This seems to be a case of"I'm mad at somebody or something else, so I'm going to throw a tantrum at the first person who comes near me". I've had people do this to me ,and i don't enjoy it. Also, facts straight, please. I have not seen anyone on this forum say that other people don't have problems, or even that there aren't people worse off. when did admitting that your life had rough spots (as everyone's does) equal "bitching and whining" ? are our lives, unlike all other peoples, supposed to be perfect, or are we not allowed to say we can have problems?
Rachael,
From one NT to another: You are correct your son is the unlucky one. With that attitude from his mother, he hasn't a chance.
Wake up!
Dixie
I would also consider that she was, in a lesser way, being abused by society... by the pervasive attitude that says an 18 month old child is a write off because he possibly happens to be neurologically atypical.
The sick joke is that she therefore scorns the one thing, acceptance, that will make a difference in her son's life. Thus perpetuating the abuse.
When Al was diagnosed, I felt the weight of this attitude. I cant say I really ever agreed with it deep down inside, but it took a long time to solidify that feeling. In fact, if it wasnt for the fact that Alex is so very similar to me as a child, might I still feel the way this woman does? I like to think not... in fact the thought makes me feel sick, but... ??
Perhaps we should introduce Racheal to John Best. They sound like they'd have a lot in common...
Alison :roll:
I think it's hilarious when somebody comes in, spouts a lot of offensive garbage and then says goodbye, I'm never coming back. If they don't like the site, why don't they just stop coming here? But no, seems they need to make a huge entrance and exit. I suppose it makes them feel better if SOMEBODY notices their existence.
Alison
::::::applauding AlGal1::::::::
Thank you, for posting your POV.
This may be a case of misunderstanding. Perhaps Racheal thought that saying I have problems, was a demand that she pity us, or that she thought our problems are exactly like NT's problems and we're complaining for no reason. i have had NT's think everything I did was only directed at them, and had nothing to do with what I thought or felt. And people will sometimes interpret any complaint about anything as a demand for pity.
LikedCalico, thanks for sharing your experience with your mom.
I'm trying to find the balance with my son: teach what he needs so that he can be self-sufficient and happy; leave alone things that are a part of who he is so that he can be himself and be happy. So, it was interesting and useful to hear how you feel about the balance your mom has chosen.
yes, if I had the choice and the accessories, I would kill all the NTs, Nuke 'em ALL! HAHAHA.
I dont choose to think like this. if you had any idea what I've been put through by NTs you would understand.
Constant bullying by gangs, individuals, getting jumped by my whole 6th grade class of NTs to name a few. Getting teased, made fun of by the whole class. Never been close to a female. imagine stuff like that, happening to you everday of your life.
Someone should have protected you from all that, or at least issued consequences to the perpretrators. When my son has issues with other kids, the parents get involved. None of the parents I know will tolerate their children being mean to other children. I am grateful for that; I know there are many parents out there who believe it's a dog eat dog world and it's just fine if their dear precious child is a bully. Fortunately, those kinds of families don't choose my son's school.
Some will say it's creating a false sense for a child to be protected, but I disagree. It's my JOB to protect my child. Just because he will someday have to deal with the wolves doesn't mean I shouldn't nuture and protect him until he is strong enough and has learned the right scripts so that the wolves can't destroy him.
Jason, not all NT's are alike. Just as all Aspies are not alike.
One of the gifts getting the label "Asperger's" has given us is an explanation to other parents and children. They HAVE to accept my son as he is, because he can't become like them any more than someone can change their skin color. Before we had the label, people just thought ... well, who knows WHAT they thought, but maybe they figured he was the way he was by choice and that with enough negative social pressure he would change. Now they know that can't be expected.
In the past year my son's sworn enemy number 1, who used to tease him, has become a friend. Not a close friend, but the boy is nice to my son, plays games with him and, most importantly, no longer teases or speaks bad about him.
People can learn. People can change.
Don't kill them off before giving them that opportunity.
Rachel seems to be having trouble dealing with the idea, that her child isn't going to be a perfect little Barbie or Ken doll. Someone she can drag around and impress all her friends with like a little accessory.
We're complaining because, there is alot of prejudice and stigma towards people like us out there. I wonder if Rachel ever had to deal with that, or if she's now coming down off her high from being lil' miss prom queen and head cheerleader, and can't stand the thought of not being little miss popular anymore.
It's one thing that her child may not be accepted by society, it's another thing that her child may not be accepted by it's own mother. She should be so lucky, that she is able to own a PC and come online and throw another drama queen hissy fit. Perhaps Rachel, you should get over yourself. Or you should've gotten over yourself before having children.
You're afraid your child might end up being a whiner? Instead of being a man, and holding all their emotions inside until they blow up? Maybe not processing your emotions healthily has gotten you this far in life.
You're acting like a child who's gotten a broken toy, and wonders when they'll be able to return it to the store. You can't return broken children, and who's to say your child is broken anyways. You're the one who wants to see your child as either perfect or imperfect.
You aren't exactly perfect yourself, talking down to others who may be like your child. Will you belittle them if they have a Autistic spectrum disorder too? Perhaps you need to talk to a professional, and hear from someone that the world isn't about revolving around mommy anymore. You might have a child who actually needs you, God forbid! There's nobody to yell at but yourself, you are upset because you're not having a jr. prom queen or football jock. Sorry that life has turned out so badly for you
Thanks ASira! :happyjump:
I reckon one can see autism that early in some cases. My lad was diagnosed at two, but by 18 months or so was quite distinct from his peers in his behaviour etc. certainly early markers like simon BC's CHAT would have pointed to a strong likelihood he was autistic.
My father spotted autistic traits in me before I was a year old - ie I had this absolute fascination with moths on the wall and tended to be very single minded in other ways too.
Very little was known generally about anything other than classic autism so it took years longer before I could be diagnosed with Aspergers.
Well, she never came back so I guess she was a Troll after all.
I feel sorry for this poor child, having a mother like that.