Gay and Aspie,
Yep that's me. My BF is strictly speaking NT but he has severe depression so he 'pings' if that makes sense.
We do frustrate eachother at times but that happens in all relationships.
The only thing I find most frustrating is when sharing (we only have one computer with net access - something that's a limitation of the hardware) involves me stopping in the middle of something I really want to do.
I guess this is a hyper-focus issue, and I know I do hyper-focus.
blah.. I'm going off on a tangent
I do that a lot too.
Socially speaking, we both perfer a closed group of friends, we both dislike the club scene (besides it crap here), and we're both Roleplaying Geeks. So.. I guess there's a tripple banger for you.
Gay, Aspie, Roleplaying geek.
I always think a better way of meeting a compatible partner (whatever your sexual orientation) is through similar interests.
*chuckle* Exactly how my BF and I met, through similar interests, in our case Role Playing - LARPs, Live Action RP's, to be precise. Which for folks who don't know is a bit like acting with rules.
Is that like Dungeons and Dragons?
Yes, it's also a bit of improv acting.. I really quite enjoy it because it's a different way to learn how to interact with people. Or a controled way to practice interacting from a different point of view.
Not that I'm Pro-Cure or anything, I'm happy just the way I am. It's just something I enjoy. No need to worry about being 'different' because everyone else is as well.
A non-sexual, romantic relationship often involves hand-holding and hugging--more physical contact than a non-romantic one. But you're right--there's very little difference between that and a good friendship. Most of the time, it doesn't really matter which one it is, because they're just about the same. I suppose "Best Friends" would be the way to describe it most clearly.
It could be possible that there are just a higher percentage of gays who are out of the closet. I think maybe Aspies might have a higher tolerance for being different, since they've been different all their lives, and it was impossible to hide that. Eventually you learn to accept yourself and stop thinking so much of what other people say about you... That sort of thing ought to make it more likely that you can also be public with being gay.
I salute your bravery! Great that you manage to settle this ;D
I'm beginning to think that I'm gay (I'm aspie, btw), but I'm not sure about what to do. The reason I think I'm gay is because I tend to talk to women and girls like friends do (certainly not flirting with them) and although I've had the odd crush on a girl, it was more for what they were like rather than how they looked. The main reason for my thinking I'm gay though is, through all this, I seem to be "turned on" (or attracted to) pictures of topless men (like those you see in shops with males modeling shorts, etc.).
I'm worried to talk about it though, because I'm not sure how my parents and related family will react. Plus I have no idea what to do about looking for that "someone".
Any help/ advice?
You can PM me if you want to talk privately. Other then that, I have a feeling there'll be plenty of people offering.
I agree with you Fogman. The irony of Republicans is despite their ostensibly anti-gay political stance, a disproportionate number of them find themselves emrboiled in Gay sex scandals
Some of them are downright Creepy-like Mark Foley for instance who was try to hook up with a 14 yo boy. I have no doubt that Larry Craig is bisexual to say the least, but I DO think that bathroom sex is pretty freakin' gross and Im glad to see the Cops cracking down on it.
Might I add: Cho Seung-Hui was NOT an aspie. Though I cannot be sure and I very well might be wrong, he just might've been a paranoid schizophrenic.
I suppose the two could be confused, as you have obviously done in your own case.
Ahhh, NO; I have not confused to two of them. They are Quite distinct. BTW, YOU are the one who insists that Im homophobic.
I have said before that do not object to Homosexuality nor do I automatically dislike someone simply becaue they're gay. I guess you assume that only gays get to talk openly about gay sex but I dont recognize that arbitrary social rule. What the cops are after is not sex in the bushes, its bathroom sex(in Seattle, which is a lot more gay friendly than PDX. Not to mention PDX gays arent nearly as open about it).
And Sen. Craig is NOT gay. He said so himself
Well OF COURSE he said so! The question is, why do you believe him? Actions speak louder than words. The places in PDX that I cruise are in fact not gay cruising areas. You're thinking of Volunteer Park in Seattle. So why do you think my curiosity about such things is bad? Its rather ironic that you as an openly gay man act as though the details of gay sex and gay culture are some kind of forbidden fruit that only gays should ever inquire about.
Your actions speak louder than your words.
OH REALLY..........Guess what bub, you have no information whatsoever about what I actually do offline. There is no way that you could possible know. Surely you're going to think what suits your interest to believe but in fact, my personal life offline is unaffected by what you happen to think or say.
You've told much more in past threads than you seem to remember. And even without those unsolicited gems of inadvertent self-revelation, your on-line antics alone tell your sad story.
I guess you dont understand the concept, Bro. What you believe or dont believe about what I do offline is in fact YOUR problem.
It is not my problem, and I choose not to make it so. Have a nice day
Now, the rampant promiscuous stuff elsewhere mentioned in the book, yeah God says sin, I say it is out of line because it shows disrespect for other people
I totally agree.But GuessWho, why is homosexual promiscuity any worse than heterosexual promiscuity?
BTW Max-I know of no gay cruising areas in PDX. As for the one in Seattle, the cops certainy DO patrol gay cruising areas and frequently arrest people buggering in the nearby bathrooms