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More BS about Autism Speaks 'Autism every day'.

Uses of Disenchantment:TV Anchor-Mom Fights Autism and Films It

By Ron Rosenbaum

I want to talk about something barbaric and something beautiful and heroic. Also about a buried Freudian scandal involving Bruno Bettelheim and refrigerators. Let me explain.

It was prompted by the ordeal my longtime friends Lauren Thierry and Jim Watkins and their son Liam have been going through.

Lauren and Jim are two exemplary New Yorkers, people blessed with talent, smarts, charm and kindness; Jim’s a much-admired anchor for the WB-11 News at Ten, Lauren was a rising star anchoring financial news on CNN for five years. I say “was” because, five years ago, she abandoned her job to care full time for Liam after he was diagnosed with autism.

I used to spend a lot of time on the phone with Lauren, gossiping about people in the media. But after the diagnosis, most of my conversations with Lauren were conducted from her car phone as she was driving Liam all over the tristate area, telling me about her maddening search for a decent school and therapy for her child.

It’s a reminder how fate can step in and suddenly, utterly and terribly turn the enviable lives of people you know into a nightmare—and a challenge. But in a way, I didn’t fully understand until I saw the short documentary film Lauren made about the lives of mothers of autistic kids.

The film, Autism Every Day, has caught on. On May 10, Don Imus played it in its entirety on his MSNBC morning show; NBC chairman Robert Wright and his wife, Suzanne—their daughter Katie has an autistic child—are said to be taking a longer version of it to Sundance. And Suzanne Wright and Mr. Imus’ wife Deirdre hand-delivered DVD’s of it to every member of Congress, because there’s now a bill pending, the Combating Autism Act—but more about that later.

First I want tell you about the film. It’s less than 15 minutes long, but it’s a killer. It will break your heart; it will make you cry—I guarantee it. It’s skillfully done, in a low-key way that recognizes there’s no need to hype the emotionalism. The matter-of-fact-ness is enough, almost too much. The dailiness is the point. (You can watch it yourself at www.   autismspeaks. org/sponsoredevents/ autism_every_day.php on the autismspeaks.org Web site.)

The film consists mainly of interviews with mothers (and scenes of them with their autistic children), mothers whose lives have been utterly transformed. The situation of these mothers is just unrelieved, unrelenting. Many if not most autistic kids are not merely withdrawn and silent, they are often constantly, violently—often self-destructively—acting out. There’s no break from the nonstop attention and protection these children require. The mothers describe incidents in which the kids have escaped their houses and heedlessly run out into traffic.

And it’s a lifelong condition. So far, at least, there’s no hope that it will ever cease, no agreement on cause and little agreement about treatment, although almost all of the treatment regimes are hideously elaborate and totally time-consuming. One of the most devastating segments of the film is the one in which mothers offer variations on “I can’t die” or “I have to live forever,” because no one else will know exactly how to care for their kids.

Public schools with their special-education classes are almost without exception utterly unequipped and under-funded to provide the care needed.

What’s beautiful about Lauren’s film is the love these mothers radiate, the strength, humor and hope they display despite it all. Yes, other mothers whose children have other afflictions feel similarly powerful love and pain. What’s particularly barbaric about autism is a society—and a health-care system—that does nothing for them.

Recently, I had dinner with Lauren and Jim (who has been working his butt off on behalf of the cause as well—he’s worked with Mets C.O.O. Jeff  Wilpon and executive vice president Dave Howard in rallying the whole Mets organization for the kids). Over dinner, they told me some good news and some bad news. The good news was that after years of trying one school of therapy after another, they’d finally found a method that was producing some slow, painstaking but heartening progress for Liam, something called Applied Behavioral Analysis. It’s incredibly demanding, repetitive, and time- and labor-intensive, but they’ve seen hope for the first time.

The bad news was that the combination of therapists, special schools and other caregivers was costing them $150,000 a year
, and they’ve had to adjust to substantially altered living circumstances for a family that includes their two other non-autistic children, their twins Jamie and Luke. (Medicaid helps some families, but the fact that we have no national health insurance for all is a scandal).

All because—and this is the barbaric part—most insurance companies won’t cover this, or indeed most therapies for autism. Imagine what this means for all the families who don’t have other means.
http:// http://www.observer. com/20060605/20060605_Ron_Rosenbaum_pageone_ronrosenbaum-2.asp


That film certainly made me feel like crying, because it was so nasty! :mad:

And if the ABA is so demanding and labour intensive, why on earth are they expecting small children to do it???
why should we all pay for the unnesscary thearpies that parents put these children through which in many cases is a toture chamber for the children?  i certinley dont want to pay for oppression.

and why does anyone with autstic people automatically have a nightmare life?  obsurd.  and these people are trying to make sure that every autistic is a second class citizen...i would hate for that to happen.

and i bet the video would break everyone's heart, becuase it was sick and digusting the way they protay us.  they say we are evil and we need to lose.

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Many if not most autistic kids are not merely withdrawn and silent, they are often constantly, violently—often self-destructively—acting out.


now that's a very biased and inaccurate statement.  another protyral of us being monsters...exactly what they want us to be.  why not just say autistics are evil or something? :evil:

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And it’s a lifelong condition. So far, at least, there’s no hope that it will ever cease, no agreement on cause and little agreement about treatment, although almost all of the treatment regimes are hideously elaborate and totally time-consuming. One of the most devastating segments of the film is the one in which mothers offer variations on “I can’t die” or “I have to live forever,” because no one else will know exactly how to care for their kids.


so autism is despair and the abyss and hellish and (insert bad words here), and hope is to not be autistic.  i don't think so.  i have bad days, but all of life isn't bad and despair.

i hope autism speaks doens't win...becuase everyone will lose.

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What’s beautiful about Lauren’s film is the love these mothers radiate, the strength, humor and hope they display despite it all.


Yeah, the mom who said she wanted to drive her car off of a bridge with her son in it was really "radiating love."  :evil:

That video is so one-sided and doesn't take into account the whole spectrum of autism. It's just a marketing tool to make people feel sad, and then donate money! It's outrageous and unrepresentative of many children with autism, and any reputable autism organization would know that.

And what's really ironic is that Autism Speaks does nothing to help these families! They say that special education is underfunded, but are they funding it? Are they funding positive support groups for families, etc?

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And Suzanne Wright and Mr. Imus’ wife Deirdre hand-delivered DVD’s of it to every member of Congress, because there’s now a bill pending, the Combating Autism Act

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Should USA residents write their congress people to let them know how untruthful this video is? That makes me very worried considering the ridiculus "Combating Autism Act." I hope this video doesn't lead more people to want to sponsor the bill!  Sad

And what's really ironic is that Autism Speaks does nothing to help these families! They say that special education is underfunded, but are they funding it? Are they funding positive support groups for families, etc?

So true!
Maybe we should make a video of autism parents saying how much they love their kids.
If people sent mpgs to us, simply saying 'I am a parent to an autistic child, and I love them' or similar.
Without all the tantrums and hype.

Think its possible? I am desperate to do something to counter this evil negativity and self serving, money grabbing from Autism Speaks!

Can anyone post on forums asking for short mpgs from parents stating that they love and care about their children?
amy@aspiesforfreedom.com

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Maybe we should make a video of autism parents saying how much they love their kids. If people sent mpgs to us, simply saying 'I am a parent to an autistic child, and I love them' or similar. Without all the tantrums and hype.


I think that is a great idea! Parents could also talk about their daily lives (how they're not always horrible) and what specific gifts and joy that their children bring to their lives. Maybe call it "Autistics Every Day." We need to do something to combat the negative stereotypes, and something that would cause a positive emotional reaction in parents, as I think this video would, is a good thing.

Yes, we are just chatting about it now in the chatroom, most formats for video will be fine.
If anyone can make something, it does not have to show the child (as they do not need to be made a spectacle of, unlike on Autism every day).

Basically anything positive would be great.

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I could do a piece about how there are some places (like my high school) where people are accepting of aspies, and show me and some other aspies who go here hanging with our friends and enjoying the classes.  It would help show that a large part of the problem is NTs being intolerant, not aspies being difficult.

I could show my parents yelling at me, too, so they could see what WE have to put up with, thus countering the Autism Speaks video showing only what THEY put up with.



We can make two (we have the skills and energy!) one showing how we live with NTs and that its not easy. And one showing parents and autistics who are HAPPY and not in woeful suffering.

I have posted this on a forum.

Would anyone who is interested in being part of a simple autism project be able to take a small video clip, such as an mpg, and describe how they care for and love their child with autism. The child need not be featured. The point is to show something positive, when so many people have a negative view of autism, and think children on the spectrum are weird, etc.

Short, simple video clips will be linked so that people can see the happiness that children on the spectrum can bring, and that its not all negatives.

If you can participate and send a clip please email amy@aspiesforfreedom.com

Full names, or personal details are not needed, any country or language is fine.
"lots of mothers quit their job when they have children, it's called stay at home mom. this precives that autistic children are a pain to take care of and ruin everyone's life. if you are planning to have kids, autistic or not, you should anticapte having to quit your job to take care of them."

I don't see how these days, after a century of women's rights, that women should be forced to give up their career after they have children. First, why can't the man do it instead? For seconds, why are we all accepting the inevitability of privatised child care where the responsibility is dumped on the parents who are expected to just get on with it with just a few measly tax credits as 'help'?
I don't see how these days, after a century of women's rights, that women should be forced to give up their career after they have children.

They shouldn't be forced to give up their career, nor should they be forced to stay in work, when they have a child.
Women fought for the right to choose, not for the right to work solely.
"The bad news was that the combination of therapists, special schools and other caregivers was costing them $150,000 a year,"

Oh now it costs $150,000 instead of $10,000 - $50,000  !

Some people pay more than $10,000 per year for just regular daycare.  
fees from a "good" daycare run at a university:

Fee Schedule
Ages: Infant to 5 years
Hours:7AM to 6PM Weekdays
Fees:
$1415/month Infants
$1200/month Toddlers
$985/month Pre-Schoolers
$985/month Kindergarten


"but the fact that we have no national health insurance for all is a scandal"  this is actually Americans' problem but they refuse to fix it.
"...this is actually Americans' problem but they refuse to fix it..."

Yup.  Our health-care "system" is in a serious mess, mostly, I think, due to the way private and public health insurance is arranged, here.

During the Second World War, somebody in Washington City decided that industrial firms could not compete for good employees by offering better wages, as that might make for wartime inflation of the currency.

There was a loophole, however.  Said industrial enterprises could compete for good skilled help by offering benefits, such as health insurance, which were not taxed as income.

This thing has been with us since then. I think it's had the effect of driving up the price of medical services, because both the providers and consumers of same are confident that somebody else is paying for it.

Of course, if you have a low-paying job with no medical benefits, yer screwed. If you have enough private money of your own to pay your way, yer charged 'way too much, so that the hospitals, etc., can cover the costs of non-prudent people who show up in the emergency room.

There is public funding for emergency treatment, from which nobody may lawfully be turned away, but that seems to have encouraged some socialist-minded folks to use the local hospital's emergency room as their first resort for minor illnesses and injuries, instead of the last resort.
The videos sound like a great idea. it's too bad my mom isn't still living. no matter what i couldn't do and how much trouble i gave her , she always thought i was terrific and liked to say how great her daughter was.she did not think i was victimizing her. she told me once" of course you and your brother were good kids. You didn't become drug addicts, go to jail, or get pregnant in high school".not all parents see their as children as a curse. and i think the ones who hate their children,and see themselves as victims of their children, are making all parents of neurodiverse and disabled children look bad.
Unbelieval,  but I choose to be a stay-at-home wife and we have no children.
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