Aspies For Freedom

My mum first suggested I might have aspergers- I did some online tests and I'm getting results that say I probably do (It's from the net, you have to believe it) My brother is autistic, and I can relate to him pretty well. Often when people frustrate me I feel unnaturally violent but I don't act on in, and I often hate it when people don't shut up, particularly my mother. I'm pretty passive agressive, I won't respond if someone is trying to confront me unless they push me to a reaction. I hate eating aorund tables and prefer to be alone ratehr than in big social groups- even groups of 6 can be too much.
I have a good relationship with my boyfriend but dont feel like I can open up to him emotionally, and often say I love him becasue I feel it's apropriate (he says he loves me all the time). His mother, who works with kids with autism and aspergers assures me I show no signs of it, but I dont think she really knows me, and I raelly only see her at his house when there's just her and my boyfriend around, so I feel pretty comfortable.

Is Aspergers something that I should get properly diagnosed by a doctor? It would probably explain a lot to me if I had it...

Yes, I think it would be a good idea to try and get an official diagnosis. The only thing is, it can be a bit of a long process unless you've got a doctor who is knowledgeable about the condition.

Yes, try and get it diagnosed. Maybe a fair doctor you can trust and who really knows what it is, is a good idea.

But try your best to avoid institutional help until you're POSITIVE you need it. Help like that can be the exact opposite of helpful, especially if it's from the wrong person, and there are thousands of wrong people out there.

You should also consider the reason for getting diagnosed - a diagnosis can also work against you (job discrimination etc). If the only reason is your own self comfort I would advise not seeking an official diagnosis and only self-diagnosing with help from a trusted unbiased individual if possible.

But Gareth, I thought discrimination on the job was illegal. I'd tend to lean towards getting an official diagnosis for peace of mind. I don't get as many people hassling me to be perfect now because I can say well I can't do what you want because I have Aspergers.