when someone says that it just makes me uncomfatble, when i was happy listening, and i want to go away...
also i find people think i dont understand, or that i dont like them...
I once overheard a friend of my brother (after his first conversation with me) asking my brother about myself: "Does he hate me?" I always knew I never leave a good first impression but I never thought this impression is as if I hate them all.... I don't hate anybody!
Hm.. this sounds a bit weird.. that you'd get into contact with NTs that much in the first place..
I can't remember when something like "you seem to be quiet" or
something similar would've happened to me..
In a typical environment where one would meet NTs would be school. It's
now my second year here (gymnasium), and I haven't gotten into any
contact with anyone there so far...
But, if you didn't want to talk to them, then why were you with them?
If I'm not in the mood to talk, I sit on my own. People assume if you are part of a group and you seem distracted it is because you are upset. They don't do it just for their benefit.
It kind of annoys me to sit with someone in silence (unless they are a stranger), because it is not something I am accustomed to happening.
What you say doesn't have to be useful. Its just that people aren't used to/comfortable with silences.
I think the "you seem quiet" remark is often an attempt at finding out why a person is being quiet - are they shy, wrapped up in their own thoughts, just not listening, etc? Except it's politer to say "you seem quiet" than "you're quiet, why?" - especially if you don't know the person very well, the second would be too intrusive