At my old school, people were complete assholes. They fought, yelled, and did other basic NT stuff. Now I am at a new school in a gifted program. People greeted me and were very nice. I was initially suspicious, but these people seem genuinely nice. I don't like that, it's freaking me out.
Maybe you will get used to it.
Glad things are looking a bit better for you.
At my old school, people were complete assholes. They fought, yelled, and did other basic NT stuff. Now I am at a new school in a gifted program. People greeted me and were very nice. I was initially suspicious, but these people seem genuinely nice. I don't like that, it's freaking me out.
You had probably made all these plans on how to get back at mean people, imagined scenarios and stuff like that. Now it's all different, and you are confused. Try to enjoy being treated well, and the possibility of even making friends! I am glad for you that finally you seem to be where you belong.
Perhaps the students at this new school are not only brighter, but more mature and have more common sense than those at the other school.
The only friends I've ever had were people from my high school, which was an academic selective school. The environment in such places is so much better than what you'll find elsewhere. People are more interested in their studies - if you're even remotely into any of your subjects, or into particular extracurricular activities, then you've already got a common interest with people there. I gained a lot of respect at school from 'showing off' my abilities in extracurricular work, and that opened up opportunities for me to make friends.
Also, don't forget that if these other people are 'gifted and talented', then chances are they too have been victimised in the past. They know what the experience of being bullied is like, and so they're highly unlikely to turn around and bully others.
Perhaps this will be a turning point for you. Try not to be too cynical just yet, because you may miss valuable opportunities. I hope that things go right for you.
I don't know how to post this without appearing racist BUT ...my daughters had terrible problems with bullies at school. As an aspie, this bullying was very hard for me to tolerate. I took them out of school and homeschooled for a year because of the bullying. The next year I switched my children to another school. Most of the students at their new school are East Indian. In fact, my eldest daughter is the only white child in her class! We've only had a few problems with bullies at the new school, and it's never been a big deal to clear up.
Here in Canada there is some effort in schools to intergrate First Nation's teaching in the curriculum. My eldest daughter's teacher is First Nations. My daughter was put in that class because on her father's side there is some First Nation's heritage. But my daughter is the only caucasian child in her class, the rest of the children are East Indian. And no bullies! It's wonderful.
My point is that from my experience I think that alot of bullying has to do with the way children are taught to behave in Western culture.
What is First Nations?
First Nations is the correct term for our indigenous people. You know, North American Indians. They were the first nations to inhabit this country before the Europeans.
My eldest daughter is taught by a woman who is First Nations, but the class itself is comprised almost entirely of East Indian children. I know it's a bit confusing. But it works for us very well.
First Nations sounds a bit politically correct, do they like being called that or do they prefer being called Indians?
First Nations sounds a bit politically correct, do they like being called that or do they prefer being called Indians?
That's the term that is used everywhere. They aren't Indians. "Indians" is slang name. It comes from the fact that Christopher Columbus landed here and he thought he'd found a new route to India but he got it wrong.
That's the term that is used everywhere. They aren't Indians. "Indians" is slang name. It comes from the fact that Christopher Columbus landed here and he thought he'd found a new route to India but he got it wrong.
Actually the term now in use is Aboriginal peoples.
Yes I've heard that Aboriginal is a term that includes Metis, Inuit and non-status. But First Nations is used by most people that I deal with. My children's school teachers say First Nations. And the term seems to change from one government to the next.
First Nations sounds a bit politically correct, do they like being called that or do they prefer being called Indians?
That's the term that is used everywhere. They aren't Indians. "Indians" is slang name. It comes from the fact that Christopher Columbus landed here and he thought he'd found a new route to India but he got it wrong.
That's interesting, in the US, they are known as "Native Americans" which means the same thing.
The only friends I've ever had were people from my high school, which was an academic selective school.
I went to an academically selective school - one of the top girls' schools in England, if you give a damn about league tables - and I hardly had any friends. I only got invited to two parties after the age of 13, and the only "explanation" I got for this social exclusion was that I was too "academic", whatever that meant.
I didn't do music exams, apart from Associated Board numbered grades which didn't count towards my school's league-table position.
In the UK a public school is actually a private school.