Aspies For Freedom

Grief over death pact parents

The daughter of a tragic Midland suicide pact couple was last night being comforted by relatives after learning of her father's death.

West Midlands Police confirmed they have now spoken to Lisa Ainscow, 31, who had first alerted them to the disappearance of her parents William and Wendy.

The Birmingham couple had flown to Tenerife and over-dosed on anti-depressants before swimming into the sea after running up huge debts funding their daughter’s lavish lifestyle.

Mr Ainscow died but his 65-year-old wife was pulled from the water. She was last night in a stable condition in a psychiatric ward in Santa Cruz, the island’s capital.

It also emerged yesterday that Mrs Ainscow may have to bury her husband in a foreign pauper’s grave because she has no money to pay for his repatriation.

The suicide attempt in the busy resort of Los Cristianos was the second time the couple, who had recently moved to Birmingham, had tried to kill themselves.

They had flown to Tenerife last Friday after running up debts because their daughter, who suffers from Aspergers Syndrome, is addicted to shopping.

Mr Ainscow, a retired oceanographer for the Ministry of Defence, died after a passer-by found him floating in the water on Tuesday.

Paramedics saved his wife, a retired supply teacher and former postmistress, after pulling her unconscious from the sea and pumping her stomach.

Last night West Midlands Police said: “We received a fax from the Foreign Office asking us to inform Lisa of her father’s death.

“She lives in Birmingham and we have now spoken to her. She has gone to stay with relatives.”

Lisa’s condition saw her obsessively demand designer clothes and expensive meals from her parents. She had almost 2,000 pairs of shoes and a collection of cuddly toys which filled a whole room.

Her father was jailed for 15 months last year for stealing £50,000 from his Post Office employers to meet his daughter’s cash demands.

The Court of Appeal later quashed the sentence after three months because of the exceptional circumstances.

Mr and Mrs Ainscow moved to Centenary Plaza, in Birmingham city centre, in an attempt to leave their old life behind.

Now Mrs Ainscow is facing another cash struggle to fly her husband home after she recovers.

David Ward, British Consul in Tenerife, said: “It would appear that Mrs Ainscow doesn’t have any financial resources left.

“If we can’t find any next of kin or friends who are willing to help pay for Mr Ainscow’s body to be flown back to Britain, he will have to be buried locally.

“But until Mrs Ainscow is better, nothing is going to be decided.

“She will remain under observation this weekend in the psychiatric wing of the hospital where she is being treated.

“We are hoping to speak to her again early next week.”

So, now I have the mental equivalent of cancer, I don't know what's good for me, and I suffer because I have something that makes me smarter and more aware of things than most other people, along with being controlled by Satan because I don't agree with the Bible.







Strange times, non?




Incase they havn't noticed, shopping is a regular past-time for a majority of NT females and some males as well. My girlfriend and my older sister(both NT) love to shop. I personally don't like shopping that much because of how fast it drains my money and because of all the decisions that need to be made.



Looking more in depth at the article:

I don't know about you, but I have only one pair of shoes, and a pair of sandals that I never wear. And among the most expensive meal I've had was at a Chinese resturant, which added up to little more than $50.

For those of us in America and Canada, that's: $92,733.22 USD and $110,775.55 CAD. Obviously, they spoiled their daughter rotten. See what the anti-spanking hippies have caused? If their daughter suffers from anything it's having her parents supplying her with her every god damned want/need. I very much doubt if she has a job.


People like the daughter in the article are the ones that give us Aspies a bad name.

I am wondering if the dad was stealing cash and blaming all the problems on the daughter. How could she make him steal for shoe money?

Good question. Which brings up a new NT syndrome:

Spoilus Childcoccus Blamos, in which the NT parent does everything they can to spoil their child, and then use it against them when they get in trouble with the law about it.




Hypothesis on the daughter: She was a spoilt greedy brat.

Don't know if it's relevant, but my mother was overjoyed at hearing I might have Aspergers Syndrome because it ment that she could leap on the bandwagon and blame her total faliure as parent to care for me properly on my Aspergers and shift all the blame off of herself onto me and convince everyone of the same.

I suspect that her Daddy dearest has seen the same light  

Because alot of NTs are ****ing dumb as hell. They obviously must of thought that she wouldn't be able to pay for her bills, so they supported her throughout life, which they shouldn't have.



Hell, NTs will ****ing support anyone these days. Anyone heard of Karyn? She racks up to herself $20,000 of shopping debt, and then asks people over the internet to float the bill for her. What, is she special or something? There are ****ing thousands of people out there that have more than 2x the debt she has. Do they complain and then ask people to pay it off for them? Hell no, they get the best job they can, work their arses off, and then pay it off over time. Of course, bankruptcy is just too good for Karyn. She needs people to send her excess amounts of money so she can pay herself out of what she got herself into.


This womans parents are typical NTs, under my views. And yes, I dislike most NTs.

We are currently being slated on another forum for being supremacist, elitist etc for some of our views.

KB you said- And yes, I dislike most NTs.

As far as I'm concerned you are a young person who hasnt had an easy life by any means, if you want to come here and vent your frustrations, give opinions and get it off your chest, that is fine. Where else would you have to go?
Are we supposed to sit alone at home frustrated and unable to express ourselves, because to say that you dont like someone isnt politically correct?

There are a lot of websites out there showing all manner of illegality, crimes, and horror.

If people dont like this website, why keep coming back and it reading it so that you can keep complaining about it?
Remember logic?

True, but if you are still in school like KB you have to inevitably have contact.

Yup. I'm the only Aspie in my school... and there are some students who have denied my having a form of Autism, as the only other Autistic person in the school is low functioning.



On weekends though... Oh god, the joys of silence...

I find it hard to beleive you are the onll Aspie in your school, unless there are only 100 in attendance. I can remember at least 10 of my old school friends being Aspie natured and that was just in my class.

But I did go to about 7 altogether :/

The school here is tiny. Maybe around 100 students.




Hell, it's Iowa.

I wondered about that too; fashion is an emotional, herd identification issue, and so not something real Aspies take to naturally.

Isn't it just another case of someone who behaves excessively or irrationally (?) is now automatically labelled AS? It seems to me this woman is excessively NT.

Same with the parents; reminds me of the story of a girl who was a phone addict, but instead of simply telling her, "cut your phone calls drastically or else", they used all sorts of sophisitcated techniques to make it difficult for her to phone. The daughter (in her teens) was given complete freedom to seek ways around this. Once while staying with an aunt, she found a way of getting around the interdiction, and ran up a bill of hundreds of pounds. Her parents found out and apologised to the aunt...in who's position I'd have responded, "no problem; here's you bill".

I find this case interesting because I do believe some aspies are quite materialistic in an autistic kind of way (not buying stuff to impress others but being really obsessed with technology or things). Asperger noted that aspie kids sometimes are collectors, as I was as a child. I have wondered if there is a relationship between AS and the not officially recognised addiction/mental illness known as "cluttering". I wonder if the aspie daughter (let's call her Imelda) was collecting shoes of many different colours to match her clothes.

The thing that I find unaspie about this case is Imelda's obsession with a fashion item. If this really is a case of a female aspie, the fact that she had such an obsession about food and fashion should serve as a dire warning of the destructive potential of an obsessive person who has not developed their intellect to any degree. A bright mind that is not educated and occupied properly can be a sad and dangerous thing!

I can't help wondering if Imelda did not receive enough taps on the tush or belts on the bum as a child. Would the "Ban smacking" advocates like to adopt Imelda?

Ooh yes; think of the happy hours they could spend reasoning with her!

Especially if they've experienced no restraint on their behaviour until they are old enough to talk; by  then, even if reasoning appears to work, it's only until they are out of sight!

If only I had a penny for every parent who swears blind "it's not my kids causing the problems"; you'd think eventualy they'd notice how little success they get when trying to reason with someone else's brats?