Yo, if auties are good looking, then what the hell happened to me?
We are the next step in evolution ahem
If u have no theory of mind therefore clumsy socially.What would be the telling points? looks and intelligence.
So if you are good looking your mating potential drastically increases regardless of social ineptitude. My father was good looking in his youth and so is my brother. I am however not there whatsoever.lol.
Look at blacks in america. At one point in history they were specifically mated in order produce strong offspring in some instances. Look how they predominate sports. This theory is controversial ,but there many whites and black who believe this to be the case.
Well, I think this guy is out to lunch with his 'theory' (I would barely call it a hypothesis, and even that is saying too much). In my family the first, second, third, fifth and seventh children of eight are Aspies (I am the second). Of all those, I would consider only one good looking (and it isn't me, but I don't look bad). In fact, my one brother looks nice, but is not good looking, and my sister is quite homely (and was already as a child). None of us were ever spoiled by anyone. But when we got past the cute little kid stage, all the aspies were treated much worse than the three 'normal' kids. And my sister and I were actually quite badly abused mentally.
Mind you, we didn't turn autistic because of the abuse, but rather, we were abused because we were different. And since none of us ever got any help whatsoever, we got worse when getting older, not better.
Ursula
Well handsomeness, what are those middle aged women doing? Liposuction, facelifting, botoxing.... all to look younger, younger means prettier, and wasnt a fact that autistic people tend to look younger then their fellow-aged-people (?)
Well i dont mind about this article, it's one of the few positive things i've heard
And everybody could be pretty, if they start working on their appearances. Arent we all pretty? :lol:
Well shouldnt you dye your hair then?
Of course he is wrong... it's one of the stupidest theories i've ever heard, i think.
My mom was wondering if it was "her fault" i'm autistic, cause she heard it could be caused by anxiety during pregnancy and if birth took too long (it took very long in my case). I'm keep telling her that it wasn't her fault, that i was just born with it, final point. Poor mom
Kahless, being a boy and having no sister, I guess you don't know much about girls.
I think girls are less often diagnosed because they are quieter, and are more easily hidden away. By the time I was 12, my mother tried to keep me in the house ("What will the neighbours think if a girl your age plays outside with the boys, climbing trees and playing soccer?! Girls your age belong in the house, helping their mother"), but I would sneak out anyway, because I wasn't going to be imprisoned like that!
My poor sister, on the other hand, was much easier to subdue. So, my mother managed to hide her fairly sucessfully. It's really strange my sister was never diagnosed with autism, though. Because she is much more obvious than me (she really looks autistic, fits the stereotype)! And the more I look at it, the more I think she isn't AS, but rather HFA. She is also the least intelligent in the family (even though still average).
Uschi
I have often heard the phrase "abnormally attractive" used in describing autistics and aspies. I think that his theory is bunk, but that is only my opinion.
Although I don't see it, I have been told that I am attractive. I also don't look my age. I think that much of it has to do with the fact that I am very symmetrical and have a larger than average iris in proportion to the white part of my eyes.
I am also not a first-born child. I am female. I don't understand the games that people play in relationships. It makes no sense to me. I will admit that finding willing partners for sex is easier for me than for a male. If I could just get past the socializing part of it. Needless to say, I have an almost obscene amount of pornography.
I do agree with the younger looking part. In my family especially the Aspies look younger than their age. But of course, since we are all immature for our age as well, that helps in making people think we are younger than we are.
Ursula
I do agree with the younger looking part. In my family especially the Aspies look younger than their age. But of course, since we are all immature for our age as well, that helps in making people think we are younger than we are.
Ursula
I think part of the reason we tend to look younger than our age is that our mannerisms could be those of younger people. It's also possible that we have fewer facial expressions and therefore don't form wrinkles as quickly as the norm.
We might even spend more time inside than most and therefore avoid much of the sun damage to the skin which causes faster ageing.
I think part of the reason we tend to look younger than our age is that our mannerisms could be those of younger people. It's also possible that we have fewer facial expressions and therefore don't form wrinkles as quickly as the norm.
We might even spend more time inside than most and therefore avoid much of the sun damage to the skin which causes faster ageing.
We went to a teacher/parent information night with Lauren last night. After we came back, Lauren gave us both a compliment: she said that her father and I look far younger than the other parents who have children her age, less bland and that we are far more interesting to be around. We were both pleased!
Alison
I was conventionally attractive as a child. As an adult a lot of people think I'm ugly.
I'm the oldest of three children and outside of my skin condition I've always been more or less attractive; it's usually my behaviors that put the opposite sex off (although this isn't so bad anymore). Interestingly, no one else in my family is autistic at all.
If there's any truth in it at all, it would be in a possible link to specific physical features that our culture tends to find attractive. And that would only be in some of us to begin with.