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aspie Wrote:
Has apies ever tried to get a girlfriend?

Is it possible?

Will NT girls accept an aspie?

As for my own situation, I am very childish in some situations, especially when sleeping (cuddly toys and fidling with sleeping quilt).

Will an NT ever accept that?


I see the question was posted over 2 years ago but to any other aspergians out there who wonder will they ever get married etc. or find a partner .... why not, I have got married twice.  First time to a non aspergian and second time to an aspergian man (me being female).  I was diagnosed with Aspergers at age of 39 and my Husband is self diagnosed.  We believe our Son will grow up and get married and our daughter is neuro typical .... but we love her anyway cause she is not like us (I am joking when I say that so please no come back!!!!)  .... anyway .... if anybody is thinking of emigrating to New Zealand with an Aspie child, don't bother .... !  If you want to write in and ask why, please feel free to do so!  Currently making our way back to the UK!  Cheers!

I'm not sure if I replied to this already...

Thats seems like an empty question.
I have had over 20 girlfriends and i'm only 26.
Aspies are sterotyped as more handsome than usual,
I thought.
There is obviously a sort of a duality with this issue.
I had a girlfriend for several years.  She's also an aspie, but I didn't realize that until way later.  Getting a girlfriend is very difficult for me.  I've even read all of the seduction material and have the real social dynamics dvd.  The information to me is extremely useful for a NT but not so much for myself because I can only act "normal" or fake for a little bit and then what after that?  It just seems pointless to pretend to be someone I'm not and then being unable to keep a relationship going.  If I just act myself it is unattractive.  I'm not a joker.  I'm not funny because if I want to be funny I have to act like I'm stupid.  I'm not flirtatious either.  Maybe I can be through emails where I can take a day or more to respond, but I'm not witty enough to pull these things out of a hat in real time.  so I've been girlfriendless for 4 years

Pakrat Wrote:
I think those seduction guides are rather gruesome really. It doesn't sit well with me to get people to pretend to be someone they're not. Dishonesty usually backfires sooner or later anyway.



It's funny because when I listened to the first series of these tapes, I got a girlfriend right after without having to use any of the techniques.  Getting a girlfriend is easy.  Getting laid is easy.  Maintaining a healthy relationship, now that's the hard part.

Correcting posture helps me a lot.  Just simple things such as keeping my chin and chest up, walking slower, and moving smoothly has made me feel more confident and it is noticeable to others too.
You're a lesbian? That's kinda cool. I just hope that you don't sleep with her because God intended women to be with men sexually. It says in the Bible that you're not supposed to have sex with someone of your own gender and I very much hope to see you at the Resurrection.
Oooh...awesome, Rain. Maybe I'll tell that to some people that think that the appendix is useless. And here's something about wisdom teeth. Their purpose is to be there after other teeth have been worn down, but they seem useless nowadays because we have dentists to make sure we keep our teeth for a long, long time and dentures in case they do fall out.

Grumpy_Old_Rossco Wrote:
Hey thank Rain. Hey I do OK with pain. To be honest the three things I am most worried about in order are

1. Whether my time or ability to spend quality time with my children will be compromised

2. How much time I will lose and be docked pay for from work

3. Whether my heart will be OK (Had heart attack on Mother's Day) Not fun.


For the first one, yes. You litterally cant be touched at all for at least a week. You cant lift, bend, or do anything that could cause the stitches to pop.

For the second one, a week at the very least. I had to take a month off because I ended up having complications bu average time off work is a week, week and a half maybe.

for the last one, your heart should be fine. Just as long as you dont do anything that will shock your body.

Marcia Wrote:

My grampa had his appendix in a jar, and my mother kept expecting to find it when she cleared the house after his funeral.  It was never found and I think my mother has a lingering suspicion that my granny may have accidently donated it along with jams and pickles to a church fete! Tongue


Can you really keep it? I wanted to keep my tonsils and my gallbladder but they wouldnt let me Sad

compgrokker Wrote:
Yes aspies can get a girlfriend (or boyfriend).  I've been with my fiance for 4 years now (our dating anniversary was august 28) and been engaged for almost 4 (sometime in december was when he proposed, neither of us remembers what day).  I also just broke up with my first girlfriend a week ago.  I'd gone out with her a few months, and she was trying to break me and my fiance up in hopes I'd run off with her and her husband.  Sorry, he was here first, and he's used to my little quirks and problems, and knows how to deal with me and take care of me.

Anyhoo, yes. Smile


That is very convoluted. I had to read that five times to understand it.

Shrek Wrote:
Rain are you Ocampo's clone?


Her and I are just very very very very very very much alike

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