It's very simple: You weren't the same kind of monkey they were. Since the monkeys in question were too stupid and narrow-minded to think beyond noticing that you were different, they interpreted your rational response to the war they were waging against you.
it's true. NT's do expect us to mindread.. or something like it..
Hmm.. well in my case it's not so much negative as overly neutral. I do see what you mean though, DW.
Thanks for the input.
I'm constantly accused of being a smartass with a bad attitude. I agree with the smartass part. I have rather unique and smart comebacks when talking to bullies or teachers, and they just tell me to not "get smart" with them, so I again be a smartass and say that I have to get smart, since that's exactly what school is for. I guess I just have to be a smartass to live.
I don't know about my bad attitude though. I'm usually not negative, and I normally don't treat people negatively if I talk to them, unless I hate them. I think it can come from what I draw and the way I appear, and maybe my lack of knowledge in social etiquette.
If someone seems to consistently take the negative view of things, as opposed to a more optimistic one, that is considered a "bad attitude." We tend to get in life what we expect. If we don't expect the positive, we won't get it. If what you are expressively is usually the negative or nuetral view of things, people assume that you have no positive feelings.
Tell me which is the rational response?
People crap on you every day, without relent, without mercy. You are unhappy with this and expect them to crap on you even more.
People crap on you every day, without relent, without mercy. You say "Tra-la", put on a big smile, and expect them all to magically adore you any second, now.
Is it rational to "expect" good treatment when all you've faced is abuse?
I don't know about my bad attitude though. I'm usually not negative, and I normally don't treat people negatively if I talk to them, unless I hate them. I think it can come from what I draw and the way I appear, and maybe my lack of knowledge in social etiquette.
You aren't sufficiently submissive to them. You don't stroke their egos enough for their taste. You aren't the little slave-drone they want you to be.
I don't know about my bad attitude though. I'm usually not negative, and I normally don't treat people negatively if I talk to them, unless I hate them. I think it can come from what I draw and the way I appear, and maybe my lack of knowledge in social etiquette.
You aren't sufficiently submissive to them. You don't stroke their egos enough for their taste. You aren't the little slave-drone they want you to be.
That might be it. You're right M!
(What does M stand for, anyway?)
He can't see how to make a situation like that turn out just fine - I can.
Are you sure you understood his motives correctly?
I know in that situation, a couple of things would be happening in my mind:
1. Well, the car broke down- so suddenly the schedule is all messed up. I have to do things I wasn't prepared for. That makes everything harder.
2. Phone calls? I can't do those. I really, really can't. Failure the first time would be enough to make me give up all together- I just never know what to say.....
Of course, that's me, I don't know what his thoughts were. I'm just suggesting you may be making an asumption that is incorrect.
And that does explain something about NTs. They leap to conclusions that are based on asumptions, and end up deciding something is so when, if they looked a little closer, they would realize they are wrong.
Of course, aspies often do that to, maybe it is more of a 'human trait' than an 'NT trait'.... :?:
i always got the bad attitude thing when i was younger.i could never get a better explanation of why i had a bad attitude than "you just do!!!" i think its just an excuse for people to attack you for not being like them. if you have a different attitude than they do then it's "bad".