As I thought this is also aspie rights related (as many of us had/have to deal with bullying in our lives) it would be good if as many aspies as possible take a stand against bullying! Also, you can add your own method (as I found out later) so you can mention you take a stand by fighting for autism acceptance and rights, for example. And you can order seriously cool wristbands and dog tags as well.
Here you can
take a stand!
tnx!
btw anyone who likes X-Men will definitely like this campaign :grin:
Tnx!
I signed the petition
I fail to see what the point of this is:
They're selling dogtags and handing out the same advice than nearly all schools already give to pupils.
Did I miss something?
Take what the schools do and give it a little 'popularity' by putting celebrities behind the message is probably the point of it and linking X-Men to it give kids something they can relate to after the movies and such.
indeed, I think so too, I read it was about 'changing the mentality of the youth' eg making bullying un-cool among kids.
It's going to be a long slow process, but good luck anyway. A journey of a 1,000 miles starts with one step (to quote an old adage).
As a kid who has faced constant bullying for the last nine years, I can actually see it as not being entirely negative. It makes you more mature, tougher. Besides, doing what the school told me to about it always made me regret. Now I have extremely little trust of adults.
Did the same for me, made me mature, and gave me an overwhelming desire to be better than them in every way
hence my business ideas/striving for a good job in business admin. I genuinely believe I deserve it.
I guess its a form of revenge, no matter how long it takes its always the greatest of sweetmeats ;]
Ian
I really dont care or have an opinion just as long as my bully dies a hideously painful death filled with suffering of both physical and emotional and the pain he has is more horrific than any known pain to man kind!
The only clear-cut way to prevent autistics from being bullied is not to portray it in a negative light by respected authority figures, but rather hear it positively endorsed by disrespected authority figures.
My son was complaining of bullies at his school, especially one kid in particular who was a small kid that he once got in trouble for teasing - he basically said to the kid something along the lines of 'we're not afraid of you' which the teachers decided was encouraging him to get aggressive - which he did and chased my son and his friend and hit them. (his friend was a girl!)
Anyway - my son and I talked about this bully and what to do about it. I suggested that maybe the bully felt bad because he was small and was 'overcompensating'. (My son has a large vocabulary because I teach him large words to explain concepts I think are important) I suggested the bully might not be a bad kid, but just felt bad about himself. I also suggested that it's possible the bully might not have a happy home environment or have parents that might not have taught him how to be kind, so that he might not know any other way to behave. I also said bullies sometimes wanted attention or to feel cool and tough and because they like the reaction they are getting by being a bully they keep it up.
After that little lesson, my son stopped complaining about it and I forgot about it until I read this thread. I just asked him if the bullying was still a problem. He said no and I asked him why or what happened.
He said he asked the bully 'why do you chase people so much?' and the bully explained that he thought the girls WANTED him to. (Boys only got involved and bullied when they stuck up for the girls, which my son is inclined to do)
My son explained this motive to the girls, and the girls decided to stop running away from him... and he stopped chasing them and now plays other games with friends. My son says there are no more bullies on the playground.
Now, it is fully possible that the teacher was able to stop the behavior by working with the kid and the parents, but it is also interesting to know what my son did and what he observed on the playground...
I don't know if it would always work, but working with the bully and understanding that they are kids too that have needs and issues and not just making them out to be 'the enemy' can work just as well as trying to focus on the kid being bullied.
Under NO circumstance do I think kids should have to put up with being hit and made to feel afraid, but it can be empowering to explain to those being bullied the weaknesses of bullies and give them the power of knowledge to understand the motives.
The problem is most of the time people just explain 'bullies are bad and mean', making those being bullied out to be powerless 'victims'. With no context of bullies having feelings, including fear and insecurity, it's impossible to combat the situation with something other than an adult getting involved.
I agree. At the time a person is being bullied, it kind of hard to focus on anything else but taking care of themself. But in the long run its important for people to learn and remember why bullies act the way they do. It helps alot to know the reason that youre being treated the way you are.
Your strategy could work if it's applied early, 7oclock, but I don't think it'd work with a bunch of high schoolers.
I don't think there is one solution to every problem, especially when there are as many factors as human interactions tend to create. So besides the way the bullied person handles and processes the bullying, stopping the bullying would also always depend on all the kids involved and on how active the teachers are at stopping the behavoir as well and the way the parents are at home. (for instance, some parents are bullies and when that is the case, the kid will most likely continue to emulate them.)
So I wasn't at all saying that I think this strategy would always work at any age but I don't think it's fair to say it would never work at certain ages. I only offer it as one of many ways to approach things.
I wish I could have defended myself better against bullies when I first left home. Physical confrontation wouldn't have worked with them as they were other women and unknowingly, I made myself a target as I was very emotionally immature and naive.
It didn't help that the principal where I was staying tacitly condoned the victimisation and indeed added to it.