05-12-2006, 04:21 PM
05-18-2006, 02:53 AM
Thank you! Excellent article. :grin:
(We've been homeschooling longer than my aspie has been alive, and he's 12.)
(We've been homeschooling longer than my aspie has been alive, and he's 12.)
05-18-2006, 12:42 PM
I begged my mother to homeschool me when I was ten. She told me that she did not know how. We did not know anyone who homeschooled.
06-17-2006, 02:46 AM
here is what I wrote in another forum (over at wrongplanet):
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[homeschooling] is a really valid option for AS people because sometimes you might need to protect your kid from the rest of the people and you might need to have them study at another pace ... faster some things and slower other things...
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But I think bullying can be very distracting from one's actual education. Plus, from what I have heard, some AS people can learn more alone than in the classroom, and they should get that opportunity, as education and academia is what rescues many of us in adult life.
Oh by the way, I didn't mean to imply that homeschooling is only useful for AS people. I was homeschooled for academic and religious reasons, long before ever hearing about AS. Homeschooling has actually got a lot of positive applications, for many things that different kids might have going on in their lives.
But just like in regular school you have to teach the kids to think, not so much WHAT to think (although we should teach children good values, and to treat other people right), but HOW to think, so that they can figure out stuff for themselves and eventually have their own ideas.
BTW, I've been in both, and I felt much more brainwashed in public school than in homeschool. but that's another topic for another day.
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But I think bullying can be very distracting from one's actual education. Plus, from what I have heard, some AS people can learn more alone than in the classroom, and they should get that opportunity, as education and academia is what rescues many of us in adult life.
Oh by the way, I didn't mean to imply that homeschooling is only useful for AS people. I was homeschooled for academic and religious reasons, long before ever hearing about AS. Homeschooling has actually got a lot of positive applications, for many things that different kids might have going on in their lives.
But just like in regular school you have to teach the kids to think, not so much WHAT to think (although we should teach children good values, and to treat other people right), but HOW to think, so that they can figure out stuff for themselves and eventually have their own ideas.
BTW, I've been in both, and I felt much more brainwashed in public school than in homeschool. but that's another topic for another day.
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i went from homeschool to middleschool at age 11, because i was lonely and wanted to have friends, and it was a horrible experience (both sensory and social). it was the worst culture shock i have ever been in, and i have been to 8 countries.
i didn't know about AS until after graduate school, i just knew i was weird... so i hung out with the foreign kids. i did get a few things out of middle school: 2 good friends (4 if you count favorite teachers) and a love of Spanish, which my mother would not have been able to teach me at that time...
now they have a lot of groups, tutors, computer programs and other helps, meetings, even sports for homeschoolers. [i recommend homeschooling to spare kids] the pain of middle school. apparently things are even worse than when i was in school (80's), and worse for boys than for girls.
i don't mean to be alarmist or something. this is just my gut-feeling i'm telling you... there are many other perspectives to look at.
i didn't know about AS until after graduate school, i just knew i was weird... so i hung out with the foreign kids. i did get a few things out of middle school: 2 good friends (4 if you count favorite teachers) and a love of Spanish, which my mother would not have been able to teach me at that time...
now they have a lot of groups, tutors, computer programs and other helps, meetings, even sports for homeschoolers. [i recommend homeschooling to spare kids] the pain of middle school. apparently things are even worse than when i was in school (80's), and worse for boys than for girls.
i don't mean to be alarmist or something. this is just my gut-feeling i'm telling you... there are many other perspectives to look at.
06-18-2006, 06:01 AM
my daughter just spent one year in a school that stressed the importance of her going to school everyday for socialization. Between 8:00am and 3:00pm the kids had one measley 7 minute recess for the enitire day, when they had time! Since we all know that kids aren't aloud to sit and chat with their friends in the classroom, when exactly do they socialize and form "lasting friendships"?
Maybe my daughter doesn't want friends. What's wrong with wanting to be left alone? I think people who are hung up on socialization should be more worried about girls that want to be popular and accepted at any cost or guys that are bullies.Ironically, the "social crowd" is the group of people that usually pick on the kids that are different because of their own insecurities, so who really has the socialization problems?
Personally, I think it's a freakin' blessing that I have a daughter that could care less about being best friends with every girl in her class. Unfortunately, my other two girls are social drama queens, so she and I will just have to put up with it together.
Annie
Maybe my daughter doesn't want friends. What's wrong with wanting to be left alone? I think people who are hung up on socialization should be more worried about girls that want to be popular and accepted at any cost or guys that are bullies.Ironically, the "social crowd" is the group of people that usually pick on the kids that are different because of their own insecurities, so who really has the socialization problems?
Personally, I think it's a freakin' blessing that I have a daughter that could care less about being best friends with every girl in her class. Unfortunately, my other two girls are social drama queens, so she and I will just have to put up with it together.
Annie
06-20-2006, 11:21 PM
That article has some excellent points. My son attends public school but I also feel we've been extremely fortunate to be at a school that does an usually good job of teaching to the individual. If we didn't have that, I would consider home schooling. Maybe, lol. I probably wouldn't be very good at it. BUT, it is an excellent option for some families, and people need to a little more accepting of most parent's ability to figure out what their unique child needs.
10-13-2006, 07:52 AM
That is a good article. I really wish I was homeschooled for something like this.
I always go up to my mom when I need help with math homework. Even though she requests the answers to problems orally, which I cannot give because I do not process oral input very fast and my mom isn't very patient, my mom is far easier to understand than my teacher (during first half of year) and the textbook, because she is my mom and knows how to talk to me.
I always go up to my mom when I need help with math homework. Even though she requests the answers to problems orally, which I cannot give because I do not process oral input very fast and my mom isn't very patient, my mom is far easier to understand than my teacher (during first half of year) and the textbook, because she is my mom and knows how to talk to me.
10-20-2006, 10:07 AM
I wish I could homeschool Lauren. I researched it, but unfortunately, with both my husband and I working full time, we can't do it. Lauren didn't go to school today as she had a major meltdown last night and just couldn't face school today, so I let her take a de-stress day. I'm hoping Year 11-12 at the new private school she'll be going to next year will be an improvement, but she may just have to do as I did: grit my teeth and bear it.
Alison
Alison
10-20-2006, 02:41 PM
As I posted on another thread, I was homeschooled for a while during primary school. (back in the late 70's early 80's) Way way way before we had any idea just what my problems with school and the like were connected to.