Aspies For Freedom

i normally just ignore them

I know what you mean Brightman, but what if you find it very hard to show facial expression, I find it extremely difficult to show my emotions like that, unless its a very strong, natural feeling.
I cant fake it.  :?

Oh come on, they're obviously laughing at you and find what you did amusing. It's not because they don't understand, but because many humans find that kind of thing funny.

There's a snickering in the class at whatever I say or do, which is much less to do with how I'm doing it, but more because it's me, they feel I'm supposed to be laughed at, so they make a deal out of it no matter how 'normal'. Maybe your incident has the same reason.

Greetings,

I know where youre coming from.  If it was an NT who drove the car into the barrier, they would probably laugh it off and other people wouldnt laugh at them so much - but its not because its a trivial matter or anything - far from it.

A crude analogy is that something like that would temporarily knock them out of their branch in the social tree.  All they have to do is climb back up into it - and most of them are not above ridiculing themselves to do it.  We dont do that.

And something else which I'll probably make a topic on later is a tendancy for us to remember aquard incidents and be haunted by them.  One thing which I have to remind myself of alot is that NT's eventually forget these things and are always 'moving on' - so if something is bothering you alot from years ago then chances are that the NT's dont even remember it unless its a significant event.

Hope that helps a bit.

I usually start feeling bewildered and continue on the way I was interacting with them before, and later analyse the situation to try to figure it out. For example the post I just made about teenage bopys in my math class. My best guess is that squash your bean/meat is slang for sex and I took it literally, which they found humorous.

I know, I have given up on that too, with the realization that it wasn't ever going to work out.
There is a chance of aspie meet ups at some point, which I would try, in the hope of just having an interesting conversation, but NOT in a smoke filled pub.

sjo, you could ignore the agony aunts and look at what aspies do, especially considering we are a social minority group, we will have our own ways of finding partners.
Many of us meet online and get together. There are 100's of aspie men out there who would love to meet a nice aspie girl. There are a lot of possibilites to chat, post, e-mail, etc. Might be worth trying.

Sjo anyone is a girl to me, I didnt mean to imply anything about your age.

You can meet someone just posting like this on a forum, it does happen. It doesn't have to be in a chatroom, though I think that gives much more chance. People sometimes pm each other to chat.

Actually, I'm very environmentally concerned.  I'm OC about recycling and one of my dreams is to live in a solar powered home and be totally off grid.  I'm also ashamed of the mindset in Washington about conservation and pollution issues.

One of my closest friends has a solar home and we love to visit and get ideas on the latest Green technology.  Maybe if we spent as much on renewable energy as our "leaders" do on a laughable missile defense system.......oh well, if I take this any further, I'll get into full blown rant and rave mode.  You get the idea!!!

Peace

As you said, it's a start, doing by example/deed and it's catching on slowly, surely because of that.  And it feels good to do so.  I should also add that it has cut down on how much garbage I throw out and how much I have to pay to get rid of it at the local transfer station. (dump/garbage tip)

Peace

Catching on slowly, out in the midwest and western USA, windmills are catching on.  Ex.  In some place farmer's are leasing small portions of their field for windwill set ups.  They don't take up much land, don't interfere with planting and harvesting AND garuantee a monthly income for the farmers with a lease.  The company leasing the land do all the maintenance.  There has been talk about windmills off the east coast of the US to take advantage of the land-ocean wind.   But, since most oceanfront property is owned by wealthy people, especially here in New England.  They are fighting any such project, as it would interfere with their views of the ocean. :roll:   Even though the windmills would be situated 5-10 miles out at sea. :?   Go figure, it's called the "NIMBY" effect (Not in my back yard)  I should add that these are the same people driving gas guzzling hummers and SUV's and complaining about air pollution from coal and oil fired electric generating station's. :roll:

Peace

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Peace

"People at work strangely consider laughing at me entertainment. I haven't been able to figure out why. When I ask them what's so funny, they only give me an intelligible response sometimes. Usually, they just laugh even harder."

That is very familiar to me, its not nice to be laughed at, especially when you have no idea why.

It's a very subtle form of bullying, almost passive agressive.  The only way I found to handle it, is ignore it, or just roll your eyes and smile, say "Whatever!" and do what your supposed to be doing.  Try not to let it affect your work, and document for yourself any observations that you can make ; 1) when this happens, 2) if it interferes with your work, 3) exactly what they say and do,  4) who starts it.  Nothing confrontational, just be as subtle as you can and build up a dossier of stuff.  Depending upon the relationship you have with your boss(s) or with those you have a good trustworthy relationship with, you could at some point make this known or seek legal advice.

Either way, be yourself and try not to let the idiot's get you down.  My first and last job as a male nurse in a busy hospital was full of these kind of people.  I'll never work in a hospital again, at least home health care or nursing homes don't have such a high concentration of those kind of people.

Peace

That someone doth be me, I sort of lump interests in with hobbies!!!
Environmental issues are a passion/core belief with me.  It's just something I do, a core value!!!

Peace