Aspies For Freedom

Of course, with a lot of persistence, integrity, and utter commitment to looking for a relationship.

Of course, with a lot of persistence, integrity, and utter commitment to looking for a relationship.  but however, if you already have one or a wife, it isn't acceptable.

I just found this forum; it’s so nice to interact with society for a change.

Just as background: I was essentially a member of the “Different” crowd in high school. After waiting and moving back and forth on the subject for four bloody years, I asked one girl out in HS during my senior year. It lasted one class period.

Go me!

hi
I'm not Aspie and I have a male friend who is Aspie and he would like a girlfriend too. I joined this site to see if there was a way of helping him.

Please tell me what NT stands for, I assume that's what I am and I'd like to know what it means.

Part of my professional background is in interpersonal skills training and there seems so little help for adult male Aspies to engage in full relationships with women that I"m wondering if there are training courses out there somewhere?

Elaine

Yes, aspies can get a girlfriend. I've been going out with the same girlfriend for..hmm..almost 19 months now. Of course, she had another AS boyfriend before me, so she at least knew what she was getting into.

"Can aspies get a girlfriend?" It's a question that I ask myself sometimes. I am seventeen, yet I have never had a girlfriend. I've never experienced a first kiss. I envy my best friend, who seems to have hundreds of GF's every year. One time, I was close to getting one, but in the end, I kind of screwed it up.

But this year, I think that I might just have a Valentine!

Yeah... but whether or not they're good ones is another thing!

My one is lovely... sweet, caring, a bit ditzy at times, cute and gorgeous with big bear hugs

Although if I hadn't met her I'd be quite happily single because I hate dating and all the social niceties involved. And randoms trying to kiss me... YUCK.

I don't think the problem is can you not get a girlfriend because of having AS, but can you find a partner who loves you for you. Teenagers are so fickle for the most part when it comes to flirting, romance, love and sex and in my experience a lot of it is about picking the person with the right image, not the right person.

But my teenage years were hell and I never cared about meeting anyone anyway. I only started seeing people because I thought thats what you did. But hey... two awful relationships, an enforced debt problem by one using partner, and a heap of trust problems aggravated by the other later, here I am in one with a woman I want to spend the rest of my life with!

So it can happen.

IARM... from my experience, a lot of women seem to say they want the quiet, dependable, loving, loyal sort... but it doesn't seem that cool at a certain age, so they want outgoing people. I don't know. I don't understand women sometimes. They scare me at times.

You aren't alone!

That kind of reasoning can be used to justify a paternalistic nanny state where people are told what they should and should not aspire to. If it is consensual I don't a problem with it. The state has no right to tell people what they can or cannot do with their own bodies.

This is exactly what has happened to me.

It's not comfortable to go anywhere without someone, and yet, I cannot meet anybody without going somewhere.

It's a problem.

Very cool. Best of luck to you both!

    

Happy Valentine's Day

Now, now. Play nice. Watch who you're calling a broad. I'm sure she's a very nice girl.


(Hehe! Sorry, couldn't resist)

Has apies ever tried to get a girlfriend?

The operative word here is "tried". I've spent the last two months building trust and affection with a woman, and finally got the guts to ask her out, and.......got rejected.  Really thought maybe I had a chance with her, but, such is typical for me.



Is it possible?  I wouldn't know, never had a girlfriend, or anything close to it.

Will NT girls accept an aspie?
I would hope so.

Will an NT ever accept that(sleeping issues, etc)?
I would expect that if an NT loved you enough, they would accept you, and continue loving you regardless of said issues