http://www.gettingthewordout .org/home.php (broken link)
"Living with autism can be a very cold and lonely life for a child. Not to mention, very challenging for the whole family.
Even more devastating is one day, that child living with autism, will grow up to be an adult living with autism."
Talk about giving a gloomy and negative picture to parents of the newly diagnosed!
The front page of the site has a very sad child, being torn apart from his parents by a paper tearing in two.
My son happened to see it and said 'its not like that!'.
That is without any doubt one of the most depressing sites I've ever seen.
I think it shows how much NT parents look to their own children to satisfy their own emotional needs, and when they receive a child who doesn't give them the "warm and fuzzy" feelings that they expect their child to provide to them, it's a personal catastrophe for them. It shows what a heavy load of expectations many parents place on the shoulders of their own little children. If there is one thing that I wish teachers would teach in parenting classes, it's the idea that children do not exist to satisfy the emotional needs and aspirations of their parents. Parents should look to their spouses to meet their emotional needs, and should fulfil their aspirations by getting off their butts and doing their own achievements.
AMY
the url is broken How am i supposed to find it eh? cut pase into address bar doesnt work
Joe, it is broken for a reason, type it in.
Joe, it worked when I copied and pasted it and took out the space.
If there is one thing that I wish teachers would teach in parenting classes, it's the idea that children do not exist to satisfy the emotional needs and aspirations of their parents. Parents should look to their spouses to meet their emotional needs, and should fulfil their aspirations by getting off their butts and doing their own achievements.
Amen to that.
AMY
the url is broken How am i supposed to find it eh? cut pase into address bar doesnt work
Excuse me,
I have to type ??? i mean wtf
cut and paste is now a no no??
You just typed that ok :wink:
I think it shows how much NT parents look to their own children to satisfy their own emotional needs, and when they receive a child who doesn't give them the "warm and fuzzy" feelings that they expect their child to provide to them, it's a personal catastrophe for them. It shows what a heavy load of expectations many parents place on the shoulders of their own little children. If there is one thing that I wish teachers would teach in parenting classes, it's the idea that children do not exist to satisfy the emotional needs and aspirations of their parents.
I agree parents should not burden children with their own needs, which just leads to problems. :evil: :roll:
Parents should look to their spouses to meet their emotional needs, and should fulfil their aspirations by getting off their butts and doing their own achievements.
I disagree, people in general should not burden anyone else with their needs. Parents and everyone else should look to themself to meet their needs. Burdening someone with ones needs starts a cycle of burdening anyone with ones needs, including children. Burdening anyone with ones needs leads to dependancy and other problems. :evil: :roll:
People should be taught to own their own needs, to rely on theirself to satisfy their own needs and to reliese that ones own needs can only be satisfied by oneself. :shock:
This is not to say people shouldn't ask for help. Asking for help is probably fine if the individual relieses that help may not be available or willingly given, and that people are not requered to do anything for them nor responsable for satisfing their own needs.
what is sad is that is made by the ASA
and it has william schafer in one of the videos.
They have to use these sort of depressing images to make money, and to get people to care. If autism was made out to be all rosy, then why would anyone give a damn? But I agree, having nothing but these images circulating around can't do very much for auties' own sense of self-esteem.
Enigmatic_Oddity wrote
They have to use these sort of depressing images to make money, and to get people to care. If autism was made out to be all rosy, then why would anyone give a damn?
I disagree. I don't believe that one necessarily needs to solicit pity to get people to aid some cause. Why couldn't people present an image of autistic/AS people as a valuable members of the community who are being prevented from realising their full potential by lack of provision, mistreatment or unfounded prejudice? Most advertising campaigns designed to reduce prejudice against disabled people in general have a theme that is similar to this. It's nothing new. I think that way of presenting a cause is positive, optimistic, truthful and respectful towards autistics.
Darkcode wrote
I disagree, people in general should not burden anyone else with their needs. Parents and everyone else should look to themself to meet their needs. Burdening someone with ones needs starts a cycle of burdening anyone with ones needs, including children. Burdening anyone with ones needs leads to dependancy and other problems.
People should be taught to own their own needs, to rely on theirself to satisfy their own needs and to reliese that ones own needs can only be satisfied by oneself.
I think it's a matter of degree. In any society the members are inter-dependent. That's what marriage is all about. Wife cooks dinner, husband fixes wife's car, both listen to each other's gripes and whinges etc etc.
I just don't think it's fair when parents dump a load of future committments onto their own offspring before they have even had the chance to get to know what kind of child they have. When I hear mothers-to-be saying they hope they will have a girl baby because they want to dress their child up in pretty dresses and curl her hair, I secretly wish that the child will turn out to be a solidly-built tomboy who's favourite pastime is wrestling with boys.