Aspies For Freedom

Aaaaggh, the gym class experience!  Whatever I am, diagnostically speaking, I never quite fit in with the peer group, and  in the shower room after gym class, this bratty popular girl made fun of my underwear and my TOES for godsake.  Fortunately I developed a painful condition in the cartilage of my knees and was medically excused from gym class for all of high school! :grin:   For what it's worth, everybody seems to get stuck in the pecking order in school, including the "normal" ones...but who am I kidding, we who are more obviously different are LOWER in the order, and it sucks, and I would say, spend as much time as you can either peacefully alone :smile: (ah, solitude), or in the company of others like you, whether in your community or on this site...wherever you can.  You WILL get through school and make your contributions to the world, and to hell with the petty little b@#$%es whose greatest accomplishment is their "success" at blending in with the so-called normals.  

"Living well is the best revenge"---I forget who said it but I like it! :grin:

Alison, good for you!!!! :grin: So proud of the successful nerds!  Now that I too am (belatedly) accepting my own eccentricity, maybe I can start to get out of my own way & succeed as well!  Thank you for such a great "revenge" story and good for you that you are writing & publishing!  I'm going to remember this post every time I am tempted YET AGAIN to regress into self-loathing and those pointless resolutions to "make myself over" and get with the conventional program.  You keep doing your thing & I hope to hear from you again soon! :grin:

I haven't been to any of my reunions.  Don't see the point, since my impression is that they are all about comparisons, and by conventional standards I have not done anything impressive with my life.  When I was in eighth grade, one of my classmates wrote in my yearbook, "I expect to read about you in the encyclopedia one day."  I was never popular but my potential was respected.  Echh...no need to be reminded of THAT.  The good thing is, I HAVE used my intelligence, over the last 20-odd years, to (gradually) figure out why I am different, why I am not motivated to do the same things most of my peers are doing.  I am not really an obvious, textbook case of ANY one diagnostic category; as I've said in a past post, it's more as if I was born with several of my internal knobs tweaked about 1/16 of a turn away from "normal"---no one system is drastically impaired, but the cumulative effect of all that subtle eccentricity has been a loss of focus & mental engagement in the world, the result being what APPEARS to be a pathetically wasted life.  It's taken me till middle age :? to begin to see that I may have been judging myself, all along, by standards I was not designed to meet!  :idea:  With that in mind, I can stop comparing myself to everybody else...but going to a class reunion at this point would still be an exercise in masochism, so I'm going to skip 'em all till further notice!

Ugg.  Mich I know exactly what you are talking about.  Gym is an absolutely horable thing for me.  The worst is changing blaa.  not only do I hate changing in a room ful of people but I am EXTREMELY ungraceful at it.  Fell on the floar so many times last year wasent even funny.  I also don't do well at the sports that were in the class I signed up for fresman year, but I absolutely did not want to do swimmin, soccer, and tennis you have to have your own racket for.  The worst part is I still have another semester to take of it next year.  My stupid school requiers 1/2 credit of P.E. to graduate, and each semester is only 1/4.  Wissh I could take it during summer but mom wouldent let me.  

I don't know how old you are, but if you have the chance to take gym in hte summer take it.  People are much more likely to make fun of you, and it is a lot easier.  Have you ever had it where you have to pair in partners, but there is an odd number of people in the class.  That happend absolutely every day last year.  Take a guess who was hitting (okay whell attempting  to hit) a birdie against bleacher.  At least the bleachers provide nice conversation. (I was not actualy talking to bleachers by the way(.

Good luck with the stupid NT's.

Gym...horrible memories.  :evil:

I hated gym with a passion, not for the physical part (which I dont like, but its ok) but the kids of course. I was teased a lot as well, I couldnt play "their" games very well..and they sure as hell let me know about it. I did my best to hide, and not be noticed. I cant even begin to explain all the various times that gym totally ruined my day, or even week. All because of some stupid comment some kid (or group of kids) would make.

However, on the bright side I got sick in high school (hard to say thats good, but it is sort of) and I ended up getting out of gym, and eventually public school alltogether.

Best I can say is just ignore them, and get through it the best you can. Not everyone is good at everything, but why they have to pick on us is beyond me. I dont go up to them now and ask why they are so stupid in general....maybe I should.

No matter how good you are as a person, if you are physically weak, you are bound to be scorned. Animals.

i once spent a whole lesson standing in the foul zone playing baseball, and nobody not even the teacher bothered to tell me, then after the game my "team" teased me and complained that i wasnt helping the team..

Fair Play!

Sounds like my life!  I don't absorb enough information, about games or work procedures or anything new, just by watching others, and I don't generalize from one situation to another; things need to be explained to me. Certainly that made my attempts at grade-school socializing difficult, never knowing what to do & not knowing how everybody ELSE knew!  But recess was fine if I could pace alone or swing in a swing & be alone with my thoughts...good times. :smile:

That's quite a rude thing to say. Especially for the fact that you dislike Neurotypical people simply on their normalness. You will find untrustworthy people with any mental condition or disability, or people with none at all. I find that quite offensive.