I'm getting fired from my first job on friday, and i've only been there a month. I was originally given 8 week to get my performance up to the required level with a slight increase each week, which I was well on my way to doing, but they have changed thier minds and now I have to do it for this week which I cannot do.
I can't tell my parents they will freak. What am I going to do?
Pick yourself up and move on. Take it as a lesson learned.
I was fired from my first career job. For very bad reasons, if you ask me. It took a few years to get my confidence back but, long run, it turned out that being fired was the best thing that could have happened to me. I went on to a far more successful career than I ever could have managed there. I proved them so very, very wrong ... and the sweet thing is, because of the way things evolved, they know it.
So, please skip those few years it took me to get my confidence back and realize that this is NOT about you. It is about THEM, and when you find a better fit the whole issue, whatever it was, will be IRRELEVANT. I know it's hard, I really do, I was shaken to the core, but what I'm saying here is true.
Don't hide it from your parents. Let them know that you feel like you did your best, but it must not have been the right fit, and that you intend to pick yourself up and find a better place. If they love you, they will support you. Period.
Don't lie to future employers about it, either. When they ask. Be matter of fact, not bitter: I don't think it was the right fit for me. If they ask more, it's OK to say that you haven't had enough work experience to have a solid handle on it, but that you want the prospective employer to know that you are motivated to work hard and learn what you need to know.
Best of luck. I do KNOW that this is a difficult time for you. But you'll be OK. LET yourself be OK.
...realize that this is NOT about you. It is about THEM...
That sounds so very true.
Bob, I'm sorry to hear you are being let go. I'm sorry I don't really have any advise for you, but I understand what you're going through as I have been fired before as well. The times I've been let go I have realized it wasn't my fault at all.
Years ago I took a waitressing job, which was a mistake in the long run. I had no experience and they claimed in the ad they "will train". The training never came and I was thrown into the mix. I constantly got yelled at. The boss, at a private meeting, said I was "too slow" and was moving me upstairs to the mall food court (this was a pizza place at the mall with a small stand in their food court as well). Which was just as bad. I had cashier experience, although I hated dealing with customers. But they told me I had to make hoagies and never showed me how. I'm not a hoagie eater so I didn't have a clue what went in what. And when I dropped a slice of pizza on the floor as I took it out of the oven (I don't have the steadiest of hands) I was called to another meeting. This time they wanted me to go back to the downstairs restaurant as a "bus boy". It was their that I quit before I was fired. Bus boy? Me? A 5'1" 95 lbs little girl with back problems? Are they kidding?
Another place I was fired was a store at the mall. Simply to cover up the manager's mistake of hiring me in the first place. I always make a note on applications how many hours a week I may work and if they have a problem with that then they shouldn't hire me. Well two weeks into the job (on Sept. 12 2001 of all days) the manager told me I needed to work more hours. I told her I couldn't. Later on that evening at home I get a call from her saying I'm being "terminated" because she needs more hours from me....Too bad...Her loss.
Sorry for the long winded post. But you see, you're not alone.
I hope you find something soon that you enjoy. Good luck. 
Thanks for the replies!
It wasn't a job that planned to stay in for too long anyway. It really wasn't a job that suited me for various reasons. It was really just a job to keep my parents happy but it left me feeling really depressed.
I do have a few ideas for a few non-career jobs, but who knows whether I will be able to get them or not since I am prone to fairly comedic interviews. In my last one the interviewer offered me a glass of water and I ended up choking on it. This job didn't require one.
Hey Bob,
Sorry to hear about what happened! Would it help if I told you I was fired about a month ago from my job?
This isn't the first time for me! I am trying to find a new career that I can excel in!
Hope goes well for you!
Kalo!
Bob, your employer must have been very two faced and insincere. Sad as it might seem, you're better off not working for losers like them.
Surely if your parents have any understanding, they will not blame you for what happened. Is it possible for you to do some volunteer work to get your experience up?
I can't do volenteer work as I need money for rent and the like.
Thinking about what sort of job I need, I need one where my services are required every now and then, rather than for the whole shift because I have a serious problem maintaining concentration for a long time and consistantly find myself snapping back to reality after an indetermite period of time inactivity, lost in thought, with out realising it. Any suggestions?
Hi Bob,
Ya know what I kind of have the same problem as you. Like the concentration part.
Have you been officially diagnosed? Do you live in the United States?
The reason why I am asking is because I live in the U.S. and I have made an appointment to the D.E.S. Vocational Rehab to get RE-Evaluated and once I go through the evaluation they will then be able to assist me on what career would be best for my situation.
If you do live in the U.S. maybe you should consider opening a case with Vocational Rehab. They help people with disabilities and such. They can also pay for schooling and possibly training in the type of field you pick.
Also, they will Evaluate a person FREE of charge. Usually, evaluation and or diagnosing learning disabilities as well as AS can cause lots of money. However, when you go through the D.E.S. they will pick a phscyologist to evaluate you.
The only thing I do suggest is that if you decieded to go Vocational Rehab make sure your counselor knows of a pshcyologist who is knowlegable with AS. This way it can insure proper diagnosing...
I have worked in the office field for many years and believe it or not I have STRUGGLED immensley. I don't know how many jobs I've lost.
Well, now it's time for me to realize that I have to make a career change or else I will continue getting my butt kicked in the office world.
Even though I have difficulities I am still a person who is very bright, and I believe you are a very bright indivual as well.
Good Luck to You and Remember Don't give up!!!!
Take at look at disability retraining colleges. There's Finchale training college in Durham. Ask your parents to help you check it out. it may or may not be of use to you.
It has a residential option and it spplies the food three tiems day. it isn't a doss house and the teacher quality can vary. But the idea is to support people back into work. It's something to look at with your Disbaility Employment Adviser.
By the way, which part of England are you in?
I live in Runcorn, in the north-west. There are a couple of shows filmed here for BBC Three, if you want to know what it looks like.
I have no idea which career I want to be involved in at the moment. So I don't what to get trained in. I have had many careers interviews but each one left the interviewer without any suggestions.
I don't have a disability employment advisor, I'm seeing somebody for a diagnosis for AS next week. Should I ask about one then?
Definately ask for a DEA at that meeting.
I've been through Runcorn East train station and I recently travelled to Finchale disability residential retraining college from LLandudno Junction North Wales and back every other week so I have an inkling of what its like.
There is also agroup based iN Gtr Manchester called 'Aspirations that I'm looking to myself as I'm intending on getting out of North Wales (Friends and family have left or are leaving.
I was inofrmed of the college by the DEA in Chorley (who is married to one of the daughters of one of my mum's old friends)
By the way, the college offers many technical and computer based courses and advisers. The problem you should be aware of is that admissions can take time and the college is currently being refurbished.
here's the link even though it's not great use right now due to refurbishment.
http://www.finchalecollege.co.uk/
(Ps, for some reason it's pronounced Finkel instead of Finch-ale, I've no idea why)
There are others like it nd I know there's on in Nottingham and one in London. But I know little on them.