04-21-2006, 05:45 PM
08-17-2006, 12:52 PM
I am not sure that my husband is aspie too. This is a story about another guy who I know was an aspie.
I did have one aspie guy go goo-goo over me and get obsessed. I met him the first time and I thought he was really great. He was not aware of any "dating rules" and weirded me out. He called me a few times but because of my prosopagnosia I had no idea who he was. He also said some inappropriate things. When I saw him again he asked me to take off my shoes and socks (strange but I did it). Then he was asking for me to be alone with him in his room. I refused this as I do not like to get too physically close and alone with men who I do not know well. He was very disappointed. His friend told me "you don't ask a girl that until you take her out a few times." He had also told me that he had written me a letter explaining his feelings, which I did not get. He just put it in my book locker. It would have been better if he had given it to me personally or just tried to talk to me more before telling me his feelings. Ands then just have said that he would like to get to know me better rather than telling me that he was in love with me.
He is dead now and alot of people blame me for his death. It is not fair. I just need time to feel comfortable with people and trust them. I do not know that he could understand this.
I did have one aspie guy go goo-goo over me and get obsessed. I met him the first time and I thought he was really great. He was not aware of any "dating rules" and weirded me out. He called me a few times but because of my prosopagnosia I had no idea who he was. He also said some inappropriate things. When I saw him again he asked me to take off my shoes and socks (strange but I did it). Then he was asking for me to be alone with him in his room. I refused this as I do not like to get too physically close and alone with men who I do not know well. He was very disappointed. His friend told me "you don't ask a girl that until you take her out a few times." He had also told me that he had written me a letter explaining his feelings, which I did not get. He just put it in my book locker. It would have been better if he had given it to me personally or just tried to talk to me more before telling me his feelings. Ands then just have said that he would like to get to know me better rather than telling me that he was in love with me.
He is dead now and alot of people blame me for his death. It is not fair. I just need time to feel comfortable with people and trust them. I do not know that he could understand this.
09-02-2006, 09:08 PM
Louise18 Wrote:
whats an NPD?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
10-07-2006, 02:39 AM
Well, I don't see why any of my taxes should go towards state sponsored brothels or the like. If people want to go to those places, they should use their own money and not expect the taxpayers to fund them. Going to a brothel or seeing a prostitute is a want, not a need. There are way way more important things we Aspies need funded first.
How about vocational agencies, affordable housing, legal advocacy services, and pensions? I think state sponsored brothels should be right at the bottom of the list - what a silly, silly idea to think taxpayers should pay for them.
Most people who go to prostitutes are married, anyway.
Walking Bear, I wonder if your wife is aware of how you are thinking. If so, no wonder things aren't so good in bed for you. I wouldn't like to think of my spouse/boyfriend wanting to do it with other people and especially getting paid.
I also wonder if you really are Aspie. I would have a few doubts.
How about vocational agencies, affordable housing, legal advocacy services, and pensions? I think state sponsored brothels should be right at the bottom of the list - what a silly, silly idea to think taxpayers should pay for them.
Most people who go to prostitutes are married, anyway.
Walking Bear, I wonder if your wife is aware of how you are thinking. If so, no wonder things aren't so good in bed for you. I wouldn't like to think of my spouse/boyfriend wanting to do it with other people and especially getting paid.
I also wonder if you really are Aspie. I would have a few doubts.
04-27-2007, 05:06 AM
Well, what I want, I can't easily get.
And what I can easily get, I don't want.
And what I can easily get, I don't want.
04-28-2007, 01:30 AM
I wasn't exactly saying that it's better on the other side. I very well could have lost my virginity by now, but I'm pretty picky, you see. So yeah, that's mostly why.
You're right about the happiness thing, I think.
You're right about the happiness thing, I think.
06-13-2007, 10:41 PM
That's a pretty good point Max, although I'm not sure if that's what she meant.
Anyways sure it is possible, I've seen it happen numerous times. I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 13 (I wouldn't even be counting it if it weren't for the fact that it lasted 7 months, which is like being married at that age), but that's really only because I'm extremely picky/was afraid of rejection/thought that my life situation was inappropriate for one.
Anyways sure it is possible, I've seen it happen numerous times. I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 13 (I wouldn't even be counting it if it weren't for the fact that it lasted 7 months, which is like being married at that age), but that's really only because I'm extremely picky/was afraid of rejection/thought that my life situation was inappropriate for one.
08-22-2007, 03:54 AM
StuartM Wrote:
Snake321 Wrote:
But, I do think they should legalise prostitution. I also think prostitutes should be mostly paid by the local gov't rather than by the clientele, the client should pay a small affordable fee, seeing as ultimately prostitution grew as an answer to sexual deprivation, and most of the men not getting any are omegas, meaning not very wealthy.
Sex is not a right or even a genuine need and I find the notion that the state should be supporting an exploitative, degrading and misogynistic industry like prostitution which reduces people (mainly women) and their bodies to the role of a commodity to be absolutely abhorrent. And I don't actually believe there to be much of a connection between prostitution and sexual deprivation since surveys have found that the majority of male clients are already in a stable relationship - what they enjoy in our patriarchal capitalist society is the sense of power they have over the prostitute (they pay and they can do whatever they want with her body).
When your daughter is raped because some teenage male turns pedo or rapist as a man because no he's shut out of getting his sexual and needs for physical intimacy met, THEN you will understand. Don't give me this crap. It's you people that don't understand and thats why things like Virginia tech massacre happen, Cho most likely needed to be loved and have an outlet for his frustration.
You really need to read the criminal research on pedophilia and rape.
09-14-2007, 07:21 AM
I hear words without specific meaning flying around here.
Bah, and I thought all those 245 posts where about how aspies could get a girlfriend... I guess that would be too good to be true.
Aspies tend to take things really personally when on the web... Including me, but I've learnt to just leave when someone asks for a fight (rather than an informative discussion), it's quite simple on the web.
Bah, and I thought all those 245 posts where about how aspies could get a girlfriend... I guess that would be too good to be true.
Aspies tend to take things really personally when on the web... Including me, but I've learnt to just leave when someone asks for a fight (rather than an informative discussion), it's quite simple on the web.
09-14-2007, 09:36 AM
Ziyaret Wrote:
Max is a total coward.He's way to scared to answer PMs since he's aware of his own ignorance so he posts catty insults on this forum.
Am I still hearing taunting?
09-15-2007, 06:24 AM
You are both provoking eachother.
At least one of you have to quit it.
Dare you?
If you do it would be really cool.
At least one of you have to quit it.
Dare you?
If you do it would be really cool.
09-17-2007, 03:57 PM
Skotohelion, if you feel harrassed a great way to get away from it is to just leave.
09-17-2007, 03:59 PM
... the argument.
Sry, think you have some valuable knowledge and should be welcome at the forum otherwise.
Sry, think you have some valuable knowledge and should be welcome at the forum otherwise.
02-10-2008, 06:32 PM
phuriku Wrote:
As an extremely anti-social Aspie, I can assure you that it's definitely possible to find a girlfriend. The problem is keeping her. I'm three days from being 19, and I've had 3 "real" girlfriends
I'm 11 days from being 33, and I've had nowhere near as many relationships. Am I not anti-social enough?
02-14-2008, 11:07 PM
Pakrat Wrote:
Could you move overseas?
I once tried to live the ex-pat life, on an Erasmus exchange in Stockholm. It was hell.