I feel that it's unfair for adults to control an aspie when s/he's an adult if s/he's fully capable of succeeding in the real world. Unless he can't manage money or doesn't try to find a job in several years (however, a lot of normal people cant manage money worth a damn or don't find jobs either), then let the parents take charge.
Personally, if my mother decided to take power of attorney over me after eighteen, i'd hate it.
i have to say no. i think autistics mostly get to a point a bit later than the norm to get to self sufficency, and i think 18 is a bit young for that, especally for today's socitey. i think it's unfair for parents to take control of an adult just becuase they are autistic. that doesn't mean they are impared.
i'm 20, but i still have some things i need help in before i can go out on my own. i think socitey's expcations are too high to make kids be completly self sufficent by 18. i think it should be a case by case basis to determine when a child becomes resoible for thier own. some it may come at 18, or 24. if the person is impared to a point that they are unlikely to ever be independent, then i may consider. but to determine that at 13? that's way too young. i was way immature at 13.
my parents don't have legal control over me, i can move out at any time, but i'm not ready for it though. socitey assumes everyone reaches this at 18...
Aaaggghh, parental control simply because of a dx? Think how many NT (or presumed-NT, meaning not dx'd otherwise) are free to make colossal botches of THEIR lives. Think of all the ways one can mess up one's personal affairs, with or without having a diagnosed condition as a possible factor. Not fair to target people with AS. This boy's mom may simply be overprotective by nature, and his being an aspie gives her (in her mind at least) an excuse not to let go, thus a way to spare herself the anxiety most parents feel at seeing a child go out on his own. "Something might happen" to ANY young adult. Not being a parent, I admit I have no idea how painful it must be to worry every day whether your child is OK. But tying this young man to her apron strings for no clear reason is going to deny him his right to live the life his mother CHOSE TO GIVE HIM!
Hi Autismbass! :grin:
Good luck and keep at it...you will LOVE moving into your own place.
NTs are allowed to get away with absolute murder in our permissive society. So why is everyone so hung up over controlling autistics!
Because we have made a religion of medicine. At one time, we used religion as our religion, and people felt just fine using the power of the state to meddle in each others' lives on "moral" grounds. But that is now unfashionable. Therefore, to give vent to the religious impulse, we have now made medicine into one of our new religions. We can no longer fashionably say "He has to be forcibly monitored because he is immoral." Now, to remain fashionable, we have too say "He has to be forcibly monitored because he has been diagnosed with..."
But the thinking is identical.