Aspies For Freedom

I've been best friends with her for bout 5 years & she hasnt known me before I started taking my meds. But I've had to *try* & explain some of the obvious things to her like no empathy & being way to honest. The 1st time I really had to explain AS to her was bout 2 years ago cos her Grandpa died & I just made a comment bout not caring if most of my relatives dropped dead right that second, the only relatives I'm close with are my imediate family & my grandma. When I made the comment she was like "Oh ur nice" so I had to explain bout the no empathy. Also when I'm a jerk to her on the phone most of the time she knows its cos of my AS so I wont hide/hold *anything* back, I'll call her a stupid *** if shes done something stupid. But I'll just generally but a ****. Though shes told me I can still be REALLY mean without even trying. She knows Im honest now, I think thats why we get along so well, no offence to her but shes slightly slow, shes not ***, but shes just slow enough to be a prob. So I'll tell her wats up right off the bat & if she starts annoying me she'll know about it & stop...

though explaining those 2 aspects was slightly diff, I cant explain things at all. I'll think I'm making perfect sense in my head & everyone else is like, say that again :S so then I say it again & they still dont understand & then I get frustrated cos to me it makes perfect sense & then they get frustrated cos I'm getting so worked up & they cant figure out what Im saying. I dont explain things anymore if I dont have to, its not worth it they dont get me anyway...

I don't like it when I have to keep up with different people in a conversation or wait for my turn (normally, this would bother me in a big group). It's like I am trying to juggle with different topics, not to mention that I have to keep looking at all these different people, wait for my turn, give someone else a turn, talk to this guy, talk to that guy, start a new topic, etc, etc. It's tedious but I'm not a particularly introverted person so  it's a little easier for me than others.

How much work it takes, and how horribly difficult it is. How you have to keep up with the use of nonverbal communication, which is absolutely difficult to do for me.

I have the same problem, it's hard to make friends since I can't find anyone to relate to. Before I found out about having aspies I thought I was basically insane(although I know I really wasn't.

Wait....that doesn't make any sense, but neither do I.

I think it is hard to ask people for something , and to socialise with people I hardly know.

Difficult or impossible:

-Remembering people's faces and names
-Making small talk (Um, what am I supposed to say next?)
-Maintaining friendships (staying in contact)
-Pretending to care when I don't (empathy)
-Saying socially acceptable things (I always screw that up and offend people)

Easy to figure out:

-Reading body language (I've read a couple of books on the subject. It doesn't come naturally but it's easy.)
-Turning acquaintances into friends (People like it when you want to be their friend, so you just have to ask them if they want to join you for some activity. If they say yes then you can be friends. I don't do it a lot but if I want to try then I don't have trouble doing it.)