I don't know about any of you women here, but personally I know of no Aspie women who care about fashion. Do any of you insist on wearing the latest designer fashions? Do you want to have a huge shoe collection, or do you have one or two favourite pairs of shoes (extremely comfortable, don't have to be fashionable)?
Personally, I have never cared what was in fashion, I wear what I like. If I think it looks nice on me, but especially if it FEELS nice (soft and comfortable, never tight) then that's good enough for me.
The daughter doesn't sound like an Aspie to me. But even if she is, why in the world would her father be so stupid as to support her outrageous shopping habits? If he would have refused to pay her bills, and would let her face the consequences for her actions, she would soon have stopped. This case has me baffled.
Ursula
I'd suspect that AS was the least of that girls problems. The press report, however, will inevitably present the various facts in a manner that produces the best story.
As for hating NTs, it's easy to do, but not likely to further the cause. I just avoid people; not spoken to a soul for 24hours, this prevents me hating them :wink: .
So why the heck didn't they just cut off her money? Make her pay for her own stuff?
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Lili Marlene wrote:
Would the "Ban smacking" advocates like to adopt Imelda?
Ooh yes; think of the happy hours they could spend reasoning with her!
Reasoning works with some kids some of the time, but definitely does not work with all kids!
I had a discussion about just this issue with my ex and my younger daughter today. They said you can't reason with or try to discipline little kids but I said if you don't when they are 2 or 3, they will never learn and then they will probably become juvenile delinquents when they are older.
Reasoning is okay up to a point, but really small children generally do not understand reasoning - they need to be physically stopped from doing the wrong thing.
A daughter's obsession is shopping? How convenient.
Sounds like this woman has a compulsive disorder that manifests itself in shopping (same as compulsive gambling, sex, eating, chemical addiction etc) - problems definitely NOT limited to Aspies.
Possibly the parents started out spoiling her as a kid because they felt sorry for her/themselves. "Oh no, our kid's not 'normal' and people keep saying we made her that way by treating her badly, we'll let her have all these things to make up for it, then she'll feel better, and then we'll feel better"? I could see that reasoning happening, and then it got way out of hand.
On one level I feel a little bad for these people, because they probably didn't understand what they were getting into, but otherwise all I can think is what enablers they were. They fed her destructive habit just the way enablers of drug addicts feed theirs. Bad, bad news.
As far as Aspie women and fashion: I'm female and do not care one whit about fashion, never have (except for the time in 5th grade when I wanted Guess jeans. That was what all the "cool" girls who no one bullied or teased wore that year. With Aspie literalness I believed that if I could get a pair of those jeans everyone would automatically think I was cool and never bully or tease me again. If only it really were that simple....*sigh*)
If it's comfortable and not, say, bright yellow, that's enough for me. I find most clothes made for females either physically uncomfortable, too revealing, or too non-functional, so I wear a lot of guys' clothes.
She might have a shoe obsession... That's not altogether unexpected in an Asipe.
I agree though: These parents think their daughter is way more disabled than she is. And they're totally spoiling her.
Who wants to bet she's a sociopath, not an Aspie?
By the way, I don't think she needed spanking--I do think she needed discipline. Withdrawing priviliges, making a kid do extra chores, time-outs, and any number of non-physical punishments work just as well as spanking. With a kid on the Spectrum, who could be hyper- or hyposensitive to pain, you don't want to chance it with spanking anyway--for all you know, it could be totally ineffective or else excruciatingly painful!
Had to steal because their daughter had a shopping obsession? Excuse me if I am disbelieving! Who EXACTLY is controlling the money in that household?
Seems to me that the problem is her parents never learnt the word "no."
Yes, and if she was over 18 and got stroppy because they said no, they could have booted her out of the house.