I know exactly how you feel, people are always bothering me to "do" something with my hair, and I hate it. I should get highlights! And a fringe! Oh, and it's too long, I need layers in my hair. A different colour would be nice, apparently.
When will people realise, that my hair is there for *me*?
About 3 years ago, I cut my hair. And I mean, all of it. Right off. I was in a pretty bad state, and was unhappy about my appearance. Before that, I hadn't really bothered about it. Now? It's my pride and joy. I love my hair so very much :grin: and it's now halfway down my back.
I think long, sleek hair is beautiful, the longer the better! You can wear your hair in so many ways when it's long, even though it still looks stunning just left flowing down.
The last time someone demanded I got it cut, I promptly told them that "I grew it myself, I'm looking after it myself. You think I'm going to let someone hack a bit off? Get bent."
They soon left. :wink:
I like long hair and don't like the sudden wave of short haired styles being "the vogue" (I'm a guy who has a ponytail, well, nearly it's a bit scraggy right now though long enough give it a month).
It may be for religious reasons but it doesn't have to be just that, people are allowed to wear long hair, it's just the current "fashion" to wear it short thanks to celebrities, TV and magazines that tell you "This is how you must dress or behave, or you're unpopular" which is rubbish because if everyone dressed, thought and behaved the same, nobody'd stand out enough to BE popular.
As for the "charity", charity is only charity if freely given, otherwise it's pandering. If someone doesn't have something they can afford to give then nobody should ask them to give it.
If you like it, go with it.
I am a woman with long hair. I had it down to my hips but I cut it for my sister-in-laws wedding because my mother-in-law wanted me to. Finally I have it at waist length.
I am always having people bother me about my hair. I do not mind someone saying a compliment. I just say thank you. But what I can not handle is people telling me I should cut it and get a new style or cut it off and donate it to some charity. I know about this charity. They are supposed to make wigs for children with cancer but I researched them and I do not like them. The intentions seem good but really I think there are a shadey charity. If I tell people that I do not want to donate my hair, they are very rude. Telling me that I do not care about children who are ill etc. and tell me that I really do not need my hair. This is making me very angry.
I grow my hair long for religious purposes. Usually now when I go out I put up my hair and wear a hat. I wear a hat or snood or bonnet also for religious purposes and I am constantly having people criticize me for that. When people ask questions about my hair or headcover or modest long dresses, I really do not want to reply since I can not tell if they are just curious or hostile. What should I do? Sometimes I just smile and say "no English" and walk away. That seems to work.
Tell them to f*** off,your hair doesn't belong to anyone but you and people should respect that. :smile:
This time last year, my hair reached my waist. This was for different reasons than you, it was because I hate having my hair cut. In the end, I decided to have it cut, but that was because I wanted that, not to please anyone else. It's none of anyone's business if you want your hair long.
My daughter LOVES her long hair and she is ALWAYS being told what to do with it.
Maybe people are just giving friendly (unwanted) advice....and someday in the future we can use it...
Because my daughter gets so worked up even over a trim....I tell people our battles are better fought over something other than a hair cut.
We can't all donate our hair to cancer victims, and maybe our religious friend donates in a different way. Maybe she should ask them what have they done lately....for a ailing being.
That happens to me all the time. I have hair just above my waist and it is curly. Ever since I was a small child Ihad a phobia of people touching my hair, which developed into a phobia of hairdressers. I cope with that phobia by cutting my own hair. People are always telling me to straighten it or cut it short. Cant they see that I like it as it is? Besides, thats just because they all have straight hair and are vain. No offence to Aspies with straight hair.
Perhaps one could see the remarks about charity as "hidden" compliments, too. Then just to say "thank you" could be an appropriate answer. Apart from that – it's exclusively your business what to do with your hair. Where the h*** are you living – seemingly on a wrong planet
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I once was living in Taos, New Mexico, which is kind of a artist/hippie town where there are lots of free spirits and alternative lifestyles. Anyway long story short I saw this lady and she had grown out her facial hair to several inches of beard and had a bead or two worked into the hairs on her chin. I have to admit that I was a little shocked when I 1st saw her and it took me awhile to get past the "hair thing" but she was a nice, interesting lady. She was even multi-dimesional in that she didn't just adhere to the custom's of society and was doing her own thing. She did her "I am ME "thing and she seemed to be a happy productive human being. Why am I bring this up? This women accepted herself, she got over what people thought of her and had the confidence to live her life the way she saw fit, no matter what others thought she had the courage in my opinion to really live her life, and I imagine it does take courage of a kind, to go thru the day with a beard, with a bead or two in it and be a lady. Go lady with the beard!!
I grow my hair long for religious purposes.
Sikh?
I don't understand why any random person would tell anyone else what they should do with their hair. I do understand if the discomfort of the hair was brought up somehow, but I don't think this is the situation being discussed.
I can't stand my hair longer because people touch it. I don't know why they do, but they do. I had it ultra short (as a girl, and I mean about a half inch long) and one person I had just met (or possibly met once before, in-law relatives are difficult to keep up with) who said: "What did you do with your hair?" I had no answer for this. I don't understand why anyone should care.
Anyway, I did dye portions of my hair blue at various points in time. This did get people to leave the hair thing alone for the most part. I did get a few questions about if that color was natural and I always answered that it was and moved on.