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I don't like self-diagnosing myself with anything but I'm pretty sure I have AS. It's funny I don't even want to be saying that either...because then again maybe I don't have it. That's the conundrum of self-diagnosis.

But on to the subject: I think the problems I've been having in my life (I'm 28 already) have gone too far and I'm wishing for some diagnosis...something..to explain my difficulties...

I have such difficulty on the job front. I just quit my job at a fast food place (pure hell...but then again fast food is the story of my life) and have not been able to find a job since. I hate the social interaction of a job. I have nothing in common with co-workers.

I have severe anxiety about going out to look for a job. To me: that spells D-O-O-M. This is your life, my mind says to me. This leads to depression. Because I'm very career-minded. But it's just something I can't grasp.

My interests and obsessions control my life. Even back when I was a little girl. My biggest obsession is the bass guitar. I would be content having a career of teaching lessons from my home. I used to constantly practice when I wasn't working. 10 hours a day. I have an obsession with playing classical music (odd thing for such an instrument). Then I'd have a job and I would be lost because I wouldn't be able to put in that time to practice. I've been in bands, but I hate being in bands. I crave being onstage but I hate the process of interacting with the musicians. Although playing gigs is a wonderful experience.

Another obsession is knowledge in general. This obsession started when I was in high school. Maybe I wasn't getting the education I wanted in high school but I started reading subjects I couldn't get in high school like astronomy and philosophy. I had a psychology class in 12th grade and became obsessed with that subject. i read too much.

I'm also a New Age junkie. Anything nature. Anything occult. Especially psychic phenomena. Sometimes I look back and wish I could have been a professional Tarot reader.

I mean, there's just too many things. None of which are any help to me on the job front.

No one at Burger King wants to have a philosophical conversation with you or talk about the literary works of Camus.

i'm terrible at job interviews. I can't make eye contact. I'm sure the employer can just read through me that I don't really want this job, it's just going to help me pay the rent, but that's all.

I come off lazy to people when it comes to the job front. And I'm not lazy. I can't keep a job because it becomes too overwhelming and it's difficult for me to find new ones. This is the vicious cycle I've been in for 10 years now.

I wish a had someone to talk to, some counseling, to help me figure out just what is wrong with me. I can't afford counseling or pyschologists. No insurance. Nothing.
You oughta be able to go to vocational rehab in your area.   Some guys (happen to be all guys) at the AS meetup my husband and I went to in our area had got a lot of help from Voc Rehab.  They got their dx there and some work counselling, too.  This is a free thing, as far as I know.  Like it's paid by the state, from taxes, or something.

PS:  Try http://aspergers.meetup.com/ and put in your ZIP code.  May find ppl to talk to whom you do have something in common with.
Sorry to be so off-topic, but I think there's some sort of link between asperger's and preferring Bass to normal guitar. I'm sure there's some sort of explaination for that...
Thanks Natalia! I will check that out.

I haven't done any research on the bass and AS. I have an acoustic guitar that I played before picking up the bass. I did find myself more attracted to the bass.

Maybe it's the lower frequencies. I don't know. I like it's meditative quality, personally. On the other hand nothing is worse than the sound of nothing but bass blaring out of a car or a next door neighbor's house with music blasting.
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