from shopping recently and she had my wife bailed up in the kitchen with a knife. I was just lucky that i happened to walk in at the right time to disarm her as i fear she may have stabbed wife.
What concerns me more is that we are adults and can fend for ourselves but what happens if she takes the same course of action with her younger sister who is only 8.
It is a very scary thought.
he soils during masterbation,
I wouldn't have liked my mother posting this in any board when I was 15.
Especially since this isn't the issue she's talking about.
I also believed, that my mother doesn't know, when I was 15.
Today, age 41, I have no problem talking about it.
So here's my question to anybody who is willing to answer:
Does anybody else soil during masturbation?
I do.
he soils during masterbation,
I wouldn't have liked my mother posting this in any board when I was 15.
Especially since this isn't the issue she's talking about.
I also believed, that my mother doesn't know, when I was 15.
Today, age 41, I have no problem talking about it.
So here's my question to anybody who is willing to answer:
Does anybody else soil during masturbation?
I do.
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Depends what you mean by "soil" if you mean by semen well thats just logical. If you mean by excretment? Thats just weird. Then again, I don't get much pleasure from masturbation strangelly but maybe because it's harder self-pleasure with a pussy <<.
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Reading this is I feel more bad for Sam then Mollie, I don't know why. Maybe because I am AS and he's of a simular nature..ya know like kin. He sounds really Low fuctioning...but I don't know
I don't believe we're talking about poo. But here's my contribution to the big cacka debate.
I have had diarrhea for my entire life. Can't remember a full week when it wasn't a problem, and I've tried every diet, vitamin and herbal remedy under the Sun. By the time I was 15 I was used to the pain, the cramps and the inconvenience - and I just managed it and ignored it. But I have never *ever* shat the bed. I think you should take him to the doctor asap.
It's a statistical fact that serious medical problems are often overlooked in individuals who are neuro-atypical because the autism label is invoked to explain behaviours and warning signs of a actual medical condition.
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Depends what you mean by "soil" if you mean by semen well thats just logical. If you mean by excretment? Thats just weird.
I meant by semen, at least in my case...
Then again, I don't get much pleasure from masturbation strangelly but maybe because it's harder self-pleasure with a pussy <<.
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I think, there's nothing as great as having sex with the only person who knows exactly what you want at each moment.
I heard this also from women, even if they speak about it much less then men (at least with me)
Well, I guess the techniques should be subject of private messages. If you want, I can ask.
Alectrum, I can sympathise as this would be such a miserable condition to have. Have you ever been checked out for IBS or Crohn's disease or even gluten intolerance as constant diarrhoea is often caused by such conditions.
Maybe Mollie meant her son was starching his sheets and I got the wrong idea that she meant he was pooping his pants instead.
It's probably IBS and Gluten intolerance. My mother has both. The things is - I'm used to it. It's unremarkable. Because I've always had it, then I have a high pain threshhold in that regard. I ignore it and block it out unless it is extremely severe, and even then I have coping mechanisms.
I'm not sure what Mollie meant, but I have two younger brothers and I did their washing when I was younger. If they're male - they stain the sheets. If I was Mollie I think there was something wrong with him if he didn't starch the sheets at his age! 
Alectrum, I can sympathise as this would be such a miserable condition to have. Have you ever been checked out for IBS or Crohn's disease or even gluten intolerance as constant diarrhoea is often caused by such conditions.
Maybe Mollie meant her son was starching his sheets and I got the wrong idea that she meant he was pooping his pants instead.
It's probably IBS and Gluten intolerance. My mother has both. The things is - I'm used to it. It's unremarkable. Because I've always had it, then I have a high pain threshhold in that regard. I ignore it and block it out unless it is extremely severe, and even then I have coping mechanisms.
I'm not sure what Mollie meant, but I have two younger brothers and I did their washing when I was younger. If they're male - they stain the sheets. If I was Mollie I think there was something wrong with him if he didn't starch the sheets at his age!
I just hope he never never ever reads these pages. rotfl
Yes Poor kid...if he finds out his mom is talking about his beating off habits online. I can't imagine his horror
Hi Mollie:
I'm so sorry about the struggle you are having with aggression/violence. It makes me sad.
My son started to get a little bit more argumentative, then more argumentative, and then more and more angry, and finally he grabbed me really hard one day. I realized that puberty and hormones were raging inside him. I remembered that in Temple Grandin's autobiography she talked about how hormones made her also angry and agressive. She started to take something for anxiety. I put my son on Zoloft. Worked like a charm. He calmed down within a day or two. He is SO MUCH HAPPIER NOW, has an easier time at school, and is a joy around the house.
I have read in several places lately that zoloft is a good choice for AS kids who are stressed out. Just an option.
Mollie, how is your son now? And how are you doing? I hope you are finding some ways to take care of yourself and cope with the stress.
For myself, I find it helpful to have a project to work on that is all mine, just for me. When I get to stressed out about my son, I go work on my project for a while.
I also started taking anti-depressants about 3 years ago. They help me stay calm and help me to be a better mom. This way, I can get by day to day much better. I'm only speaking for myself here.
I wonder what other kinds of things moms of AS kids do to help deal with stress and relax?
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Did you offer him an alternative to attacking people? Maybe you should try hanging a punching bag or something like that in his room for him to release his anger and aggression upon.
Or maybe you can ask him what is troubling him through writing. You can have him type all about it on a computer and give it to you. It should be win-win situtation: He might feel better after ranting off and you get a clearer idea of what's going on so you can help him.
I had the same thought about redirecting the anger to hitting something other than a person. We had the same problem with our six year old (who has Aspergers) and the mobile therapist had him use an "angry pillow." It helped a lot and now he just goes into his room and slams the door when he gets angry. We also used "consequences" by not allowing priveleges (e.g., no DVD time) if he hit us or his classmates. We had to make the rule very clear, and enforcing it was hell, but it worked. Your mobile therapist should be able to help you work a plan. You can also get a TSS at home if you have to for safety.
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Hope someone can help me,
Hi
My son is 11 and I have a very similar situation. When my son was younger and he got upset about something he would intentionally hurt himself, he would find the hardest surface and smash his head over and over until I was able to restrain him. Restraining him was never easy, sometimes I feel like he has super strength during these episodes. As my son got older these meltdowns occurred less and less. This year my son has had three major out burst which all resulted in him trying to cause me physical harm. I feel like my son directs all his anger at me, after all I'm the one person who is suppose to protect him and provide him with a safe environment I am the one person he can count on no matter what, I am the one person who makes sense in his world. When something goes wrong or just isn't right I am the one to blame, if anyone understands it should be me.
After my son fit I always try to look at the whole picture all over again, and every time I end up with the same conclusion. My son doesn't want to hurt me, but some how I missed all his attempts to tell me that he was having a hard time and could not handle the situation. The main thing with children who have aspergers is their lack of, or lack to communicate with others, and due to this we spend everyday trying to make sense of everything so that they can deal with daily life. We provide consistency, and structure on a daily basis, and with out this the whole world seems to unravel. So I interpret my sons out burst as his over load, he tried and tried to tell me he was having a hard time and I missed all the clues and instead of helping him deal with the situation like I do on a daily basis his only way to get all his anger and frustration out due to his sensory overload he reacts towards me.
In the end my son is always really sorry (but he never really understands what he has done), he's usually exhausted too and I think this is all due to his sensory over load.
I am a young single mom of two my son is 11 and I have a daughter who is going to be 8. I don't believe in medication for my son, I feel like if I provide my son with all the help he needs weather it be structure or consistency, or any other tools he may need then he shouldn't need medication. What is the medication really doing for our children? Have you tried the medication they want your son to take? What does it due to you? How does it make you feel?
If anything I think I would start out with a all natural supplement and proper therapy before I put my son on all types of medication. Melaluca has some great products, but there are thousands to choose from.
So after all that I guess what I wanted to say is your not alone, I know during the moment you feel as if your the only one in the world who is going through this but your not.
If I had such a doctor I'd honestly write a letter to god asking him to die a sad and painful death and not have any funeral what so ever.[siriously I would, concidering how long ago that would have been yep, Definnetly back then pacifist was defined as a moron who doesn't care about children rapes people is a coward and usses violence against inocent people, right now I'm starting to realise that that definition really doesn't turn anyone against violence.]