Has apies ever tried to get a girlfriend?
Is it possible?
Will NT girls accept an aspie?
As for my own situation, I am very childish in some situations, especially when sleeping (cuddly toys and fidling with sleeping quilt).
Will an NT ever accept that?
I would, I think it's positively kowaii! (that's Japanese for cute, which if you're familiar with Japanese culture, it's like cute with extra sugar on top)
I sleep with a giant stuffed duck still, I don't see why people think it's so weird. If you have a nightmare, it's something that can anchor you back to reality. Like, in Japan, high school girls still collect stuffed animals.
Quintucket that sounds like the relationship between Mandy and Irwin, on The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy.
Sorry to hear that M, though it's sad they blame you in some way. He sounds like an aspie to me but everything you did seems normal and cautious.
I agree. Don't blame yourself. We females have to be careful, there are men out there who are not trustworthy, even though the majority are fine.
Alison
Boo! Gareth, we're not "mutated anythings". We are and always have been, human beings. All the so called "missing links" have been shown to be either frauds, diseased individuals or have been mistakenly identified.
Apes are apes, monkeys are monkeys, and human beings are human beings! That's it. Problem solved.
I agree that prostitution exploits women and men for that matter (as not all prostitutes are females - male prostitution is a grubby industry of its own). Yes, it's better that it's regulated and properly supervised but I totally disagree that it should be state-subsidised as somebody suggested elsewhere.
Alison, I agree. Our farmers don't get a cushy life and even when the government does "help" them, they make the forms so convoluted and hard to fill out that most farmers don't qualify. :mad:
I don't think there can be any comparison between farmers and state subsidised prostitution.
No. Anybody with the actual diagnosis of AS can NEVER get a significant other.
It depends. I don't think it's impossible but it's probably harder, particularly for the men.
So she doesn't now? I'm not sure if having Bipolar will cause a lot of troubles - I guess it depends if it is getting properly treated. I would suggest to just be careful.
But honestly, since you're employed you certainly
do have something to offer. I think online dating is a GREAT idea for a person like yourself adversarial. So if you can get past the stigma, give it a go
I also think you need to have realistic expectations. It can be all too common for Aspies to be too picky in terms of looks or other traits and it severely limits the field. I don't mean to accept the totally unacceptable but to be prepared to consider a brunette instead of just blondes or somebody a little bit older than you for example.
Thanks Max.
Oh, and my first gf was too much like Fiona. Fiesty, a potential temper, could take care of herself (and was briefly in the US Army, but not a Marine, sorry, and not nearsighted).
Oh, I thought Fiona rocked. Mind you, she was a bit peppery but sometimes that's what it takes to get things done.
Aspies can get a girlfriend but it's not easy and luck plays a big part in it.
Part of my professional background is in interpersonal skills training and there seems so little help for adult male Aspies to engage in full relationships with women that I"m wondering if there are training courses out there somewhere?
Nor any help for adult female Aspies to engage in relationships with men.
I did see a section in Groovy Druid's article on Wrongplanet that spoke of a hypothetical aspie woman learning body language to attract a man at a club but what he failed to realise is that most women wouldn't go to a club on their own, especially not aspie women.
It was well-intentioned I'm sure, but some of us would rather have hot bamboo slivers inserted under our toe-nails than go to a meat market (aka pub or club) on our own. The noise, the smells, the lights would be too much of an overload to us and we wouldn't like to be so vulnerable in a sea of strangers either.
If one woman is an asshole she is stupid.
If one man is a rapist he is a monster.
And how many people believe that females can be sexual predators sometimes?
Didn't it turn out that the Sybil story wasn't really how it was portrayed in her book?
No, but I read recently that much of it was probably that "repressed memories" stuff. That isn't to suggest Sybil wasn't abused but only that there was more to the story than we originally heard about.
There was a show on Pay TV last year about another lady with multiple personalities who, along with her siblings, had been starved and abused as a child in the UK. She is in her 30's and now has a carer but it isn't exactly a very functional relationship or one that's particularly accepting.
Despite years of intensive and expensive treatment, the lady remains angry and disturbed. What I fail to understand is why the authorities kept returning the children to parents who obviously could not and would not give even the very basics of care to them. Yet on the other side, a child can be taken off a mother because she is diagnosed with Aspergers because the child "might be abused".
I thought you said she had very poor health and was on disability support. She's probably got Buckley's chance of finding work. But with your wage, I'm sure you could have supported the two of you. Still, it seems as if the lady you are now seeing is more independent and might suit you better.