09-22-2006, 09:53 PM
Hi! I joined this site last week or maybe 2 weeks ago. I have been reading up a ton on Asperger's since a friend told me her son was recently diagnosed. She always felt there was something "wrong" with him and I always told her he was fine b/c he acted just like my son. ANyway, after reading up on it, I am sure that *I* have it, and also my 7yo son. I'm 30 years old, so I don't feel the need to bother w/ diagnosis for myself since I've learned how to play the game, although I do plan on getting counseling for depression (b/c I get TIRED of playing the game and people get on my nerves!)
But I want to get help w/ my son so he doesn't have as hard of a time as I did when I was a kid. I didn't know anything about ASD 2 years ago when ds was in Kindy, but I had heard of SID. I wanted him to get tested for that. His ped convinced me that ds was normal, just "immature" and we didn't have anything done. We did see a counselor twice, but we didn't go back after the 2nd time b/c she made me so mad. I told her about how I couldn't take ds grocery shopping b/c he would completely lose it in the store (temper tantrums, inconsolable sobbing.) She had a "talk" with him about it and told him that she expected him to do better and for me to have good things to say about his behavior in the store the next time we saw her. GRRRRR!!!! Yeah, like he'd act like that if he had any control!?!
Right now, I am homeschooling him b/c he was so miserable in school. But I can't get him to want to do anything and I hate forcing him. All he wants to do is watch tv and play video games. He is probably ahead of most kids his age in math and definitely in reading, so I'm ok w/ not pushing it for now, but I need him to start doing some work! He won't even go outside. It's not healthy, but I don't know how to get him interested in other things. But I don't like forcing him. Lots of people tell me to force him. I did make him play soccer last spring and he loved it while he was there (although, like me, he's not the most coordinated kid out there), but I'm not sure if it was worth the fight getting there. Plus *I* hate having to leave the house and be amongst all those strangers, IYKWIM.
What steps do I need to take to get him diagnosed? Part of the problem is that we don't have regular insurance. My dh is a grad student (chemistry) and I am staying home w/ the kids right now (I also have a degree in chemistry), so we're pretty poor and the kids have Medicaid. It's hard to find docs who take Medicaid, let alone shrinks. We are in IN, my dh is at Purdue.
I've had people tell me to take him to a psychologist, someone else said psychiatrist, another person said OT, and yet another said I should see all 3!!! WTH!? What do you suggest? TIA!
Wendy
But I want to get help w/ my son so he doesn't have as hard of a time as I did when I was a kid. I didn't know anything about ASD 2 years ago when ds was in Kindy, but I had heard of SID. I wanted him to get tested for that. His ped convinced me that ds was normal, just "immature" and we didn't have anything done. We did see a counselor twice, but we didn't go back after the 2nd time b/c she made me so mad. I told her about how I couldn't take ds grocery shopping b/c he would completely lose it in the store (temper tantrums, inconsolable sobbing.) She had a "talk" with him about it and told him that she expected him to do better and for me to have good things to say about his behavior in the store the next time we saw her. GRRRRR!!!! Yeah, like he'd act like that if he had any control!?!
Right now, I am homeschooling him b/c he was so miserable in school. But I can't get him to want to do anything and I hate forcing him. All he wants to do is watch tv and play video games. He is probably ahead of most kids his age in math and definitely in reading, so I'm ok w/ not pushing it for now, but I need him to start doing some work! He won't even go outside. It's not healthy, but I don't know how to get him interested in other things. But I don't like forcing him. Lots of people tell me to force him. I did make him play soccer last spring and he loved it while he was there (although, like me, he's not the most coordinated kid out there), but I'm not sure if it was worth the fight getting there. Plus *I* hate having to leave the house and be amongst all those strangers, IYKWIM.
What steps do I need to take to get him diagnosed? Part of the problem is that we don't have regular insurance. My dh is a grad student (chemistry) and I am staying home w/ the kids right now (I also have a degree in chemistry), so we're pretty poor and the kids have Medicaid. It's hard to find docs who take Medicaid, let alone shrinks. We are in IN, my dh is at Purdue.
I've had people tell me to take him to a psychologist, someone else said psychiatrist, another person said OT, and yet another said I should see all 3!!! WTH!? What do you suggest? TIA!
Wendy