I have only told a few very close friends. The only reason I felt comfortable telling them is because one of them, altough NT, has an aspie for a little brother and they seemed okay with him. So I told them. It worked out quite well.
I read one in a newspaper over here about a girl or boy i can not remember anyway and it said " "Mentally Incomplete" Honest no BS that is what it said i couldn't believe it.
I am trying to think what an appropriate (NT) response to a declaration of aspiness would be... I don't know the answer...I must lack empathy
More seriously, I would hope the person I just poured my guts out to would say something showing their interest, or something honest, such as "I don't know much about that, can you tell me about it".... Answer anything but "Oh, I'm so sorry".
Personally, I am not ready to discuss my mild form of AS with anyone except my spouse- and of course this forum.
I've weighed the idea of getting a diagnosis and having that in my medical record, just to keep people from bugging me at work... so that if something goes sideways, I am legally in a "minority" or "protected class" and can get the person to bugger off....That is only a good idea if I want justice rather than peace.
Well, I wanted justice because it looked as if I would lose my job if I didn't have a diagnosis. I knew I wouldn't be able to cope with job-hunting again so did everything possible to get a formal diagnosis.