05-06-2006, 09:16 PM
Hi there,
I'd be grateful for some comments on whether I could have aspergers. My husband I are fairly certain he has aspergers as he has poor social skills, obsessive hobbies, abnormally high IQ, and relates to things rather than people, I could go on..
Anyway, whilst researching Aspergers so I can try and understand it more, I've found that I can relate to an awful lot of what I have read too. I'm reluctant to believe I have Aspergers because I have worked in a social situation but as Will (my husband) explains to me, social skills can be learnt and it's true that they don't come naturally to me.
I always felt different at school, I found it incredibly hard to make friends and at playtime I'd sometimes sit on my own but usually I'd hide away in the toilets. Towards the end of my school years I befriended a few people with learning difficulties and even though it was hard to talk to them alot of the time, I guess I found it easier to relate to them even though my IQ is a little above average.
When I left school I went for an interview at my local Asda and was given a job as a greeter. I struggled with this as it meant talking to the customers at the front door but I guess I learnt what was expected of me and I coped ok. As time went on, I coped better and better and I became very good at my job (not boasting, just trying to fill you in).
Take me out of my situation though and I once again felt really awkward, it was the same every break in the canteen. I couldn't do other "talky" jobs at the store the few times I had to travel to other stores, I clammed up and was absolutely rubbish (apart from when I had to make a presentation and I'd memorised everything + read books on how to present myself).
The fact is though, I did manage to hold down a job in a social situation and I do know to ask people how they are if I see them and I'll try to converse with them if I have to although I don't like doing so.
These days I don't work because I have severe M.E and I'm not bothered that I don't see anyone other than my husband and Dad although I do miss my best friend who lives in Oxfordshire (we moved to Norfolk a few years back). Saying this though, I'm always unsure of how to act and what to say when she's around but it's great to see her for a while. I email her but I don't talk on the phone to her, or anyone (apart from when I'm playing TV quizzes and get on air with my answer on the phone). I've never talked on the phone, I don't know what to say or when to talk, ugh..
My obsessions are the internet (I'm always online when I'm awake, apart from when I have to rest), TV quizzes which I watch all day and birds.
I have taken the online Aspergers quizzes and score far higher than average on them all and I have answered tham according to how I felt before I was ill with M.E (as there are symptoms of M.E which would give a neurotypical a higher score).
Thankyou for reading, I'd really appreciate your views on whether I could have Aspergers.
I'd be grateful for some comments on whether I could have aspergers. My husband I are fairly certain he has aspergers as he has poor social skills, obsessive hobbies, abnormally high IQ, and relates to things rather than people, I could go on..
Anyway, whilst researching Aspergers so I can try and understand it more, I've found that I can relate to an awful lot of what I have read too. I'm reluctant to believe I have Aspergers because I have worked in a social situation but as Will (my husband) explains to me, social skills can be learnt and it's true that they don't come naturally to me.
I always felt different at school, I found it incredibly hard to make friends and at playtime I'd sometimes sit on my own but usually I'd hide away in the toilets. Towards the end of my school years I befriended a few people with learning difficulties and even though it was hard to talk to them alot of the time, I guess I found it easier to relate to them even though my IQ is a little above average.
When I left school I went for an interview at my local Asda and was given a job as a greeter. I struggled with this as it meant talking to the customers at the front door but I guess I learnt what was expected of me and I coped ok. As time went on, I coped better and better and I became very good at my job (not boasting, just trying to fill you in).
Take me out of my situation though and I once again felt really awkward, it was the same every break in the canteen. I couldn't do other "talky" jobs at the store the few times I had to travel to other stores, I clammed up and was absolutely rubbish (apart from when I had to make a presentation and I'd memorised everything + read books on how to present myself).
The fact is though, I did manage to hold down a job in a social situation and I do know to ask people how they are if I see them and I'll try to converse with them if I have to although I don't like doing so.
These days I don't work because I have severe M.E and I'm not bothered that I don't see anyone other than my husband and Dad although I do miss my best friend who lives in Oxfordshire (we moved to Norfolk a few years back). Saying this though, I'm always unsure of how to act and what to say when she's around but it's great to see her for a while. I email her but I don't talk on the phone to her, or anyone (apart from when I'm playing TV quizzes and get on air with my answer on the phone). I've never talked on the phone, I don't know what to say or when to talk, ugh..
My obsessions are the internet (I'm always online when I'm awake, apart from when I have to rest), TV quizzes which I watch all day and birds.
I have taken the online Aspergers quizzes and score far higher than average on them all and I have answered tham according to how I felt before I was ill with M.E (as there are symptoms of M.E which would give a neurotypical a higher score).
Thankyou for reading, I'd really appreciate your views on whether I could have Aspergers.