Was a bit odd though... I definately felt 'strange' compared to most of the other students. Like- they all seem to know each other's names... I'm just starting to recognise faces that seem vaguely familiar. I got carted off to the student bar by two students I dont know but who seem to know me on Thursday and it was OK, but afterwards i thought I might have been rude because I didnt say anything and left before they did (I wanted to use the toilets before my lecture and they had just started eating and were obviously going to be late- I HATE being late) but then thought maybe they thought it was rude. and I certainly didnt come away with anyone's mobile number whereas on Thursday (we werent in Friday) everyone seemed to be amassing huge amounts of mobile numbers and planning to ring each other???
Hm
Beth
The way that everyone expects to chat on the phone 24/7 is a problem for me. I have a mobile, but ask people to 'text' me on it wherever possible.
You were quite right to be on time for your first lecture, the first lesson is vital to be at. You can take satisfaction in knowing that those two who chose to stay in the canteen are probably unlikely to get into the second-year, if they have an attitude like that.
Beware of slackers who will try to make 'friends' with you just in order to leech off of your assignments and your library work. Try to team up with other intelligent nerds - you might ask people what their 'special interest' is (a good question that other high-functioning aspies will 'get' the real meaning of). If they answer, "er.. getting drunk and boys/girls" then you known pretty much that they're a neurotypical. Then ask a few other questions to try to figure out if they're really interested in the subjects they're studying. Hook up with the friendly oddballs who are also intelligent and studious - you might try to start a suitable official campus 'society' to draw those kind of people to you. Say a "museums and galleries visits" society, or a deviantart society, or similar.
Might also be a good idea to stay away from booze for the first year, if only to save money so you don't have to get a part-time job.
Thanks Futurilla! I'll take some of that advice
I should have mentioned I'm a mature student and not living on campus etc. so that makes it easier, there's less expectation to get drunk and make a prat of yourself. I didnt drink at the student bar I sat and ate my packed lunch which i'm now worried perhaps wasnt the thing to do either as they were selling food... but I'll soon have no money and put on even more weight if i eat chips every day. Plus my packed lunches are balanced and healthy and nicer anyway... but maybe I should have bought a coke or juice or something.
I think I'll stick with the other mature students, if possible. I'm guessing its difficult for the regular students to understand why you cant 'chill' I suppose but then they can go home and work at their leisure whereas I have to fetch Boy, make sure he has decent meals, play with him, iron and clean and do my part time job as well (yeah... i cant afford not to... at least its relevent to the degree) so it really isnt OK to slack off while at uni cos I'll never catch up.
I guess maybe a small part of me was hoping I wouldnt be the oddball nerd... :roll: :roll: :roll:
hey I dont really care
Ok someone commented this week that i hadnt found a peer group and asked me if I minded??
i didnt know what to say.
yes, i do but then no i dont either because i'm used to it and its always been that way??
I'm friendly with everyone but I dont think i am friends with anyone... but apparently this is dreadful and wrong and I feel most inadequate...
I have acquaintances but very few real friends and don't think it is anything to worry about.
I never even grduated high school.
Kinda happy about it becuz the way other aspies describe such college experiences seem scary.
