Aspies For Freedom

You know what I agree with you frazz. Why fake something? Some NT's seem to fake their entire life.

People are constantly asking me "what's wrong" or making comments like "smile, it's not so bad". Apparently I look pretty sad when my face is in neutral position. Whenever people draw attention to it, then I find it that much harder to smile. I am not a sad person by nature, and I am not sitting around depressed. But, I don't understand the fake smile and why some people are smiling when they aren't happy. A smile to me means you are happy, and it shouldn't be your neutral facial expression. I'll never understand that.

My face clearly shows my feelings. So does my words. I mean what I say. Right now I am a little upset for instance. I do not lie about it. A smile is not default (now I am starting to get angry). I don't get why people fake something on the outside and send a subtle message and exept other people to read it! Most NT's can't understand each other that way, so why to people expect us to?

We just happen to be more honest than they are most of the time and they resent that. I think that is the case anyway.

I get the exact same treatment - being told to smile and that. Also, when I am smiling, it's typically either something that only I find amusing and others don't pick up on or something that's in my head only. Then I'm badgered about why the *** hell I'm smiling. It's as though they're immediately hostile to anything they don't understand.

I usually get the "are you upset?" question too. It's very annoying to have people constantly harp on the fact that I'm not smiling. Heck, I even had one girl in highschool start prosthelityzing (sp?) to me because she thought I "needed help". Then again in college I had to deal with the same thing--which I quickly learned to deflect by being absolutely obnoxious. Now I just deal with it, but it's still enough to make me sigh.

And no, I don't like smiling for pictures either. A little smile I can deal with making but toothy grins are only okay on some people (babies pull them off very well), not me.

I remember that for about 6 months I litterally forgot how to smile... scary... I really need to do something about that... If I'm that unhappy... I remember when I was taking pictures for school one day I had a meltdown over smiling in the pictures... I saw no reason to smile therefore I didn't... I couldn't understand what was wrong with it... I remember recently when I just randomly was smiling without noticing and everyone bothered me about it...

That reminds me... when I had that meltdown over smiling... wouldn't that send up a huge red flage saying aspie...

Probably comes with the logical thinking...
Anyway...
I tend to smile at all of the wrong times...
Maybe I should give up...
Maybe they could conform to me for once...

Yeah, me too.

I like photography too, I just dislike having my photo taken, I know... I'm a hypocrit... Whenever I smile on comand its always obviously fake...

My mom is a big fanatics in taking pictures, loads and loads of photo albums, so I am more or less "conditioned" in having to put up a fake smile for taking pictures.  As I grow older though, I learnt that I don't have to smile so I do it less often, but I usually just do it for the sake of getting them to stfu.

I like taking pictures of other people but am not so fussed on having them taken of me.

i get comments when i smile,but im a gloomy git anywho.
oh,and i always smile at innappropriate moments

It's annoying when you keep getting asked "what's up" when there is nothing wrong. i don't mind so much if it's someone that genuinely cares about me though.

a smile is my reaction to every NT interaction i dont know hwo to respond to, if i smile they eitehr dont give me ***, or tehy get mad becuase tehrye apparently scolding me and i have to smirk at how stupid they sound.