Aspies For Freedom

Other people have posted previously about having a teddy etc, and many aspies have found girlfriends, and even married (like me and Gareth).

Have a look at http://www.aspiefriends.apsiesforfreedom.com thats our friendship and dating site.

Recently two aspies got together on our chat room and we are really pleased for them. :wink:

bunnies and teddies

Mr Gareth snuggle them both in bedroom

I would recommend aiming for an aspie/aspie relationship - meow-mows purr together!

Humans, contrary to what some believe, are animals (we're mutated monkeys who had the intelligence to take over essentially). Specifically, we are mammals who reproduce sexually and therefore do have urges to satisfy.

Sex is a very real need (with the obvious exception of asexuals) which must be satisified for someone to be mentally healthy. Whether the person satisifies their sex drive via a consenting partner, pornography with masturbation or whatever other means doesn't matter. The point is that if the sex drive is repressed it does cause problems.

There is a difference however been a right and a psychological need, and further there is a difference between a psychological need and what you need to survive. Sex is not needed for an individual to survive in the same way as food and shelter and self preservation always comes before survival of species. This means that most people will not give up food and shelter to satisfy their sex drive but may give up sex in order to get food and shelter.

If you believe the government has a responsibility to look after it's citizens then it is tempting to argue that this extends beyond basic survival (it does to an extent) and therefore to providing for psychological needs. The question to ask here is "where do we draw the line?". With sex in particular having a perfect sexlife isn't required to just keep things in balance - masturbation and fantasy can do this. The other thing to consider is the extent of mental health problems which result from sexual deprivation. Often if the sex drive is unsatisfied but not actively repressed the extent of the problems caused if there are no other factors is more an underlying happiness than anything that would be considered clinical.

Very serious harm can come from someone having sexual feelings they believe are wrong but simply not having the sex drive satisified does not normally by itself trigger a pathology.

Is the state responsible for ensuring people are happy rather than merely healthy and surviving? Personally i'd say no. It would be nice if the state could ensure happiness for each and every individual, but it's impractical to do so without excessive resources and micromanagement of everyones lives.

The reason for it being illegal is due to the fear of exploitation. However, I would note that other forms of exploitation are completely legal. Whether or not the sexual element makes prositution a worse form of exploitation I let you decide. I would also note that regulating the currently underground industry would enable screening for those who are being exploited.

Would rather not get into a debate on evolution vs creationism here but quick comment - exactly what is an ape or a monkey? They're actually part of the same family of primate (I do not recall if technically apes are part of the monkey family or if monkeys are part of the ape family but I believe it is the latter).

Now back on topic....

Haplo this is an international forum. Australian farmers have it very tough. My father was in the army because he was conscripted for national service. Whilst posted to Townsville, QLD, his father in Rocky Gully, WA, was injured (run over by the water filled back wheel of a tractor) and unable to support the farm. THe army would not let my father go back and run it whilst my grandfather was fighting for his life in hospital and the farm was ultimately sold.
As for prostitution, all I can say is that any time the goverment tries to regulate or meddle with an industry they cause problems. I don't have an opinion one way or the other about prostitution. I personally see no real problem with it as it is. I don't have a problem with people running brothels, people buying services of a prostitute or people exchanging sexual favours for money. I don't understand it at the same time and can't see paying to have sex with a stranger is a particularly rewarding experience - but some people are very different to me!
As for the whole sex need thing. I enjoy sex. I function fine without it. I think society puts a lot of crazy values and expectations on sex. I was lucky when it came to sex. I somehow missed out on or wasn't aware of most of this garbage. I had very good text book knowledge of it and the vague idea that I would have a connection with a nice girl and it would happen. No fear, no anxiety and my experiences have been all very positive for both me and the partners involved. As for the whole need must have soon...rubbish. It can be one less thing to have to factor in your life. I don't know if or when I will connect with someone and have sex but I don't stress about it - I've got enough of other things to stress about.

Socially adept women tend to be the women I tend to have relationships with. I think it subconsciously may be me trying to make up for the shortcomings of my own social abilities - kinda leech-like.

If your wife did let you get a girlfriend…then you’d feel cheated; or rather as if you had cheated.

Pretending your wife is your girlfriend cane spice up your marriage (or so I‘ve heard).

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Where did that extra e come from?

cane...no I wasn't suggesting and S & M activities....although...

I’m afraid to say I think tenaciouscj is right Guesswho.

You really do need to throw away that list.

There are so many wonderful ladies out there--and to my mind, your ‘list’ excludes some of the best.

Switch off your head--open up your heart--it’s the only way you’ll find someone.

And it won’t be the someone you thought you were looking for.

Opps posted the above on the wrong thread---apologises.

What was the right thread?

spectrum child are you the same person that me and Gareth knew at Aspergia? If so, wonderful to see you (If not, nice to meet you)

I have hope for tomorrow night.

It wouldn’t be that hard for someone to move to relocate too or from the US, Canada, UK, Ireland New Zealand or Australia. We all speak the same language--have similar cultural traditions.
And aspies are use to being a little outsiders.