Aspies For Freedom

Why are people friends with you in one social setting but then ignore you when you see them in the street?[/quote]

I've been accused of being a snob for years when I'm actuaaly face blind. I don't know why NT's are that way but I probably wouldn't recognize my own mother if she changed her hairstyle.  :lol:

Thanks for the link, it is very interesting. :grin:

My fiance, (who's an aspie) teases me about it alot. I think I had forgotten I'm not the only one. We were driving to a friends house a couple of weeks ago and I saw this guy walking down the street. I said hey he looks familiar, turns out he was the friend we were going to visit. DOH! How emberassing!

Very interesting.
My friend is always having to say... I know you remember him, he had a white Ford pick up truck, we would see him here or there. The descriptions of the person never seemed enough I have to have other clues to know who the heck she's talking about - she never forgets a name or face. I always just thought I had a bad memory but reading this made me think it's just a selective memory instead. Or maybe the people I met were just forgetable?
Funny thing... if I see someone that looks a little like my husband (dark hair with a goatee) and I ask my son 'who is that?' he'll say Dad.

In response to Nuttyguy, I feel ABA has been given a bad rap. Mostly due to the poorly trained, unethical providers and the lax guidelines of the accrediation board. I believe you can find (though may seem rare)appropriate behavioral therapists who apply RULE #1. I personally agree with the sole use of positive reinforcement and kick anyone with use of or thought of punishment out the door.
I also agree do not agree it is appropriate to force any child to by "typical", what does that even mean...can anyone define it? I think those parents who would like to facilitate some basic life skills in any child who may lack them is certainly justified in doing so. However, like  everything in life there is a line of  appropriateness that needs to be carefully monitored.

As far as the board goes, they have recently responded to the problem of those walking around claiming "Behavior Analyst" status, while having absolutely no creditials. They are becoming increasingly strict and even auditing past certificant holders to ensure thier proper "behavior".
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Regarding the "face memory" thing.  I just read this recently:

William Butler Yeats, Asperger's Syndrome/Nobel Prize winning Irish poet, was once at a fancy banquet sitting next to another man.

He told the other man he did not like T. S. Eliot's poems and gave the man a list of reasons why.  Then he asked the other man's opinion.

The other man did not comment, since he WAS T. S. Eliot!!

Smile.

I have just started posting on this board - I pick up that there is a culture on this board that wasn't present on the previous board I posted on. I work as a nurse - there is a culture within nursing.
My son has a diagnosis of aspergers - I have strong traits - but I only know a couple of people with a diagnosis. There is tutor who gave a lecture at a class I was in today - he strikes as being very aspie -  (he also wears irleen (sp?) lenses) I have known him for awhile and I recognised very quickly that he was like me. We spoke today - we get on well - it's like a meeting of minds. Otherwise - I don't know other people who are like me.  So - how do you people identify with aspie culture. I don't understand.

My son was diagnosed with depression - extreme social phobia - nothing helped - he was heading towards destruction - eventually after hearing an ad. on the radio I took him to a doctor recommended by the autism society.  She was able to recognise aspergers. Since the diagnosis - my son has come off antidepressants - he has turned his life around with the help of knowing his true diagnosis and with govt. funded supports.
I believe the answer lies in adapting your life to fit the person you are - and self acceptance, but this does make it all sound all too easy.
Why don't you like ABA Gareth - what is the problem with this treatment? Seeking a cure is a waste of time - but there must be strategies that can help to deal with struggles.
(please excuse errors)

What is the risk of ABA? I know very little about it.

whoa,necro bump (not that i can talk XD)

ABA is an abusive therapy.i have experienced it,and i do not wish to talk about it,suffice to say no one should have to go though that.
think SAS induction.the shouting.the punishments.no stimming,no tapping,no talking except when prompted *shudders*
don't do it.i don't care HOW effective you are told it is,nothing is worth that price.

That doesn't sound like any of the ABA I've heard about. Were you a child or an adult when you were treated this way?

child.( i am only 17....)

as i say,i do not wish to go into in detail.
my subconsious has blocked most of the memories anyway,but i can still recall some.and no,its not worth it for the very little good it does.

(that said,the "no talking" bit might be a blurred distinction between ABA and the "***" lessons...but stimming was most assuredly out..)

I guess what I meant by "child" was were you 3 or were you 12? I haven't heard of any "shouting" ABA for pre-schoolers, which is why I wanted to know if you were older when this happened. The people I know who use ABA use it mainly as a "game" that is fun for small children. I'm not sure how it would be modified for an older kid. And I assume a bad "teacher" could really mess it all up.

yeah.and you know the REALLY bad thing?

bad,impatient teachers are more prevalent then good ones.

i suppose i was around...8-9 when this happened.my memory of the years before i was 13/14 is fuzzy to say the least.