i've just got off the phone with the SENCO from my 11 yr old aspie son's high school.
when he went for his day looking around the school, every teacher who saw him said he had been a delight, well mannered, participated well etc,
which is great and a joy to hear BUT..., as i told the SENCO when we collected him that afternoon, this is a very familiar pattern for jack.
exploring his new school, would have seemed like a big adventure to him that day,
but he must be given clear set boundries by the teacher and his LSA from day one and any innappropriate behaviour quietly discouraged, away from the main group. (he gets very immotional if you shout at him)
what have they done!!!!!!!!!
left the polite, well mannered jack to his own devices for the first 2 weeks and now he thinks the place is a playground
we met 3 times with the head of year and SENCO before he began high school to ensure he got the right support
what was the point???????????? :evil:
Have they had any problems yet?
If they do start getting behavioural problems then it will be up to them to find a solution as you have done all that you can in communicating with them.
yes. he has started pulling silly faces at the other children to get a laugh, putting his feet on the desk and disregarding the teacher and his LSA when asked to stop. he was eventually sent out of the class.
i met with the SENCO today and we have talked through the stratergies that we find work at home, but really he should have had definate boundries and teachers expectations set from the start.
It might not be too late for them to start being firmer, as long as they don't go from one extreme to another, if your son is like mine, it wouldnt go down well at all. :shock:
i'm worried that thats exactly what the problem will be now, and he will become stressed and upset.
i'm glad that we're being kept informed but it would have been nice if they had said "this is what he has done and this is how we are going to overcome it" instead of just sending him out of the classroom
That's perfectly what happened when we got a new guide after the summer holidays. It will take a lot of time do get this right again, but with my son and a lot of patience it can work.
Usually we should have an interview with the new guide in advance, but then the social office finally decided that we'd get a professional trained guide and the one we got was in very short time to be put on the job. We met him for about half an hour the day before school started. So there wasn't really enough time to tell what he'd have to watch out for and it was little time for my son to get used to the idea the guide to be had changed.
The first 4 weeks of school have been desastrous by now... I got to do a meeting with the class teacher, the guide, the boss of the guide and me probably next week (I hate the idea to go there!). The director of the school was again asking at a school for behavioral problems kids if there was something else to do or to go for my son (there isn't something as a school for Aspergers over here). And whenever school is bad I can feel it at home, for the whole day will be a mess with him being discontend with himself.
But today he had his first mathematics test (in whole life, for he's only 3rd year school) and he did good and it was the first good days within the last weeks. Bad luck he will be with his father today, so the father will benefit.
Sibylle
hi sibylle
it's great that your son did well in his maths test :grin: :grin: well done to him.!!!!!
you must now be strong in your meeting with the school, for his sake.
he has shown that with the right help he can do well.
only you can get him the help he deserves.
noone else will fight his corner like you.
good luck
i hope all goes well
alison
I think it is very rude for a teacher to shout at any child, whether or not they are autistic. I hated being shouted at, particularly when I didn't do anything wrong and/or didn't understand why the teacher was angry. It hurt my ears and my feelings and I wanted never to talk to that teacher ever again. I would not look at them any more.
And I'm only mildly autistic - it would be so much worse for people more severely impaired to cope with shouting.