Aspies For Freedom

I know homosexual is not a disease its a choice. Thank goodness I'm striaght.

Neither Dan nor Chris has mentioned their sexuality.  I suspect that Chris may be straight, since he was sitting with two girls when I approached them.  As for Dan, I'm not really sure.  I don't think he shows as much interest in girls as Chris does.  I need to pay closer attention to their signals.

It's not very obvious to most people that I'm gay.  I've never had to "come out" to anyone at college (though I've done it in high school).  I  think it would be best if I just told them.  I have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  So what if it creeps them out that I'm gay?  If that's the case then I'm really not sure I want to be friends with them.

It's possible that Chris is gay and that those two girls were just his friends.  But on the other hand, maybe he is straight and he wanted to be more than just friends with them.

That's true, especially in my case where I didn't even know them very well in the first place.  So it's not like I'm actually losing close friends.

Actually I was thinking of something along the lines of "what are you doing on Wednesday evening".  (Valentine's Day)  That way, Dan will be more likely to ask me if I'm gay, in which case I will tell him that I am.

I have just 3 hours to go before I see Dan.  I'm kinda nervous about the whole thing, but I know that I will have the courage to talk to him when I see him.  There are so many different ways that this situation could unfold, and no matter what happens, I'll be glad that I told him.

Sorry for the double post, but class starts in 15 minutes.  I should go to class and wait for him.

OK guys, here's what happened:  I got to class, sat down near where Dan would normally sit.  Dan came a few minutes late, and I offered him the seat beside me.  So we sat together for the first half of the class, taking notes.  Then the teacher said we could have a 5-minute break.

So I asked him how he's doing and he said "pretty good".  Then I asked how he was finding the course, and he said, "riveting, very riveting".  Then he went to get a coffee, came back, and I was going to tell him.  But then he started talking on his cellphone and left the room.

When he came back he started talking about the math course we both took last semester.  I could tell by that point that he was a friendly person and that he probably wouldn't get upset if I came out to him.  He mentioned that the math teacher wasn't a very good one, and that most students didn't get very good marks on the course (Dan and myself included).

So then I commented on Dan's big muscles and said "you probably exercise a lot".  He says, "yeah, a little."  I said "do you do it to impress the girls, or the guys?" Dan said "well I used to play rugby, and wanted to look like all the other guys, but I'm not playing this year.  It's kind of a habit."

I realized I got nowhere with that question, so I asked him outright, "I hope you don't mind me asking, do you like girls or do you like guys?"  He said "I like girls".  I said 'dang it', and he said, "so you're a guy guy?" To which I responded "yep." I told him I was kinda glad we had this conversation.  Quite frankly, for the most part, I felt quite relieved to know that he wasn't offended by me being gay and me being attracted to him.

For the second half of the class, we still sat there, taking notes as the teacher was talking.  And I realized, this went far better than I imagined.  I can go to sleep tonight knowing that he knows how I feel about him.

Good night everyone, see you all tomorrow.

Richard

I'm not planning to come out to Chris.  I just don't have a huge crush on him like the huge crush that I have on Dan -- I just think Chris is kinda cute.  There are lots of cute guys at college -- there's really nothing special about him.  Dan, on the other hand, is Hot with a capital H.  Even if Chris were gay, it wouldn't be fair to begin a relationship with him and be thinking of Dan all the time.

Even though Dan told me that he liked girls, I still can't get him out of my head yet.  Maybe it's the fact that we were gazing into each other's eyes as we were talking about our math class last semester and our chemistry class this semester.  Maybe it's the fact that when I asked him who he was trying to impress by having big muscles, he didn't tell me whether he was trying to impress the girls or the guys.  Maybe it's the fact that when I asked him specifically about his sexuality, he mentioned that he liked girls but he didn't say that he didn't like guys.  I think Dan may secretly be bisexual, and I think that's why I'm still thinking about him.

Well, the psychic that I saw today did say that I would turn out to be bi as well, and that Dan and I would be involved with each other.  Also there is a girl/woman coming into the picture, someone who I don't know very well.  Probably Dan's girlfriend wanting a threesome.  Cool.

Have you ever had a crush on a female?

I didn't get a chance to talk to Chris.  It doesn't matter, he's not quite as hot as Dan.  I'll try to talk to Dan again on Monday evening.

Hmmm... nah.  Blond-haired guys are alright but I like brown-haired guys better.  I don't know why.

Coming out to Dan was just a one-time thing.  I don't plan to come out to any other guy, unless he is really, really attractive.  Even then, I'll take things slower and try to pick up on his nonverbal signals.

Have you dated bi males as well?

I guess I could say that I'm bi, I have a little bit of interest in the opposite sex (even though I'm mostly attracted to the same sex).