My mom always calls me names like "Honey" or "Sweetie" when she is impatient with me, and it really bothers me. I told her not to call me that for a very long time, but she never listened to me. She just makes excuses, such as "it is my automatic response." I use to make a big fuss, but now I just give her the look. I'd rather she'd just call me by my actual name. I don't mind if my mom's friends or my BF call me "honey," because they're just trying to be nice. But my mom calls me honey EXCLUSIVELY while she is angry! :angry:
What should I do?
Call her a name back that she doesn't like. See how she responds.
Seems like an attempt to manipulate your feelings. She has probably learned that doing so makes it easier to influence people, and thus it has become the default response. The fact that she persists in doing it after all this time despite your reactions suggest that she has consciously decided to keep doing it, however.
Unless you can think of some way to convince her to stop, there is nothing you can do about it. You can probably use it to your own advantage as a warning signal, however; whenever she calls you something like that, you know she is trying to influence you.
I wish I could convince my parents to stop calling me autistic.
I wish I could convince my parents to stop calling me autistic.
Be proud. Although it is difficult when its the primary introductory trait. Whenever we get a new neighbour, my mother always mentions autism within about 3 sentences.
My son doesn't like many of the endearments I use with him, and he simply tells me. OK, bad habits die hard, and I personally like the endearments, but it is important to me that he be happy, too. He'll keep reminding; I'll keep trying. Have an honest conversation with your mom about it, again, and again ... and then be patient.
Thanks for your advice. I'm just going to try to ignore the endearments, because my mom really can't control herself in situations like this.