10-13-2005, 02:44 AM
I would just consider that person a lunkhead and move on. My partner has a different approach. He would explain to the person that to have AS means he has a superior intelligence compared to all the normals.
10-13-2005, 02:44 AM
10-13-2005, 04:59 AM
EnglishLulu Wrote:
Anandamide, yeah, that guy was an buffoon, but I was only using that as an example to illustrate the point of appropriate/inappropriate responses to coming out.
I know that guy's was an inappropriate response, but what, in your opinion, would be an appropriate response?
I think in some ways I wish I could just let people know. Full stop. But it's not that simple, if you tell people something like that, they think you're expecting a response. I'm not necessarily expecting a response, but an NT is programmed to give one.
I guess what I'm trying to get at is: is there a consensus here as to what people think is an appropriate response, if so, what is it? And if there is an appropriate response, how can we communicate that to NTs?
I know that guy's was an inappropriate response, but what, in your opinion, would be an appropriate response?
I think in some ways I wish I could just let people know. Full stop. But it's not that simple, if you tell people something like that, they think you're expecting a response. I'm not necessarily expecting a response, but an NT is programmed to give one.
I guess what I'm trying to get at is: is there a consensus here as to what people think is an appropriate response, if so, what is it? And if there is an appropriate response, how can we communicate that to NTs?
I think the most tactful response is to wait for the person who has disclosed some difference or disability to say what his or her issues are, not to assume.
10-13-2005, 05:24 AM
Don't you find it amusing when they assume these silly things about AS? I find it very entertaining.
10-13-2005, 12:57 PM
I had several people at my volunteer job come up to me and say "I am sorry that you have brain damage." I have absolutely no idea why they said that except that most of them are teachers and just had completed a seminar on learning disabilities. So if my AS was outed I did not know about it. It just made me feel weird but I ignored it as I do with most comments I find confusing or insulting. It is just some kind of weird paranoia that maybe almost everyone knows that I have AS and no one bothered to mention it to me.
10-13-2005, 07:31 PM
I did not leave because they seemed to treat me better after that. Also people who would tell me to do something, sometimes stupid things, would get scolded or into trouble for doing that. So then a few people would be looking out for me.
I think that it was a step for more people to accept me as I am. It was not like oh she's so immature or stupid or does not try. What they could see in their AS students, they could see in me.
I do not think that I would "out" someone else with autism. I do not think I realized the full impact of my AS on my whole life until a few months ago when I started researching it. Yes, I did get a diagnosis twenty years ago but I did not know what AS was. I just thought I was weird and it could not be fixed.
I think that it was a step for more people to accept me as I am. It was not like oh she's so immature or stupid or does not try. What they could see in their AS students, they could see in me.
I do not think that I would "out" someone else with autism. I do not think I realized the full impact of my AS on my whole life until a few months ago when I started researching it. Yes, I did get a diagnosis twenty years ago but I did not know what AS was. I just thought I was weird and it could not be fixed.
10-14-2005, 12:11 PM
I do not think that *** purger is any better than *** burger. I just wish old Hans had a different father or at least thought he did.
10-15-2005, 10:45 PM
Well for now I think I will stay in the closet, or I mean fridge with my asparagus.
11-11-2005, 03:49 AM
Weirdness is what separates us from the regulars. I used to be ashamed of my Autism, yelling at my parents when they decided to tell people. I still do not like them making that decision for me, but I have learned to be who I am and enjoy it. I have yet to have anyone give any sort of horrid response to my Autism, such as calling it brain damage, and hope that I never will. Most people in my old school just didn't believe it.
11-11-2005, 07:04 PM
Moreover: Weird
I have just read a consumer report comparing and contrasting major retail brands of Christmas pudding.
Asda's Christmas pud is characterized as "weird and nasty" - a contextual example of weird in ordinary English usage.
Stella
PS: To US readers. Asda is a subsidiary of Walmart.
I have just read a consumer report comparing and contrasting major retail brands of Christmas pudding.
Asda's Christmas pud is characterized as "weird and nasty" - a contextual example of weird in ordinary English usage.
Stella
PS: To US readers. Asda is a subsidiary of Walmart.
11-11-2005, 11:08 PM
Food Digest!
11-12-2005, 01:34 PM
I'll have a look, Amy! Thanks! :smile:
Stella
Stella
01-03-2006, 10:40 PM
I found that if I put chalk on my lips, so it looked as though I had been drooling or foaming at the mouth, people were more able to accept me as one of "the mentally handicapped."
In general, I would say I think most people I meet (which is very few) are aware that there is something "different" or "not right" about me within five minutes and start giving me "funny looks."
Stella
In general, I would say I think most people I meet (which is very few) are aware that there is something "different" or "not right" about me within five minutes and start giving me "funny looks."
Stella
01-03-2006, 11:07 PM
One of the most interesting criticisms of the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual that I have read pointed out that the first edition, in, I think, 1952, listed only 16 distinct clinical categories of mental illness. Four editions later, it now lists more than 350 distinct disorders :!: It seems that there is now no area of socially undesirable conduct or ideation that has not been pathologized and claimed for the domain of American psychiatry.
One cannot help but think of the former Soviet Union, where political dissent was genuinely believed to be a psychiatric disorder (often "sluggish schizophrenia") by some Soviet clinicians at the time.
One cannot help but think of the former Soviet Union, where political dissent was genuinely believed to be a psychiatric disorder (often "sluggish schizophrenia") by some Soviet clinicians at the time.
01-05-2006, 01:38 PM
Peter Wrote:
I agree. I just wish the AS diagnosis would have been present while I was still a child. Had I been diagnosed with it when I was growing up, I could maybe have recieved some special attention or help for my condition and not have had to be bullied by the other children for "being different" all throughout school.
Playing the devil's advocate:
Perhaps you would of been treated worse. Perhaps you would of been exposed to bogus, quack and unproven treatments that are used today or worse treatments used in the past. You might of found yourself being given shock treatment with your parents blessings. And if the entire school knew you were autistic, you might of found yourself being bullied even more and the teachers letting them, contributing to it, or encouraging children to bully you.
05-23-2006, 02:05 PM
I don't know about that, but I wouldn't knock back offers of help unless the person acted as if I "owed" them for the rest of my life (I've had that happen sometimes). Being high-functioning, I can cope okay most of the time but certainly would appreciate help in organising for handymen when I need them to fix things and maybe assistance in accessing legal services.