Aspies For Freedom

Well all has been going so good for my daughter in her first year of middle school, they had their first dance after school on tuesday, Haley was so excited, she was really looking forward to it. :smile:
When i picked her up she was miserable; :cry:  as soon as she was outside and away from everyone else she burst into tears and said mom, I just don't fit in. It broke my heart, all these kids a that are supposed to be her friends completely changed in this atmosphere. They would say Hi, roll their eyes and walk away from her. :roll:
Why do kids have to be that way??? :twisted:
My husband and i sat her down and told her that she will probably go through alot of these situations during her middle school years and that her "friends" acted that way because they to are so very afraid not to "fit in". :?
I explained to her that this is where she should consider herself lucky  :wink: because most likely those kids who are so consumed with fitting in will most likely end up making alot of wrong choices that will negativatly effect the rest of their lives.
We told her tomorrow is another day and we will put this one behind us.
I also reminded her of something to look forward to, she went to an audition last night for our community theaters christmas play, she did great and got a speaking part.  :grin: I had several parents come up to and ask how long she had been acting and commented on how well she acts.
She has only had a short summer drama camp, but is a natural.
She is once again happy and is in a group of people who she "fits in" with much better. Most of the theater people are also unique and are not looked upon as "popular" so i as well as haley are much happier today!!!

If she ever wants to go to a dance again, which by what happened she probably wont, but lets say for all intensive purposes she does. Have her go to the dance with someone, and maybe even make it a sleep over so it forces her friend to be nice to her.

Sorry to hear the dance was disappointing.  In fact, I've come to wonder why schools have the things.  Not a one ever turned out for me like it was supposed to.  Wierd, isn't it?  I love to dance.  But the whole thing isn't about dancing, it's about performing some wierd mating ritual.  Unless you are there with a date and (how do I gently put this?) need to use dancing to express all the other sexuality you are holding back on, it's difficult to see the point to it.  Shoot, and I'm more NT than Aspie.  I did A LOT of dancing in my time!

Lol, man how the world looks different when you are in your late 40's!

I hated high school dances because I was one of the wallflowers. Only the music was fun. Primary school dances were better because you could just fool around and be silly (I don't mean in a sexual way).

Ah school dances. The excitement, the buying pretty clothes, the sheer and utter dissapointment. When Nintendo was still calling their portable game systems, Game Boys. I thought a funny bumper sticker, or t-shirt to have would've been, "My Game Boy took me to prom."

One dance I went to, a classmate's dad said I looked really pretty. She wasn't too nice to me after that. I found out years later that her dad was supposed to have cheated on her mum a fair bit. Maybe she thought he was trying to flirt with me. I didn't take it that way and only said "thank you".

The first time a boy flirted with me was at a youth group function when I was 16. It was so cool but as he was an out of towner, he went away the next day. Some other people were making rude remarks about him so I suppose he didn't realise I was a bit weird. I even acted almost normal for a while which was a big change.

The "sexual dance" we do now is called "Freaking" All the chaperones say we arnt allowed yet everyone still does it.

Of course, I'll bet there are still wallflowers even these days - the danceless and dateless.

I don't think you're sick at all for wanting to trip that little girl. She probably deserved it.

All the best with your daughter's drama classes. That would probably be a very good thing for her to be involved in.

I think tripping that girl would've been too good for her. I'd be more for telling her, that nobody likes a sadist and that's what she is. That she'll always live her life being crippled by her hatred and sadism for others, and that she is someone who deserves pity because she is truely sick without a cure.

I'll bet this horrible little girl overheard her mum saying autistic kids shouldn't be allowed to live and not being bright enough to know any better, just repeated it.

There probably isn't too bright a future for her but I guess while there's life there's hope.

I don't really belive in the whole, the child is the victim of their parents bad thinking/behaviour. The girl could've decided to be nice instead of being mean. She probaly was just upset that she didn't get to cheat off of JuliaShaye's daughter's test.

That could easily be the case. It is also obvious from quite an early age that some kids are not nice. I just meant that she didn't have a positive role model to counterract her bad behaviour. Any decent parent if they became aware of what she was saying would have corrected her very swiftly.

The mean girl needs slapping down (in a figurative sense).

Yes, it's like the mother bear instinct when her cub is threatened.