06-06-2006, 04:12 PM
10-14-2006, 01:00 PM
We have this set-up at work where if you want a promotion, you have to go through all this rigmarole with writing out a job application, going to an interview and getting supervisor reports.
I typically did fine with the supervisor reports and written applications but sucked at the interviews so only got one promotion. I don't even bother now as the aggravation and only slightly higher pay isn't worth it to me.
But, I know a man with AS who is very smart with computers and statistics. He has applied for dozens of promotions in the same organisation and always missed out and yet he has good speaking skills.
I guess because we don't fit the mould, we miss out. He dresses well, but I don't. Clothes are not very important to me.
I typically did fine with the supervisor reports and written applications but sucked at the interviews so only got one promotion. I don't even bother now as the aggravation and only slightly higher pay isn't worth it to me.
But, I know a man with AS who is very smart with computers and statistics. He has applied for dozens of promotions in the same organisation and always missed out and yet he has good speaking skills.
I guess because we don't fit the mould, we miss out. He dresses well, but I don't. Clothes are not very important to me.
10-14-2006, 10:15 PM
Off the top, reading the above post, has me thinking that Apsie's need to carefully choose the organizations they go to work for. What does it take to get ahead? What is valued?
The accounting firm I spent most of my career years in was a fantastic and unique place. They valued smarts and the ability to produce, beginning and end of it. They figured they could teach people to dress well, teach them to chat with potential clients, and so forth ... but they couldn't teach them to be brilliant. I so wish more firms were like that. Totally marverick, and proud of it.
Sad to say, it's gone. Merged into a beaurocratic plain vanilla firm.
But, still, companies like that form all the time. Smaller, more flexible, and not afraid to take risks with people. It's the only type of place I've ever worked for, really. I've never worked for a large corporation. I can't imagine all the formalized steps. I just want to do well and be appreciated for it.
Do these small places exist forever? No. But it's fun to be there for 5, 7 years and then find another like it.
I may not be Aspie myself, but I'm sure I've worked with a few. Following work that is interesting, instead of tying themselves to a large, dull, corporation.
Just a thought.
I guess I get a little frustrated seeing so many smart, talented adults on forum accepting what the world is giving them, and languishing, when there MUST be a better fit out there. Maybe I'm not being realistic, but I want more for myself, and I want more for my child, and I want more for you.
The accounting firm I spent most of my career years in was a fantastic and unique place. They valued smarts and the ability to produce, beginning and end of it. They figured they could teach people to dress well, teach them to chat with potential clients, and so forth ... but they couldn't teach them to be brilliant. I so wish more firms were like that. Totally marverick, and proud of it.
Sad to say, it's gone. Merged into a beaurocratic plain vanilla firm.
But, still, companies like that form all the time. Smaller, more flexible, and not afraid to take risks with people. It's the only type of place I've ever worked for, really. I've never worked for a large corporation. I can't imagine all the formalized steps. I just want to do well and be appreciated for it.
Do these small places exist forever? No. But it's fun to be there for 5, 7 years and then find another like it.
I may not be Aspie myself, but I'm sure I've worked with a few. Following work that is interesting, instead of tying themselves to a large, dull, corporation.
Just a thought.
I guess I get a little frustrated seeing so many smart, talented adults on forum accepting what the world is giving them, and languishing, when there MUST be a better fit out there. Maybe I'm not being realistic, but I want more for myself, and I want more for my child, and I want more for you.
10-15-2006, 04:54 AM
Yes, I get bored where I work because if I get good at anything they take it off me and give it to someone else who will just usually stuff it up. I told the boss I get a lot of feeling of personal worth and self esteem from being an expert in one thing. He said I could be good at anything I wanted to.
He's nice but he doesn't realise that I don't want to be good at everything. I'm happier to be adequate at several things and really brilliant at one or two. Some other managers told me I shouldn't want to shine as "what about the people who aren't as bright as you who mightn't understand".
Well, so what? That's not my problem. They wouldn't hesitate to leave me behind if our positions were reversed so I don't see why I should be responsible for them as well as myself.
Some of these same people have dobbed on me to my bosses because they were jealous that I was smarter than them. They ought to have realised that maybe they were better at some things than me eg. cooking, sport, housework.
Just looking after myself gets too much sometimes and so I'm considering asking the boss if I can work part-time as I get way behind with shopping and housework, not to mention things I enjoy doing at thome.
He's nice but he doesn't realise that I don't want to be good at everything. I'm happier to be adequate at several things and really brilliant at one or two. Some other managers told me I shouldn't want to shine as "what about the people who aren't as bright as you who mightn't understand".
Well, so what? That's not my problem. They wouldn't hesitate to leave me behind if our positions were reversed so I don't see why I should be responsible for them as well as myself.
Some of these same people have dobbed on me to my bosses because they were jealous that I was smarter than them. They ought to have realised that maybe they were better at some things than me eg. cooking, sport, housework.
Just looking after myself gets too much sometimes and so I'm considering asking the boss if I can work part-time as I get way behind with shopping and housework, not to mention things I enjoy doing at thome.