Aspies For Freedom

I'm a 15 year old girl and I'm probably an aspie, although I've not been officially diagnosed. Anyway, at the end of my math class, some boys first asked me to repeat something I'd done a few days ago(demonstrated with my finger the growth curve in humans while making a certain noise they enjoyed) and then the conversation went to my chinese class and I told them some phrases in chinese, and then someone asked me what a certain phrase meant. To me the phrase sounded like gibberish, but another boy said "you mean 'squash your bean/meat'?"(I didn't hear it very clearly). The boy who said the odd phrase asked me if my mom squashed meat, to which I said "yes, if she's making hamburgers" which made him laugh. I was getting a bit bewildered about what was so funny. Then he asked if my mom liked salami, and I said no. Then we had to go so the conversation ended. Do any of you have any idea what that was about?

If these boys bother you tell your teacher, they are not talking to you to be friendly, they are messing around at your expense.
Ignore them, avoid them, or tell your teacher.

Teenage boys are assholes. I think that 'squash your bean/meat' and 'salami' refer to slang terms for masturbation, which a lot of teen boys do. Boys are WAY less mature than girls, and they will find sexual humor in almost everything that sounds like it could be pervertified. When they ask you to repeat anything, just say no. This shit happens to everybody. You just gotta learn to ignore those dumbasses and try not to say anything which could be interpreted as pervy.

I'm a 15 yr old girl to! I'm probably NT though (thankfully I've never been diagnosed with such a grievous affliction. lol, j/k)
Anywho, to answer your question: teenage boys are assholes. They will probably try to make you feel uncomfortable and make you say things which they believe mean something different. So screw them, (not literally) give them a look. (if you don't have one, practice making  bored faces in the mirror) It usually sorts them out.

No, not all teenage boys are mature.



I'm living proof of it. NT ones maybe, but I'm not. At least, not publicy .





Btw, please don't stereotype an entire sex based on the actions of a few members. If everyone did that, I would be scared shitless of women because of feminists.

Heh... I'm a 15 year old boy. But no... I don't ask questions like that.

JUST teenaged boys, tali?

Sounds like bored teenage boys, looking for a cheap laugh at someones expense..ignore them!!  It's not worth the time or energy, high school is draining enough as it is!!

Peace

Greetings,

That kind of sounds familiar actually.  I remember getting asked odd questions like that when I was at school that seemed to amuse people for some reason.

I wouldnt worry about it.  Theyre just unintelligent individuals getting a cheap laugh.

This is interesting. In junior high, I used to get asked similar questions by older girls. I was very innocent then and they would say things that I thought might have been rude but wasn't sure and when I asked what they meant they laughed at me.

One day a group of these girls told a mentally retarded boy that I loved him and he tried to kiss me on the bus and I thought the bus driver was blaming me for encouraging him. I thought some of these girls were my friends but they played a really mean joke that was not funny.

I remember being subjected to similar lines of questioning, and I responded much the way you did, taking their questions literally rather than guessing that what they were doing was pointing out the double entendre to be found in whatever I had said.

In fact, ten years later, this still happens.  Thing is, in some circumstances, you can spin it in your favor by learning the inflection they have when they ask the question.  I can tell now when I am being asked to repeat something because I have inadvertantly said something funny.  If I can figure out what it is, I'll just laugh it off too (even if it's kind of stupid-it usually is).  However, that can backfire if they are strictly trying to make you look stupid, because then you've let the air out of their sails, metaphorically speaking.  It helps that nowadays, the people who do that with me are usually my friends, and I know for certain that they aren't trying to belittle me.

Let us assume, for the sake of argument, that their aim is not necessarily malicious, but possibly just mischievious.  I'd hate for you to learn to automatically assume that everyone's trying to make fun of you when they do stuff like that, because then you might then react in a way that would exacerbate the situation.  I have a friend who pretty much assumes that everyone's making fun of him all the time, and he has subsequently reacted with hostility to some harmless immaturity, with further negative results.  You can stll turn situations like these to your advantage, or at least break even, which is better than the alternative.

Essentially, if you have an opportunity to change the focus of their questioning off of your initial misunderstanding, and just pile it all on their silly inuendos, you can diffuse the situation without either party escalating to something unpleasant.  It can be a challenge, but challenges can be fun.

That's the kind of remark that triggers my asshole-meter. Generalizing over a given age group is almost as dumb as doing it about people with a certain skin color.

I also don't think being paranoid in unhealthy in the long run. Having been much bullied myself, I find that I'll assume the worst in many situations, and it doesn't do me any good to go all day wondering if some sly remark was really meant to hurt or if that strange look was indicating some negative remark left unspoken. It's not like you can just ask them, either, because if it was meant to hurt you, they'll never admit it, and if it wasn't they'll get upset.

If ignoring them doesn't help, the best way is probably to regain social balance, so to speak, by making some remark that will shove the embarassment over on them. You don't have to be mean, directly, just leave something in the air. Sometimes, at least, I've managed to avoid having people mock me by catching them off guard, making some comment that will get back at them before they're finished warming up. Sometimes, that will make them back off. Of course, that's easier said than done, and it could potentially backfire.

So: assuming the worst as a rule will only waste brain cycles, and sometimes showing people that your verbal abilities match theirs will stop them from turning gentle teasing into something more serious.

By "salami", they probably meant "penis". "Squashing meat" probably refers to some kind of sex act, ie. mutual masturbation or intercourse. They are making fun of you because you are naïve and they know the innuendo will mostly fly over your head. Next time, ignore them or tell them to back off.

I have similar problems, Ettina, though usually whatever it is I can't figure out isn't directed at me.  I'll be involved in a conversation with several friends and one of them will make some comment that they all laugh at and I don't understand it; then when I ask what it means they all look awkward and refuse to explain it.  I think most of my friends look at me as somewhat naive and annoying, but mostly good, and in need of sheltering (which I hate because I've been sheltered to some extent my whole life).

Sadly, I've learned that, to a male of a certain age (0-100), pretty much everything is slang for penis.