Aspies can have perfectly good relationships, we just have to find the right person, just like (wait for it) NT's
The only difference is that there are just fewer people out there that are tolerant enough to be in a relationship with us... kinda reminds me of the whole sperm egg thing... maybe humans just have a two tiered version of that process... and now I'm going off on a tangent... yay....
Its all in how you look at it,
Its working okay for me...
I never had a g/f that was an aspie like myself. they have all been as you call NTs i have always put my heart and soul into the relationship and they always end up leaving, other times when I have broken up with an NT girl it has been because she expects to much or they don't apperciate me for me...
many of them had no idea that i am aspie since I am extremely high functioning they never had any inclination that anything was up... they did notice the traits such as one said once "you seem to put up a wall and only let certain people in, your such a great person and have plenty to give, why do you have to be so distant and cold towards people".
its hard for me to talk to girls, usually a friend hooks me up or the girl is extremely forward. (I am fairly attractive thus those that are extermely desperate throw them selves at me from time to time) NT girls send all kind of mixed signals that are hard to grasp, i try to talk to them but after awhile I tend to give up.
I would be intrested in talking to a few aspie girls, see if they are really any differnt from NT girls, but at the same time this idea of an aspie community is very new to me... i dont know if anything ive said is valid or not but thats my 2 cents anyway.
Personally I need someone that is really forward, I need the exact opposite of myself...
Also it seems that that is the only sort of social interaction that I can really say I enjoy, I'm not overly good at it and it still requires a fair amount of energy but its worth it none the less.
i have always found it hard,but i think i..may..have..achived..success.
i met this girl,steph,in the college library.she dresses all in black like me,and is very pretty.
and..i think...i may have..a girlfriend..for the first time.:shocked:
its not offical yet,as 'the question' hasnt been asked,but i know NTs rely on nonverbal cues to detirmine such things.
ask her, be derect, she may be to shy to ask you.
the phone book should have it, if you know her parents's names.
And yes, sexual intimacy is a need. For the reasons I just mentioned often women can't grasp that, the same as most NTs can't.
This is a very old fashioned idea, and completely incorrect. Women also need sexual intimacy. Many women do not get enough sexual attention from their male partners. It's a matter of meeting someone who has a similar drive, not "women can't grasp that."
But, I do think they should legalise prostitution. I also think prostitutes should be mostly paid by the local gov't rather than by the clientele, the client should pay a small affordable fee, seeing as ultimately prostitution grew as an answer to sexual deprivation, and most of the men not getting any are omegas, meaning not very wealthy.
What woman would be willing to work as a prostitute for "a small fee"? This is not a realistic or kind idea. Difficult work deserves a suitably high payment.
Your talk of women "not grasping things", and being made available to you for use for a small fee is dehumanizing to say the least. This extremely misogynistic attitude is far more likely to be the cause of your single status than AS.
I hate to say it but it seems that we arent too good with the ladies, the NTs at least, we just dont have the skills needed to bond & to satisfy their social needs. its like trying to lift something with no arms, we can want to do it & try our hardest, but it just wont happen.
It sucks I know, but thats life as an aspie
not true.
i currently have a girlfriend.i found me a cute lil goffik type (to match meee!)
yeah,it kinda freaked me out when she first hugged me,but i got used to it 
so hang in there!
I have a date tomorrow, with another Aspie woman.
Maybe this could be my third relationship...
Tim
good luck.
I have a date tomorrow, with another Aspie woman.
Maybe this could be my third relationship...
Tim
good luck.
aye,good luck indeed.i have a date today also..
may i ask for some advise here?
see a friend of mine, wants to date me. hes an aspie too. i'm not sure if i like him though.he also is being presured into asking me, by other friends.wants to be my prom date.<shake her head> hes coming off a break up too. i want him to back off at this point.i asked my NT friends they said that i ought to tell him so.if i be blunt i'll lose him as a friend.what should i do?