SunnyDaze, I hope you take this as a compliment, when I saw this -
I never ask him to go to social events. Socializing bores me to tears. Yes, he always forces me to go to his silly, goofy events. I just deal with it. Sometimes I will take a magazine or book with me so my brain doesn't explode from the lack of intellectual stimulation or tedious small talk.
It reminds me of aspies :grin:
Well, thanks (I think) :lol:
I think I am too dishonest to be an aspie, though. I'm quite a great deceiver and liar :twisted: (remember I'm only semi-proud of that). And I don't mind a social event that I am interested in - like a Comedy Club or getting hammered at home with friends (I love Rum & Coke)!! :lol: :wink:
I just can't stand being around people who have nothing better to talk about than who got voted off the Survivor Island or who's sleeping with who on Sex and the City (sorry I shouldn't put down the shows - I've never seen them!)
You guys - I LOVED these quizzes!!
I still have no idea what I am though :lol:
Here are my results:
Wired AQ test - scored 14
Guardian EQ test - scored 53
Guardian SQ test - scored 46
Leif's Aspie quiz - NOW=124 / EARLIER=134
Okay, I admit it, you are NOT an Aspie.
Ok, well now I'm a bit disappointed. 
But I'm sure you fine people will allow me to stick around anyway, since I have a lovely little girl on the spectrum - who today fed my dog (the one she is so mean to) an entire box of Ritz crackers.
Of course you can stick around! .....................Sounds like she starts to be nice to the dog (even though I am sure you didn't appreciate him eating all those crackers) :roll: .
Good! I'd like to stay, as I have many more questions! :lol:
Yes, she is being nicer to the dog for some reason - just in the last day or so.
My next question is VERY embarassing!! :oops:
Why is my daughter interested in private parts?
She definitely has no idea what their for (besides using them for the bathroom). She has never been abused in any way.
She just has a curiosity for other peoples privates.
How can I get her to stop feeling people up? :oops: :oops: :oops:
Her ABA people want me to say a firm "No!" but I think that's silly. I wouldn't yell "no" at her if she touched a non-private part of someones body, like an arm. I don't want her to think privates are bad - just private. Just like it's ok to pick your nose - but just not other people's noses and not in public, you know? :grin:
(edit) I should add - she still picks her nose in public!! :o
Would it be possible to take some photos of the places you have to visit with you child.
Paula, I think this is a great idea. I could make picture books of all the places she has to go. Once she is familiar with a place she is fine - so I could get her familiar with pictures. Doctors office, grocery store, etc. Great idea.
Thanks!
And a question about the way this board works - am I cluttering it up? Should I be posting each question as a new topic?
Why is my daughter interested in private parts?
She definitely has no idea what their for (besides using them for the bathroom). She has never been abused in any way.
She just has a curiosity for other peoples privates.
She is probably wondering why girls and boys are not the same. You can buy children's picture books that describe the parts of the body in simple terms; maybe that would help?
She seen her brother's privates before - she never grabs him. Never grabs at males - only females - boobs & crotches (can I say that here!?) :oops:
She doesn't do it all the time - just maybe once a day or so. Should I ignore it? Should I say "no!" ? I have been saying "no, that's mommy's" or "No, that's private" - but that just makes her laugh. I have one friend that is especially well-endowed up top and whenever she comes over she always keeps her arms folded across her chest for the entire visit!! :oops: :oops: :oops:
I think I am too dishonest to be an aspie, though. I'm quite a great deceiver and liar :twisted:
I just went back & re-read all the posts & when I read this I shocked myself! I just want to clarify - I'm not a liar or crook or anything. It's just that when I was a salesperson I really shmoozeled people alot. It was my job - part of the reason I left that job was because had to sell stuff I didn't believe in. Phew, got that off my chest!! :grin:
I don't want to hijack SunnyDaze's excellent and helpful thread but if anyone has any advice for me then I'd be glad (and thankful!) to discuss it via email or PM :smile:
Kev! You are not hijacking!! :grin:
I think you need to change the tag in your signature line though!! :wink:
You might have to talk with your friend (and other females who come to see you) before she comes over next about your daughter's touching.
All my friends are really good about my daughter & her boob fetish. Sometimes I think their reactions can reinforce her behavior. For example - my busty friend always shrieks then laughs when my daughter gives her a squeeze. I'm sure my daughter likes the attention.
slap her hand (not enough to really hurt, but enough for her not to like it), as you say 'no!' in a fairly stern voice (but again, not loud or fierce enough to frighten her). It might be the only way to get the message across to her that what she does is inappropriate.
I would have never ending guilt if I ever slapped her - even lightly. I couldn't even consider that - but I can do a firm "no". I think she'd just laugh, though.
I just read an account of one autistic ladies life yesterday (Kanner autism, she is nearly 60 now). She was saying that she didn't understand the meaning of words until she was six. When she learned phonics, and started reading, finally she realized that all those sounds had a specific meaning, and she figured out language. Maybe your daughter hasn't really assigned meaning to many words yet, and truly doesn't understand what they mean. You might need to try to teach her to read for her to get it, too.
I know she understands language, she just doesn't understand certain abstract concepts like dreaming or the question "why" , etc. She understands "no" but she is a rebellious little thing. I am wondering if her crotch/boob grabbing is an attention thing? Trying to get a rise out of someone? I will have to pay more attention to when she does it - but now that I think of it, I think she does it when I'm paying attention to someone/something other than her. Oh! She's devious just like her mother!! :shock:
Ok girls. I see your point. But I think I have been reading her wrong, though. She has figured out she gets a reaction from touching someone there as opposed to a hand or shoulder, etc. I am going to have to think this through. As I mentioned before it was her ABA therapist that wanted me to yell "no" at her. At first I thought this was inappropriate because I wouldn't yell at her for touching a non-private part, so I've never even given a firm "no". She doesn't severely misbehave and she may have thought this was a game. I will start giving a firm "no" & let you know what happens.
Thanks for all your incredible insight!!!
I was recently diagnosed as having Aspergers and when I was 6, I got a fascination with feeling thighs. It was so embarrassing for mum. She told me "you shouldn't take liberties" with people. I didn't know what that meant but fortunately, I seemed to grow out of that particular obssession................
.............This treatment with adversives? I wonder if the "noxious smell" referred to meant that the therapist would fart if the child did something they weren't supposed to.
It's been awhile since I've been here! So I won't feel bad if no one sees my post here. Anyone can answer if they see this....
Tenaciouscj, You said you were recently diagnosed Aspie. Were you a late talker? Or are aspie's never late talkers? Do most autistic people learn to speak fluently? My daughter is learning to speak but it's "patchy" (I guess that's how I'd describe it). She is getting really good at receptive language. She mostly uses single words and some phrases she's been taught. She seems really "with it" I strongly feel she in not *** (like her IQ test says).
Tenaciouscj...... you said "fart" LOL. :lol: