11-26-2005, 08:30 PM
11-26-2005, 11:35 PM
Hi, I'm new also. I have been reading and studying. It is nice to finally understand why I am "wierd". I would love to have an official dx but not sure where to go. My 3 kids are different degrees of aspie and my 6 grandkids are also. I see myself in my 6 year old granddaugher. I also see my meltdowns in my 6 year old grandson.
I am 54 and started my journey on Aspie 'discoverism' about 7 months ago. I feel like my aspie traits have changed as I have gone thru menopause. In certain situations, I feel like I did as a child. Depression, oh boy, is that around. :lol:
I am 54 and started my journey on Aspie 'discoverism' about 7 months ago. I feel like my aspie traits have changed as I have gone thru menopause. In certain situations, I feel like I did as a child. Depression, oh boy, is that around. :lol:
11-27-2005, 06:36 AM
Amy Wrote:
"The aspies figure out ways to adapt"
I dont think thats universally true, in a study by Pat Howlin et al they found that some aspies lose skills as they get older, some remain the same, and some do develop more skills.
So it just depends on the person, and how their skills develop or wane.
I dont think thats universally true, in a study by Pat Howlin et al they found that some aspies lose skills as they get older, some remain the same, and some do develop more skills.
So it just depends on the person, and how their skills develop or wane.
I've found some things have declined as I've gotten older, while I've gotten better at others. Driving, for instance, has become more difficult and anxiety-producing, especially at night, in bad weather, on busy highways or any combination of the above. And I'm only in my 40s, so it's not that I've turned into the stereotypical "granny driver" because of failing eyesight or reaction time.
On the flip side, I have gotten better at reading people as I've gotten older. I have never been oblivious to nonverbal cues and body language, but I tend to take people at their word and find it very difficult to accept after the fact that I've been lied to, scammed or "played" -- a long story better suited to the thread on relationships and obsession.
11-27-2005, 10:32 PM
Lili Marlene Wrote:
NiiceLaady wrote
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...I tend to take people at their word and find it very difficult to accept after the fact that I've been lied to, scammed or "played" ...
Why accept it? Get even. Get them back.
I would if I'd been scammed out of money, but what happened was I got my heart broken. How do you recover damages for that? "Getting even" would mean continuing to let him take up space in my head rent-free. Greg Behrendt in the book "He's Just Not That Into You" puts it well: "He's not 'getting away' with anything. Everywhere he goes, he's still that same a**hole."
11/27 entry in my blog http://niicelaady.blogspot.com kind of sums it up if you are interested.
06-14-2006, 05:32 AM
I'm a 25 year old "NT" who's a school teacher for autistic children (9-12 years of age) and I absolutely enjoy working with them!
06-19-2006, 12:20 PM
I'm Cybermintz, I'm dyslexic although I have gotten my spelling and maths up to the same standard as an "average person". I know what it's like to grow up wondering why other kids seemed to 'get' spelling, reading, writing and maths so easily when I was trying twice as hard and only getting half as far. I was really relived when I got to eleven and found out about dyslexia because then I knew that there were other people like me that were having the same struggles.
I'm also very sensitive to non verbal communication and I've often wondered if this is a side affect of the dyslexia.
I'm also very sensitive to non verbal communication and I've often wondered if this is a side affect of the dyslexia.
06-19-2006, 01:47 PM
Hello to all these wonderful new members! :grin:
06-22-2006, 08:02 PM
I am I think, what you call an nt, in a relationship with someone with very strong as tendencies, hoping for support and understanding to stop our 5 year relationship failing. I work with and have a family member with as. I thought I had a good understanding, but it is different with a partner, (who doesn't believe he has as, just knows he is misunderstood). long story, but would love some help on how to be a nice nt! someone has already given me some links to books that I have ordered from Amazon, so cheers! (my partner does feel he is "differently wired" maybe he just finds the as term damning, and feels it is a bad thing, non-acceptance etc)
08-06-2006, 12:05 AM
Luai_lashire Wrote:
Hello to all these wonderful new members! :grin:
Greetings. I am an AS woman married to an Nt man (and very happy.) I am also moderator on an Nt\AS partners Forum.
Chosen Lass
(the only time i will post it here. <chuckle>
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